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My coming-out to my sister through a video !!!

Mehdilicious

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I intentionally made sure my sister would watch this video of me and my boyfriend having fun in Toronto going to a gay club and filming strippers and I'm sure she saw it ( I told her to go check my youtube channel to see vids of my vacation and she said she did ) , but she never spoke any word of me being gay or asked who was the guy in the video, she just said nothing, I don't know if she's too nervous to talk about it or maybe the footage was not that much of a give away !
fast forward to 6:17 !


I mean it's pretty obvious ... my sister is 16 y/o, she's a grown up now. so I think she did get what it'S about but she just doesn't want to confront me about it !


[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E6677Dni6Dk[/ame]
 
No offence, but you probably freaked her out a little bit. Why did you choose to go this route instead of just talking to her?
 
Elwood said:
No offence, but you probably freaked her out a little bit. Why did you choose to go this route instead of just talking to her?
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I just did not feel like talking ! I wanted to fake it a little bit and just act like I did not want her to know and she would just come across the video and find out and then ask me and I'll be like " Oh yeah, that ws my boyfriend! isn't he cute ? " LOL . I know it's weird , but that's how I want my coming out to be !

and yes she might've been freaked out ! hahahaha
 
OK we all have different ways of approaching it. I just hope you are planning on talking to her now.
 
Or maybe she didn't really watch the whole movie .. just saying ..
 
She may feel as though she stumbled upon it by accident...maybe your plan worked too perfectly. ](*,)

You may need to leave more evidence around for her to find...but if you want her to know, I'd suggest just talking to her about it.

Explain that you wanted her to find out on her own and talk to you about it, but you realize that she's important to you and you want her to know everything about you because you're family. An alternative would be to have your boyfriend over...eventually she'll get the idea that you two are together just by watching how the two of you act with one another.

I updated my facebook and myspace to reflect my choices and that's how I came out, so I can't be one to talk about putting yourself out there. But from where I am now, I can tell you that you'll probably be happier about it. You should also prepare yourself that she is less than thrilled and uninterested in knowing that aspect of your life, which could also be a reason for the silence.

Lastly, she may already know and just think that it's nothing to talk about. She could love you and accept you and just be waiting for a discussion. Either way, it's your move.
 
Thats original..

But just like corny said.. maybe she didnt watch it till the end ;)
 
Hey dude, I didn't watch the beginning and started 6 mins in as suggested. I don't know what the first 6 minutes were like but maybe she only watched a bit of it and never saw the gay bits. Although having said all that, I think that the gay bits might not be enough evidence for some people. She might choose to see that as high jinks. Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable asking you about it because then she is effectively opening up the whole topic when it is really better for you to do that generally. At least then you will get to control how you tell it. I agree with kinetic that you should invite your bf over and let her see you guys and how you are around each other, and that is probably an easier way of breaking it to her.
 
If you want her to know tell her. In the meantime aske her if she watched to whole video.
 
Maybe she never saw the video all the way through?#-o I know I wouldn't lol I hate watching other people's vacation videos lol.
 
I agree with some of the responds. It's a very nice video but who really watches something like this from start to end? Even some family members won't. So don't be too sure. Try to talk to her that'd be better. If you're scared than don't say anything at all until you're really ready. Trying to show it off in a video doesn't exactly say 'ready' to me.
 
yeah , you're right guys ... maybe she didn't watch all of it !

and yes I'm not really ready to tell her, that's why I dont talk about it ... maybe I need to think of a better give away ! ummm ... let's see ... any recommendations ?
 
Mehdilicious said:
yeah , you're right guys ... maybe she didn't watch all of it !

and yes I'm not really ready to tell her, that's why I dont talk about it ... maybe I need to think of a better give away ! ummm ... let's see ... any recommendations ?
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I think you should act gay-ish if you already don't. Talk and laugh like a gay person would. I do this to my sister. She's not saying crap about it but I know that she suspects it but just shutting up about it.

And I also talk about a lot of 'guy' celebrities all the time, making her see that I show more interest in them than 'girl' celebrities. This should definitely work.

One thing I also do is care about the way I look. I put effort when I go out and I dress up, do my hair and stuff. Normally straight guys don't spend too much time with things like this.

Basically, there's a lot of ways to give hints. lol! Good luck! ..|:wave:.
 
Please don't take this personally, but she didn't watch the whole thing. It was really kinda boring for the first six minutes and then when your boyfriend pops up, there was nothing about it that said "Look! I'm gay!" The only really gay thing in the video was the dancer at the club. And even then, I'm not sure that's enough of a giveaway.

You know how you make sure she knows from the video that you are gay? At the opening of the video, with no music playing, have a shot of yourself and your boyfriend and you say to the camera, " I'm Mehdilicious. This is my boyfriend (insert name here) and this is our trip to Toronto!" And include at least one shot of the two of you kissing.
 
If I had an older brother who sent me that video when I was 16 year olds I would've been "OMG! I'm so jealous!"
 
and yes she might've been freaked out ! hahahaha
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Mehdilicious said:
..and yes I'm not really ready to tell her, that's why I dont talk about it ... maybe I need to think of a better give away ! ummm ... let's see ... any recommendations ?
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Why make it a game? She's your sister.

I think if you treat her with respect, she'll treat you with respect. Talk to her.
 
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