My Partner *rant*

[AndrewC88]

He is a very dominating "alpha male" type. strong to the point of being overbearing where in my case I like my space and I hate having people hover over everything I do. He is very arrogant where In my case I am humble. He is very aggressive and assertive and extremely territorial of everything including me. His fraternity like pranks with his friends annoys the shit out of me but it warms my heart to see him smile and have fun. He is always horny and thinks he can take me anywhere at anytime....... anything I do (even having a bitch fit) turns him on. I don't understand it because I have had some pretty unflattering moments but I feel blessed because he makes me feel sexy and wanted. We are always butting heads about something because we both are very opinionated. I love my personal time and space which he likes to invade occasionally because he wants to be near me. I love cats, he loves dogs. I love Britney, he loves Xtincta. I love romantic comedies and he loves the macho action flicks. Yet behind all the things that makes us clash..... I LOVE HIM. Love works in weird ways because we are the total opposites and yet we cannot be without each other. We have made this make work for about 5years. It's a struggle but it's worth it. Love with with is amazing. I feel safe and wanted. I don't ever fear if he will cheat because he only has eyes for me.

I'm not bitching or complaining. I'm just trying to put this in perspective

This song explains all my emotions. Beautiful
[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C3iOPn0qlBg[/ame] [ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ebj9vlU6OE[/ame]

 

[G-Lexington]

This songs?

Lex

 

[AndrewC88]

This songs?

Lex

Poppy but does not make them any less special. Lyrics is what I agree with

 

[G-Lexington]

Hey, you could have posted "Popcorn" if it works for you. I was just confused because you said "This song explains all my emotions"...then posted TWO songs.

Lex

 

[hotb0d]

G-Lex,

if you press 'play' at once, it's like listening to ONE song lol. j/k


as for the OP, since you are able to make the relationship works for 5 years now, then good job and keep it up. HOO HAA.

 

[thisisinteresting]

Tell him to respect your personal space. *shrug*

 

[KaraBulut]

,,,, I LOVE HIM. Love works in weird ways because we are the total opposites and yet we cannot be without each other. We have made this make work for about 5years. It's a struggle but it's worth it. Love with with is amazing. I feel safe and wanted. I don't ever fear if he will cheat because he only has eyes for me.

Love isn't enough. It can't save a bad relationship.

The problem here is that you've boxed us in. You have expended 9 lines of a 12 line paragraph listing the reasons why you and your boyfriend aren't compatible and why you're constantly fighting. Then you add a 3 sentence coda saying that you're able to make it "work".

So, what advice are you wanting here?

 

[rareboy]

Obviously from the posts so far, we know that you love the drama of your relationship.

I will offer some advice even though you haven't asked for it.

If you are always butting heads, you will eventually both become brain damaged.

Right now, it is apparently exciting and you see it as a positive. This will not last.

Try to have separate perspectives on the world, but strive to find the synthesis.

 

[Corny]

Actually this does sound quite okay to me.
I guess the OP maybe started to think about it and why it still works and despite all the differences it still feels good

Maybe because I don't understand "butting heads" as "fighting". I hate "yes"-sayers who can't say no. I want someone who fights back, challenges me. I want someone with whom I can disagree in many things and still love him dearly for it. I want someone to complete me, not someone who mimics me.

 

[ucfknight12]

Actually this does sound quite okay to me.
I guess the OP maybe started to think about it and why it still works and despite all the differences it still feels good

Maybe because I don't understand "butting heads" as "fighting". I hate "yes"-sayers who can't say no. I want someone who fights back, challenges me. I want someone with whom I can disagree in many things and still love him dearly for it. I want someone to complete me, not someone who mimics me.

I agree, I like a guy with opinion. Me and my bf are kinda like this because we are both super opinionated. Also maybe the OP just wanted to post what was on his mind? He did post it as a rant Sometimes I just want to post to get it off my brain... If you need any advice you should specify what you need advice on.

 

[rareboy]

I can guarantee both of the last two posters that in the OP's relationship, it isn't about opposite points of view or perspective.

It is about winning. And dominance.

I've been partnered for 27 years and the two of us don't agree on a number of things. So we compromise. And accommodate one another's preferences and likes and dislikes.

This is advice we got from my grand-parents who got it from their grandparents.

We have never had a divorce or separation in our family.
Aunts and uncles and my own parents lived happily together for 50 years and the record so far was 65 years of marriage. And they were all headstrong people who knew how to compromise while not being subservient.

That is the ideal relationship.

 

[ucfknight12]

I agree with you rare, I don't know all the ins and outs of his relationship so its hard to make a judgement call. I may be opinionated but I know how to compromise

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>That is the ideal relationship.

...for you.

My friend once said "I've stopped looking for the perfect mate. Now I'm looking for somebody whose baggage goes with mine." There's nothing creepier than a partner who wants to tie you up all weekend...unless you want a partner who ties you up all weekend. At which point, the two dysfunctions mesh perfectly, and all is right with the world again.

Lex