My Life as a College Student... ?!?!?!?

[lookin4sum1icantrust]

I do not even know how to explain my thoughts at the moment. I moved into the dorms this past Sunday and I already love NYU. As lame and Hallmark as it sounds, I feel like I belong here. I am enjoying all the chaos of the city. It just gives you energy. I am so sleep deprived, but I am still bouncing off the walls.

In high school, I always thought that I would be out the first second I walked onto campus. I am finding it harder to do than say. I guess I just do not want to be labeled as "the gay guy". I want people to think about me by personality and not my sexual orientation.

Right now I am heading off to an LGBT meeting. Wish me luck. Hopefully there are some hot guys there. I do not want to be surrounded by the overly "out" gays though. Kind of worried.

PS: I met a really really awesome lesbian girl here. She described me as "gayer than the tinsel on a Christmas tree"... lol

You know people will be people, some might pick, some might not. It all depends on the person. Good Luck @ your LGBT Meeting!

 

[Syn]

That's awesome volcom. I didn't come out till well into my college years (came out at the very end of my junior year). I went into my senior year so refreshed and just a completely different person.

I understand what you mean about not wanting to be pinned as the GAY one. I think you already have enough confidence in yourself to handle that and attending GLBT meetings is a great way to not really out yourself but yet show your support and show that you care. I remember my first GLBT meeting I went to on the floor of my dorm. I was so nervous. But you know what, it was great. I met people and although I didn't really come out in front of everyone it made me that much more confident and happy to be in a group like that.

Good luck!

 

[Caeth]

the best way to not be labeled as the "gay" guy is to forget about labels all together. that way it's not even an issue. you're gay and that's it...do what you want.

 

[tallguy297]

Hey Volcom...

I hope and pray that college is all that you want it to be and that it opens up a world of chances and opportunities for your happiness that you didnt know existed.

I hope your tinsel shines for as long as you want it to.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Hopefully there are some hot guys there. I do not want to be surrounded by the overly "out" gays though.

Hang out with them anyway. It'll help you get over your hang-ups about them. And yes, that IS what they are - hang-ups. Consider - you're worried that if you hang out with the fems, that other people won't like you. Would you feel the same way going the other way? Would you worry about what the fems think if you hung out with straight (or straight-acting) guys? No? Then why are the straight's opinions more important?

Hang out with the cool people. The cool people being the ones you click with. And yes, some of them might be femmy. More power to them.

Lex

 

[lookin4sum1icantrust]

So I met some awesome people there. There was this really interesting vegan pansexual girl going into film. I also met a really cute guy. I have a date with him in an hour. NYU is amazing. I am home, at last.

And to respond to Lex, it has nothing to do with them being feminine. I just get turned off by the people who try to shove homosexuality in other people's faces. I think the people that do that bring down the community. They make it more of an issue than the religious right does. I didn't find any at that meeting. Everyone there was really interesting and cool.

THAT'S AWESOME. Hope you have a good date!

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>And to respond to Lex, it has nothing to do with them being feminine. I just get turned off by the people who try to shove homosexuality in other people's faces. I think the people that do that bring down the community. They make it more of an issue than the religious right does.

Gargoyle calling bullshit.

The "overly out" guys are the ones who've been pushing the hardest to make the world one where you have a gay student union to go to. To make a world where you can be "out" at college and beyond. Where you can meet another gay guy without fear.

The reason you can do all that is because you're standing on the shoulders of giants. Those "overly out" people MADE it an issue. They refused to shut the hell up and "stop throwing it other people's faces". They made people realize that hey, homos are people, too. They're not a detriment to the community. They're the reason we even have a community.

...but this isn't the time for speechin'. You've got a date to get ready for. Go kick ass.

Lex

 

[asdf]

that's AWESOME!
Tell us how your date went!! Was it just like a 'hey, wanna hang out later?' type of thing or is it actually a real date where both of you are aware of it?

 

[Lube]

I do not want to be surrounded by the overly "out" gays though. Kind of worried.

PS: I met a really really awesome lesbian girl here. She described me as "gayer than the tinsel on a Christmas tree"... lol

Ha ha. Do you see the irony between those 2 paragraphs?

Go Lex.

Anyway, good luck. As someone already said, you have nothing to worry about being gay at NYU of all places.

And since when is NYU in San Diego?

 

[godson112]

I do not even know how to explain my thoughts at the moment. I moved into the dorms this past Sunday and I already love NYU. As lame and Hallmark as it sounds, I feel like I belong here. I am enjoying all the chaos of the city. It just gives you energy. I am so sleep deprived, but I am still bouncing off the walls.

In high school, I always thought that I would be out the first second I walked onto campus. I am finding it harder to do than say. I guess I just do not want to be labeled as "the gay guy". I want people to think about me by personality and not my sexual orientation.

Right now I am heading off to an LGBT meeting. Wish me luck. Hopefully there are some hot guys there. I do not want to be surrounded by the overly "out" gays though. Kind of worried.

PS: I met a really really awesome lesbian girl here. She described me as "gayer than the tinsel on a Christmas tree"... lol

One of my own teachers called me gayer than Christmas once

Or it was camper than Christmas.

Good luck with it. You'll love being out at college!

 

[Ohiospeedo]

Let's us know how the date went. And I don't think that you have to worry about being the gay one at NYU. New York is very liberal. Have fun exploring the city and gay bars/clubs.

 

[asdf]

volcom -- Just a question, Were you out before you went to college? Just wondering.. I'm heading off to college too in a few weeks so what's your advice on someone who wants to be open to friends about being gay but not too open, but who is not out at the moment?

Oh and we're dying to hear how your date went!

 

[Lucas07]

Wow you're going to my dream school and one of the cities I love the most. I wish you all the best volcom! NY is one of the best places on earth! I'm sure you're gonna have a blast.

 

[thanol]

I visited my friend at NYU last year. Seriously like half the guys on her floor were gay, and she thought the rest of them were closet cases. I don't think there will be any problems for you.

 

[Blk_Thickness]

That is great man, enjoy your college experience.