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Gooey45

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My best friends name is dave he and I have been very good friends for about a year and a half. In that year so much has happened that right now im drunk mad ass hell at him and I'm thinking of cutting him off for good.Forgive me if i dont capitilize my i's lol. It's a long story but a good one so bear with me.It all started around september of 2005 i had a small crush on this guy named steven in my job and i sorta knew he was not only into women because of the way he acted.He was one of daves best friends at the time (i used the term best friend as someone you always hang out with)and all the time dave would do gay things with steven i mean one day steven was in the hospital and dave was trying to kiss him in the mouth etc...so lets continue dave is stupid i mean he is the type of person who makes me have to lower my mental standards(meaning i dont act like i know it all etc.. im really smart :P i think)immediately i had a crush on dave and would push myself to be his friend .Everything clicked and forget steven hello dave. So me and dave would chill just me and him (keep in mind we are both super closeted because of family circumstances)and talk about girls etc.. what i would notice is dave staring at me at all times he would get hard when he was around me and have to leave quickly etc..My mom decided to move from the country and he freed up an apartment in my house so she left me the job of occupying it so during this time i met another guy at work named mike. Mike also gave me gay vibes because at work he would grab me and dave (we alsways chilled just us three) in ways a straight guy wouldnt grab me.And i asked mike and dave to rent out the apartment in my house.All the time thinking hey this be a great setup to get dave out of his shell.So what eneded up happening was me and dave still had this hidden lust for eachother but mike was on the prowl he snatched dave and i got the bad end of the stick having to get kicked out of daves room any time mike entered. Dave fell in love with mike and he ended up paying a high price because mike is bisexual and didnt really like dave he only liked dave sucking his dick i witnessed it once lol it was funny how they tried to hide it.So months passed and i grew into a jelous asshole who wanted to keep mike away from dave vise versa. Mike in time was turning dave against me and making us fight all the time( Mike is a real asshole you'll get the full story in a sec)To the point where david became a true enemy and started saying things like "i never cared about you etc.".I was very hurt so in turn ,i turned mike against david telling him dave said this and that about you(im very vindictive and i know how to manipulate people is a flaw and a blessing)So time passed and we managed to kick david out replacing him with another and cut david off.I was stupid and i realize this now and i took the chance and turned the tables on mike told dave what happened made me seem as the nice guy and ended up fucking around with david(dont ask me how it ended up with me giving dave head and david giving me some great head too :P).Dave flipped at me (maybe cuz im too aggresive)and i opted to completely cut him off. I said the only way to end this crush is to start a new one, so i kinda forced myself into having a crush with mike.It did develop and it did help get over dave but i didnt really lust after mike like i did with david. After a while one of my friends got locked up and we needed money to bail him out (he ran from the cops in MY CAAR!!!!)so I went up to david and asked him for help he quickly agreed but yet again i witnessed he was still in love with mike , because he just worried about mike being allright with him.He helped us out and we bailed him out and brought him into the group again.At first i was an asshole to him, but later on i started to fall again,This time though he did not have that attraction towards me and he simply acted as if i was always coming on to him.And he would lay next to me but always act like he was keeping his distance even if i didnt try anything and i didnt.Time went by and december came in dave was getting a xbox360 and the same day he got it i invited mike and him and acouple of other friends over we got drunk we got high and mike stole davids xbox.That there eneded davids relationship with mike completely.So me being the stupid ass i am decided to go after david again this time making him admit what happened between us and admit what happened between him and mike.I told him mike told me this and this about you and him he perfectly acted it out and said he didnt do anything which is bull because i wasnt the only person who caught them(and after everytime dave and mike had a big fight dave would write mike a long love letter that made me so mad i would want to scream.)so dave denied it and emphasized his personal space with me . Now whenever i call him he sais he wants to chill with me acts very attached and gets mad at me when i cant chill with him but when i want to chill with him he always acts like im his little bitch and doesnt pick up the phone.But when i dont call him he gets mad and starts having a bitch fit.The problem is im so in love with this bastard that i call and call and call getting myself all mad about him.I want to get over him now because hes to dumb to notice what hes missing out on.But how do i do that what are steps you take in getting over someone fast!!! Thanks for reading my sad story.(worst part is im a dreamer i always have dreams and the worst ones is when i see dave with mike and not with me)Im stupid in writing this but im drunk and just got home so im gonna write my feelings anwer if you can. have a nice noche.
 
The only thing I can say is get them both out of your house.

Forget any involvement, sexually, with these two.

You said you have to dumb yourself down to one or the other (or both, for all I know.)

Find someone with whom you can be you.

But seriously hun, get rid of these people. I only see them sucking the life out of you. And not in a kinky way.
 
so lets continue dave is stupid i mean he is the type of person who makes me have to lower my mental standards(meaning i dont act like i know it all etc.. im really smart :P i think)
wading through your post I can see the part where you're lowering your mental standards; the part about being smart doesn't come through as obviously... meaning, if you can do better, why don't you?
 
Wall of text assaults my eyes.
My eyes suffer ocular damage and recoil in pain, and suggest you use paragraph spacing next time for easy reading.


Anyway, it seems to me that both mike and dave are leading you towards drama no matter what you do. I wouldn't pursue a relationship with either of them.
 
men are like taxis....get out of one and there is always another to get into



MOVE ON already.
 
Gooey...I suggest you go back and read what you have written, maybe two or three times. The solution to your problem is right there.

I agree that it is one of the saddest stories I've ever seen posted.
 
lol thanks for the advice I kinda did answer it myself and i kicked them both out a long time ago. The reason i still hang out with dave is because i cant get over his dumb hunky personality i hate it and he is very sensitive and he lost his mom when he was twelve etc...I feel sorry for people and thats it im down the drain.I tries to use paragraph spacing but its still not working let me try again.What im really asking is i know i have to get over him but how.Usualy i fall for someone else and bam it works but im tired of playing russian roulette i guess ill have to only chill with girls for a little while.
 
You say you are 'lowering your mental standards', but I'm not sure I get that out of your post at all. I'm sure there are some very nice girls out there who function at the same intellectual level as you.
 
what i mean by mentals tandars is I act dumb.I have always done this to make friends with the people that attract my attention smart people dont attract my attention i dont understand why but i always feel like i rather chill with someone who is simple minded and just wants to go out drink etc.. Than someone who is on it going to school good job etc.. is a stupid personal preferance i have one more year to get my bachelors i have a 25 dollar an hour job I pay my bills etc.. But all of my friends are bums who dont have anything . I think I find friends who i feel sorry for because i feel sorry for myself.Is the misry loves company .I know what i got to do now. I posted this because i was mad and drunk , I needed to vent it out and see what others tell me .
 
You have a lot of problems around your friends. The reason you're around them is because of sex/love/lust. Not being confortable and numerous difficulties like that is not good; it's not something friends should continuously have. Being seperate is hurtful, I understand. The best thing, most challenging, and depressing is to discuss your problem with them, if you cannot, seperate from them.
 
I can forgive the lower case 'i's', but couldn't you press 'enter' every now and then?Sorry, but you lost me about half-way through...
 
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