My first time...

[jeffhardylover8472]

alright, so ive been talking to this guy for the last few weeks and about a week ago we finally met up. i took him back to my place for a movie. i was really nervous. few minutes later he put my arms around him. then he puts his around me. we look at each other and.... we kissed. i never felt a kiss like that before. next thing i knew we were both completely naked. this was my first time actually BEING with a guy. i was still pretty nervous. i don't wanna get into ALL the details but... he pulled out a condom and... well, i started breathing heavy. i did try but... i had to back off on that. i guess i wasn't ready. did i make a smart move by backing off because i wasn't ready? and did i make a good "first impression"?

 

[Deandbn]

Yes you made a smart move by backing off. Just stay backed off for a month or so and enjoy the simpler things in life - like just being together and getting to know each other in a new way.

And Yes you did make a good first impression.

 

[ronnie54321]

"First" MAKE IT COUNT Good luck dude!!!!

 

[Lube]

Yes, if you're not ready (physically or mentally), then it's OK to back off.

Just make it absolutely clear to him that it's you that's not ready. It'd be very easy for him to feel like he screwed up. So if you want to see him again, make sure you make the next move. Be persistent so he knows what he did was OK.

Good luck and let us know what happens.

 

[themandillon]

Yes, if you're not ready (physically or mentally), then it's OK to back off.

Just make it absolutely clear to him that it's you that's not ready. It'd be very easy for him to feel like he screwed up. So if you want to see him again, make sure you make the next move. Be persistent so he knows what he did was OK.

Good luck and let us know what happens.

couldnt agree more.

 

[Nomenclature]

Your first time bottoming definitely should NOT be a purey heat-of-the-moment thing if you can help it.

You did the right thing.

 

[Kyanimal]

I have no idea what "impression" you may have made. Only that Very Lucky Guy can answer that question!

Butt ... if you weren't "ready", which is purely understandable, given it was your first time (and, did He know that?), you did the right thing. Sometimes the "Fantasy" does not match the "Reality".

You'll know by his reaction. If he gets in "touch", and wants to play some more with you, then, yeah!, your "first impression" was perfectly fine!

However, if he doesn't, and seems to shy away, that doesn't mean it's something that You should "worry' about! That's His "problem", not Yours!

I've seen your pics, and lamented that You weren't my college roomie! You're a Very Sexy Guy!!

So ... I'm very impressed, and happy for you, that you got your first "go"!!

I'm sure you're going to cherish that experience, and re-live it, for the rest of your life! Just KNOW that you stayed True to Yourself, and no matter how this might go, You're going to be walking into a Great New Future, and there are more experiences ahead of You!!

Of course ... Seriously ... no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[jeffhardylover8472]

he knew it was my first time... b4 he left tho i said tht the main thing was tht i tried and he even agreed... other than tht, i have never been so happy in my life. i would love to see him again

 

[KaraBulut]

...i would love to see him again

Well, then tell him that and go for it.

 

[Kyanimal]

he knew it was my first time... b4 he left tho i said tht the main thing was tht i tried and he even agreed... other than tht, i have never been so happy in my life. i would love to see him again

That's So AWESOME!! I am Truly THRILLED for You!!

I'm thinking there's a Very Good chance that you'll be seeing more of Him, in the very near future!!

Rock On!, Buddy!!

And, Yeah! ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[jeffhardylover8472]

ok, i need help... wat should i do 4 a second date?

 

[G-Lexington]

First things first.

>>>i never felt a kiss like that before. next thing i knew we were both completely naked.

Don't play this game. You knew what you were doing. You didn't black out and come to naked in his arms. Either you surrendered to temptation and took your clothes off, or surrendered to temptation and let him take your clothes off. And either way, that's totally cool. But OWN it. "I was so excited, I decided 'what the fuck' and took my clothes off." Don't play the "we ended up..." game. Because going down that path often leads to "we ended up having unprotected sex..." As if there's nothing one could've done to prevent it.

OK, back to the question.

>>>ok, i need help... wat should i do 4 a second date?

Him.

What ARE you prepared to do, sexually? The condom bit suggests that you were going to do anal, but stopped. Did you do oral? Did you jack each other off? If not, is that something you'd like to do?

Lex

 

[jeffhardylover8472]

First things first.

>>>i never felt a kiss like that before. next thing i knew we were both completely naked.

Don't play this game. You knew what you were doing. You didn't black out and come to naked in his arms. Either you surrendered to temptation and took your clothes off, or surrendered to temptation and let him take your clothes off. And either way, that's totally cool. But OWN it. "I was so excited, I decided 'what the fuck' and took my clothes off." Don't play the "we ended up..." game. Because going down that path often leads to "we ended up having unprotected sex..." As if there's nothing one could've done to prevent it.

OK, back to the question.

>>>ok, i need help... wat should i do 4 a second date?

Him.

What ARE you prepared to do, sexually? The condom bit suggests that you were going to do anal, but stopped. Did you do oral? Did you jack each other off? If not, is that something you'd like to do?

Lex

first, i wouldn't have said that if it wasn't my first time. ok, so after a few kisses we did strip down. most of the time we were just holding and kissing each other, which is what i have wanted. i was nervous giving my first real bj, but hey at least i went ahead and did it.

so i guess what i'm saying is i'm not one to bottom. i may try again sometime but until then, no, i won't do it. i just want the more simple things. i mean i really like the guy and nothing would make me happier than just simply being with him.

 

[Kyanimal]

first, i wouldn't have said that if it wasn't my first time. ok, so after a few kisses we did strip down. most of the time we were just holding and kissing each other, which is what i have wanted. i was nervous giving my first real bj, but hey at least i went ahead and did it.

so i guess what i'm saying is i'm not one to bottom. i may try again sometime but until then, no, i won't do it. i just want the more simple things. i mean i really like the guy and nothing would make me happier than just simply being with him.

Then, by all means, that's Exactly what you Should do!!

(And I'm So disappointed that You're not talking about Me!! But, hey!, I really do understand! )

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[Georgiadude]

Call him up. Tell him you had a great time and would like to see him again. Be honest and say things moved a little fast the first time and you would like to slow down a bit. Be upfront about it and let him know your concerns. That way both of you are on the same page and there wont be any misconceptions about how the night will play out. If he backs out due to your reservations well then he probably wasn't relationship material. Someone that cares for you wouldn't have a problem slowing to your comfort level.

Best of luck.

Steven.