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My Stalker

GL

GL

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All you can do is set him straight (no pun intended) and tell him that whatever he wants from you (sex, relationship, shoulder to lean on) is not something you're ready or willing to give. Be direct. If you don't, he'll keep sniffing around.
 
I don't know, I kinda had the same situation once (in fact I'm going through it AGAIN) where this guy was calling me (a dipshit friend of mine gave him my phone number) and even coming over and stuff and just wanting to be around me all the time. Except I wasn't interested in him in the same way he was interested in me. So I finally just sat him down and said, "Look, I don't mind being your friend, but this calling me and coming around and professing your 'love' for me has got to stop because I don't want a relationship right now and I don't want to hurt you."

He understood and backed off, but we're still friends and everything's cool. So it's possible to 'put the fire out' a little bit, but it depends on the person and how stable enough they are to handle the situation. Some will chill and accept just a friendship and others will get downright obsessed. At that point the only thing you can do is stop messaging him and just don't answer your phone if you know it's him and he'll eventually (or at least hopefully) give up. If he turns out to be the obsessive type, that is. Ya gotta be careful, though, because there's a fine line there. You don't know how someone is going to react.
 
GL247 said:
And pepper spray!
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"Mmmmmmmm...........pepper spray!"

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Codyf17 said:
That's what i'm scared of, I don't want to say the wrong thing and have someone knocking at my door with a huge butcher knife and a michael myer's mask on.
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Yeah, I know. It can be a little scary. Cuz like I said, everyone handles things differently. This guy might very well say, "Oh! I'm sorry, I didn't realize I was bugging you so much," or he might say, "But I love you! I wanna marry you! Pleeeeaseee talk to me!" while holding onto the leg of your pants, lol.

Seriously, though, just play it by ear. Only you can really decide what's best.
 
Yep, having a gay stalker is all the rage.

Even after you tell someone directly that you need space and that you're not interested in them as much as they are you, they still sometimes will not get the message. If you want to remain casual friends with this guy, you should directly say that your friendship needs to change if you want to remain friends and say that offer to go out to lunch maybe once every three weeks and start a system. If he can't manage that, then completely drop him...
 
I'm not about stalkers.

But think if you were in his shoes. If you found a hottie & was interested wouldn't you want to talk to him all the time? Be around him? Spend time with him?

I'm not sayin', I'm just sayin'....
 
RationalLunacy said:
That's why they make restraining orders.
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And concealed handgun licenses... because someone who's willing to come after you with a knife probably isn't going to pay much attention to a judge.

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Be friendly but firm is all you can do.
Or tell him you just can't get enough sex, and instead of calling, he ought to come over, drop his pants, and brace himself.... :p
 
i had a few dificult situations with stalkers and the best way to deal with them is to not interact with them in any way

that is just the bottom line
 
Cody, dontcha think this guy is kinda scary?

I mean, he really sounds like a kink........I know I would NOT want someone I don't even know to call me 10+ times a day...

I think you must at least get this meeting out of your system else he will drive you batty!

I can't imagine anything good coming out of this; but you never know....

I just hope he's simply a young man starved for gay man to man talking, etc.

I do think you should NOT meet this guy anywhere except in a busy area where you can get some quick help if needed...

>>>>>>>BUT, I guess he probably has your address by now, doesn't he?

Damn, the more I think about this guy the creepier it feels!

DO take care of yourself, friend!(*8*) (*8*) :kiss: :kiss:
 
T-Rexx said:
In America, one never knows what kind of arsenal his attackers will possess. So it's best to stock up as many guns as you can carry, just in case.
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Dude, if you can handle more than one gun at a time, you've got more talent than most!
And just for the record, I sat watch at an apartment where a chick was hiding from her ex -- who had been seen outside her actual apartment with baseball bat and butcher's knife, yelling, "I'm gonna cut you, bitch!" And I had a .45 Colt revolver in my lap, just in case.
 
T-Rexx said:
We had a similar situation at my complex recently, so we made sure all of the residents had a concealed 9 mm automatic on their person at all times. But then, at the property owners' association meeting, someone pointed out that an attacker might have a 0.45 revolver, so now we all carry Uzzis in addition to the concealed 9 mm.

Sure, we've lost a few residents (23, actually) to silly gun play and the occasional accidental discharge (the women are forever cleaning their weapons!), but we're all sleeping a lot better at night, knowing everyone is armed to the teeth.
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I know you're making this stuff up to try to make having guns look silly, but the fact of the matter is that government figures show that an armed citizen stops a crime on the order of 2.2 million times per year; other researchers put the number as high as 2.6 million. You ARE safer, being armed.

Unless you're a batch of damned fools like you wrote about... carrying fictitious weapons, too. You know that part that says "A well-regulated militia...."? "Well-regulated" was how they said trained and disciplined" back then. If you're not trained and disciplined you have NO business having a firearm anywhere available to you. And if you're as untrained and undisciplined as the people you invented, well, I'd have no sympathy for those 23 -- that's like kids who knew better, playing with dynamite.
I count four instances that are contrary to being trained and disciplined -- can you spot them?
 
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