My friend proposed to give each other a blowjob

[kuriku]

Hello all,

i'm a 18 gay guy. A friend of mine, who i've masturbated with several times, recently proposed me to give each other a blowjob. He's straight but he has curiosity, i think, and to be fair i have curiosity too because i've never experienced that.

But the point is i don't love him. I like masturbating with him like i did a couple of times, he's good-looking and i have fun. But i don't know if i should go a step further. I'm definitely not going to have sex with him, but i didn't want to blowjob him because i wanted to wait for the right person: a person who i really love.

I'm confused. I don't know if i want to do it. I want to experience, but i want to wait as well. What do you guys think about it?

Thanks and sorry for my bad English.

 

[eastofeden]

Well...you answered your own question in my opinion. If you want to wait for a person you love...that is what you should do. I am assuming that is important to you from what you have said so ask yourself if it is more important to wait than to satisfy your curiosity?

PS...your English is fine

 

[Pickwick]

It's just a blowjob, go for it.

The wise has spoken.... If sex and love were entwined we would have noticed yet... And a blow job is not such a big deal but damned it's good !

 

[kuriku]

First of all, thanks for answering.

Well...you answered your own question in my opinion. If you want to wait for a person you love...that is what you should do. I am assuming that is important to you from what you have said so ask yourself if it is more important to wait than to satisfy your curiosity?

Hm... I would like to wait, but... I've never fallen in love with someone. I don't know even what is love, so i don't really know if the wait (could be years) is worth it.

PS...your English is fine

Thanks, but i don't think so >__<"

It's just a blowjob, go for it.

The wise has spoken.... If sex and love were entwined we would have noticed yet... And a blow job is not such a big deal but damned it's good !

That's the point. This will sound ridiculous, but the blowjob would have the meaning i give to it. I touched his thing with my hands, why not with the mouth?

But on the other hand, i feel like a blowjob is a private activity, and maybe i should wait for the right person.

Jeez people, way to have dignity. Sounds like his friend is bi-curious or so. Kuriku, if you don't want to have sex with him, just tell him no and keep it at what it is now. If he values you friendship, he will understand and not force you to.

I meant that i'm not going to lose my virginity with him. I don't know about oral. :/

By the way, he's not forcing me, he just suggested it.


Sorry if you find this nagging; i'm a very indecisive person.

 

[Rolyo85]

Do what you're comfortable with and what you want. But DON'T think that there is a right and wrong here, because there isn't. Sex - even full on intercourse - CAN be about love, but doesn't have to be about love. Just like any other physical action, its meaning is based on the reasons for doing it. In fact, many people consider it wiser to gain experience before falling in love because losing your virginity to someone you actually have feelings for, is a lot more stressful than to someone you just like and are attracted to.

There's no loss of "dignity" in having sex without love. Many other positive feelings can be used to make sex meaningful. And if you are the type that doesn't fall easily for others... well, then you'd be stuck with a lot of celibacy

 

[bruce379]

Relax. It's just a blow job. Doing it to each other doesn't mean you have to get married And it doesn't mean it's gonna make him gay necessarily if he's really straight. I've had friends and acquaintances that have given or received blow jobs when they were in high school but are now happily married and with children. The blow job episodes only happened during the horny boy teenage years.
Think of it as satisfying both your curiosity. So, yeah, it does not follow that a sexual encounter with the same sex makes you automatically gay; otherwise, 33% of the entire population would be gay - which is stupid.

 

[jjonn3]

As other have said - you have already answered your own question - you need to do what you feel comfortable with.

But keep in mind - no one knows when - where - or if - you will fall in love. Society makes us think that there will be magic bells ringing or something when we meet the right person - but often we don't know - or your love can grow for the person as your relationship grows.

For myself I never felt that love and sex had to be connected - one is physical the other emotional -

You feel comfortable masturbating together when you are not in love - maybe you would feel comfortable with the blow job as well. But that is something only you can decide.

And keep in mind - if your friend is the one who suggested giving each other blow jobs he might not be as straight as you think...

 

[CTorontoC]

I gave and received my first BJ at 12.. with someone I definitely didn't love. Didn't make the sex with the first person I did love any less special. That's just me though. You should stick to what's important to you. Time might change your opinion and he'll still be there if you do I'm sure. If you do something you end up regretting, that will be with you the rest of your life. On the other hand, if you don't you'll have to live with the curiosity and the "what if..."

 

[Just_Believe18]

A blowjob is not an expression of love, and you shouldn't hold it to that kind of impossible standard.

You don't need to reserve sexual moments only for a person you love, especially when you haven't figured out what love is yet. Right now, you're having an enjoyable experience with your friend. You should continue to experiment and enjoy your time with him. Don't hold back. Go all the way with him.

 

[Seasoned]

People answer you question based in their own feelings, experiences and personalities. Some people jump into sexual experimentation easily and with about as much feeling as drinking water.

The best way through this is to take you're own advice. More at your own pace. It should be exciting and fun. Your doubts seem to be stronger than your horniness. And then there's the male orgasm thing. The guy that comes first may no longer be in the mood to return the favor.

I'm in the minority because to me blow jobs are more intimate than anal sex. To me, taking cock in the mouth is a more conscious act than taking it anally.

 

[Telstra]

umm no sex before marriage then if you can wait that long.

 

[KaraBulut]

If your friend is proposing trading blowjobs after masturbating with you several times, then your friend has a different definition of the word "straight".

The answer for you is simple: Do what you are comfortable with. Never be pressured into doing something that you don't want to do.

 

[kuriku]

People answer you question based in their own feelings, experiences and personalities.

You're right.

Thanks a lot for your responses. I think i'm not going to accept my friend's suggestion. I enjoy masturbating with him, but in my case, that situation only satisfies a stimulation desire - we touch our bodies, i like feeling the shape of his muscles and how he starts touching my underwear. But after all, it's only about stimulation, not pleasure. I get the same pleasure (sometimes more) masturbating myself; that stimulation wouldn't grow if we give each other a blowjob. And i'm starting to think that sexual activities (or at least some of them) are overrated.

For now, i'll wait.
Thanks again.

 

[palbert]

If you wait for love you may wait 1 day -- or 5 years. Just sayin'.