My Closet Bi Dilemma

[jude swings]

dude you've gotta tell girls that you're bi. they have the right to know and it's disrespectful to hide it from them. you sound totally cool and i know you don't mean to hurt them but girls will be really devastated if they find it out later. with me only a couple of girls said they didn't wanna go out anymore but most of the others including my gf that i've been with for 3 yrs don't mind. she was actually happy that i told her the truth. good luck dude!

 

[jude swings]

and props to your girlfriend for not having any hangups about you being bi, sounds like an awesome girl.

i am curious though, does it still have any effects on your relationship, or is it just completely a non-issue that's never even brought up anymore?

dude it would prolly be an issue with her if i wanted an emotional relationship with guys but i don't. i just like getting head and topping them. i never kiss them or give them head so she's totally cool with that.

 

[Slips01]

I would say follow your heart on this one. This is a topic that many guys have to face. If they should tell or if they shouldn't. Just to let you know having a relationship with a guy would not close the door on you dating girls. But I would wouldn't tell them. I say that only because girls dont know how to take it. But im a person who just keeps a lot of things to myself

 

[jude swings]

I would say follow your heart on this one. This is a topic that many guys have to face. If they should tell or if they shouldn't. Just to let you know having a relationship with a guy would not close the door on you dating girls. But I would wouldn't tell them. I say that only because girls dont know how to take it. But im a person who just keeps a lot of things to myself

i get that you keep a lot of things to yourself but girls have the right to know so they can decide whether they wanna gonna out with or not. to me if you don't tell her that you're bi then you're doing the same thing as these married straight guys who fuck dudes on the down low. if you present it in the right way she should understand and may even say it's ok.

 

[red1979]

I think you should be honest with your girlfriends. Honesty is very important in relationships. Otherwise it could come back to bite you in the ass (not in a good way). If your girlfriend finds out any other way than from you it's a death sentence for a relationship.

I love the fact that you're totally faithful to your partners. Not enough men are.

 

[jdbadboy]

Your closet bilemma.

 

[Slips01]

i get that you keep a lot of things to yourself but girls have the right to know so they can decide whether they wanna gonna out with or not. to me if you don't tell her that you're bi then you're doing the same thing as these married straight guys who fuck dudes on the down low. if you present it in the right way she should understand and may even say it's ok.

Damm dude you got me on this. Knowing that married men are out there having sex with guys and not telling there wifes is kind of bad. But this is hot to me as well. Just something about guys who date girl they knowing or not knowing that is hot to me. Like you dating you gf and banging dudes to is hot as hell to me. But I see where you are coming from.

 

[mike_n_herrin]

i'm going to disagree a little bit with what others have said. When you start dating someone regardless of gal or guy do most people tell them about all their past sexual relationships? I don't think most do. So if you are exclusive when you are dating someone (guy or gal) then during that time it doesn't make any difference if you are gay bi or straight. so no i don't necessarily think they deserve to know, but if the relationship moves forward and you are getting serious with someone then you may want to share that with them. I mean i wouldn't think you'd want to get married and them not know you are bi.

 

[blknsexymale]

I don't think a guy needs to tell a girl that hes bi if he doesn't want too if hes being faithful to the girls he dates.