My friend Jason

[gaylover50]

Ok I've got this friend Jason. I've known him for like 2 years but we are best buds. But I'm not sure if he's gay or not. Sometimes he's just a little to friendly with me and he'll do stuff like put his leg on top of mine or slap my ass. One time I could of sworn he was checking me out. He also touches me, alot LOL. And he doesn't act this way when ever we are with our other friend Brent, who's straight. Now what should I do? Do I confront him or just keep thing the way they are?

 

[Nagash]

Does he know that your bisexual? If so, it's possible he's giving you a hit that he's interested.

However, there is also a possibility that he's a perfectly straight guy as well. Sometimes they do, and say things that we interpret as a little gay, even if they don't realize they are doing/saying it in that sense.

Of course there's also the possibility that he would do something anyway if you made a move. It just depends on the guy, and how close your friendship is.

In the end, it comes down to you, and where you want things to go. Sometimes it's just not worth risking an awesome friendship for sex. Other times, it is very much worth it, but only if the two of you are ready for it, and are confident it won't get in the way of your friendship, or perhaps even let it grow into something more than it could otherwise be.

 

[saaga07]

You didn't mention whether Jason knows you're bi.

Would Brent get weirded out if Jason acted the same way towards him? If so, maybe Jason is straight, but knows that he can be touch-feely and playful around some of his friends, but not others. If he knows you're bi, another possibility is that he's flirting with you to tease you. That's kinda common among straight guys who have an oversized ego. Just some more possibilities for you to think about.

But, if you two are really good friends and he doesn't seem the type to care much about sexual orientation, the next time he does something homoerotic, just look him in the eyes with a sarcastic grin and say, "Excuse me, sir, but it appears as if you are flirting with me." You never know what his response might be.

 

[gaylover50]

If he knows you're bi, another possibility is that he's flirting with you to tease you. That's kinda common among straight guys who have an oversized ego.

He's really not that type of guy.

Yeah both know I'm bi. I'm gonna casually bring it up tonight after we have dinner with Brent. thanks!

 

[Rex]

Do that and tell us what he says.

Lots of straight guys play like that but it's just messing around.

 

[PhoenixRandall]

Get a trench coat and a long bungy cord. Hide behind a door when you know that Jason is coming over alone. When he comes thru the door throw the trench coat over his head and quickly wrap the bungy coard around him several times and secure it. Pull down his pants and give him the blow job of his life. If he calls your name out when he comes then he knows it is you. If not get out of there before he can get the bungy cord and coat off. Wait to see if he tells you about what happened or if he keeps it to himself. If he tells then maybe he wants more. Tell him you will role play and be the victim. If he sucks you off then you know he is at least bi and you have something that will keep your sex lives going. lf he insist on being the victim then you know that he likes your blowjobs. Re-enact it over and over til he no longer needs the trench coat over his head to enjoy it.
Later the 2 of you can do the same to Brent.

That's hilarious! Kinda hot actually, but only with someone that I've got a relationship already....

 

[Tizinsane]

He's probably bisexual.

But then again, straight guys will do seemingly gay things from time to time. (mostly for laughs, I think)

Tell us what happens!

 

[Storybook_Man]

I had a friend named Jason... We were playing truth or dare in my pool when we were younger... He dared me to kiss him, I did, ever since then I been liking the cock.. lol

 

[gaylover50]

He finally came out to me at dinner. He said he's got feelings for me but I've got a girlfriend and a boyfriend and both are fine with our current situation. But I think I'm interested in him too, but is it worth screwing up our friendship and my love life? I don't know, I'm just confused.

 

[Buddah420]

Let's put it this way...If my absolute best friend, the person I know I get along with the best in life, came to me and told me he had feelings and wanted to be more than just best friends...I would jump at the opportunity to be with him...Just my feelings though and might be biased as I am in love with my best friend who happens to be straight. I would do anything and everything to be with him, even if it meant leaving someone else to be with him. I know this is wrong and a bit heartless, but I also would know that my best friend is my soul mate and I would be with him for the rest of our lives. Don't know if this helps, but just my personal feelings on the matter.

 

[PhoenixRandall]

I'm not sure what to say. I have many straight friends who have at one point or another seemed gay to me because of their certain mannerisms or how they joked around with me or touched me or something, but all times its wound up being me projecting my feelings for the person and almost contriving signs that show that they just HAVE to be gay. ...but if you want to try making a move, go for it!

This is one of the best responses I've seen on JUB in a long time (as it relates to this monotonous topic of "should I hit on my best friend...."

PROJECTION:
Psychology.
a. the tendency to ascribe to another person feelings, thoughts, or attitudes present in oneself, or to regard external reality as embodying such feelings, thoughts, etc., in some way.


Look at yourself and what you are feeling first, before trying to figure out what yoru friend is doing! Chances are, any touching or other behavior is completely innocent with no sexual suggestion of any type or preference at all present!! If you have a thing for him, then deal with that first and foremost...it's your issue - not his and certainly not his to be blamed for or base sexuality questioned over!