My story.....

[SGboy88]

Here we go… I’ve always considered myself straight because I’ve only been in straight relationships. (and have had sex with girls). After my last relationship I decided to experiment… I mean I’ve had curiosity but never really thought about being with a guy. So, after the relationship a gay friend of mine announced his feelings and all to me. I put it off really but didn’t act to different. Finally my curiosity took over so we met up. Anyway, he gave me a BJ/HJ and that’s it. It was good so we had two more meet ups. My end, I couldn’t kiss, and I don’t want sperm on me and definitively couldn’t retaliate a BJ. I did try giving him a HJ, which I sucked at lol. Anal sex I don’t think I could receive. Then it seems he went too “lets do it again I don’t care whether you want to do anything to me” which freaked me out. We’ve recently started back talking. I think I’m almost equally attracted to both girls/guys. More girls though… Maybe I’m bisexual, or confused. Any input is very welcomed; if you need more information ask. Anyway thanks for reading. Since our experience I’ve had a few gay guys text me and all but really have not pursued anything but then again I’ve had girls text me and haven’t pursued anything. (Not that it may matter but I live in the EXTREME south).

 

[Charmander]

just do it

 

[sendme4321]

did it freak you out that he might be falling for you or that you had the possibility of having sex with him and had second thoughts about it?

 

[paatreides]

OK, so... You are turned off by giving head, you can't bring yourself to kiss a guy and you don't want or like having a guy's come on you. And you think you might be bisexual?
Nope - There are many str8 guys out in this world that enjoy getting a blowjob or a handjob from gay guys and it doesn't mean they are bi, or even gay/bi curious. It means they know a good blow job or hand job when they get one!
It amazes me that you said you were terrible at jacking off your buddy. I wonder how that could be? Unless you were so self-conscious about touching another man's cock, you should've known exactly what to do and how to do it.
I'd say, indulge your friend with allowing him to service you if that's what he wants and you're okay with it, BUT you must make it positively clear to him you cannot reciprocate and there is no way a serious relationship will ever develop.

 

[SGboy88]

did it freak you out that he might be falling for you or that you had the possibility of having sex with him and had second thoughts about it?

Thats a possibility I guess... The falling for me part really did make me "freak" out!

 

[SGboy88]

OK, so... You are turned off by giving head, you can't bring yourself to kiss a guy and you don't want or like having a guy's come on you. And you think you might be bisexual?
Nope - There are many str8 guys out in this world that enjoy getting a blowjob or a handjob from gay guys and it doesn't mean they are bi, or even gay/bi curious. It means they know a good blow job or hand job when they get one!
It amazes me that you said you were terrible at jacking off your buddy. I wonder how that could be? Unless you were so self-conscious about touching another man's cock, you should've known exactly what to do and how to do it.
I'd say, indulge your friend with allowing him to service you if that's what he wants and you're okay with it, BUT you must make it positively clear to him you cannot reciprocate and there is no way a serious relationship will ever develop.

I think im bi/curious because the fact I find guys attractive...or maybe I'm just not afraid to admit it and most "straight" guys are afraid of the stigma.

I'll admit it was good. And I will completely agree I was very self consious... Like I told him I know what to do just it was different!!

I did tell him how I felt and all and me not wanting to reciprocate things. I dont want to him to think I'm using him or anything, I'm not like that at all. Once I explained my feelings he said he understood but then kinda became obsessive.

 

[biguy11188]

well the truth is, all humans find sexual activity a turn on - provided it is not gross (involving puke and all that kinda stuff), then it will turn them on. a lot of straight guys will say gay porn is gross but they've never really tried it. men and women find all tasteful porn attractive. even if that's involving trans women and stuff.

so, the fact that you find guys attractive doesn't really mean much. if you wouldn't want a relationship with a guy you're probably not even bi. you just like being turned on lol

 

[blackbeltninja]

Hey OP

I was like you once. It took me the longest time to finally try something with a guy; then even longer to try again, and even longer than that for the third time. Since then, I've done everything with a guy (well, physically. Never been in love with one yet).

It may or may not happen for you. You might figure it out in the next week; you might NOT figure it out for the next ten years. I'd say give yourself as much time as you need to get as comfortable as you think you might get.

Maybe this is as comfortable as you will ever get and that's as far as it goes for you - great. Maybe you shift your goalposts a little each time and you find yourself somewhere one day you never thought you'd be - also great.

Either way, you'll figure it out eventually. It's a positive step that you've manned up enough to sign up here and ask questions. Good luck!

-d-

 

[SGboy88]

well the truth is, all humans find sexual activity a turn on - provided it is not gross (involving puke and all that kinda stuff), then it will turn them on. a lot of straight guys will say gay porn is gross but they've never really tried it. men and women find all tasteful porn attractive. even if that's involving trans women and stuff.

so, the fact that you find guys attractive doesn't really mean much. if you wouldn't want a relationship with a guy you're probably not even bi. you just like being turned on lol

At this point, I do not want to be in a relationship with a guy. Your right I do like the turn on (which I'm easy at getting lol). But I do not want anyone to think I'm using them just for the turn on, etc.

 

[SGboy88]

Hey OP

I was like you once. It took me the longest time to finally try something with a guy; then even longer to try again, and even longer than that for the third time. Since then, I've done everything with a guy (well, physically. Never been in love with one yet).

It may or may not happen for you. You might figure it out in the next week; you might NOT figure it out for the next ten years. I'd say give yourself as much time as you need to get as comfortable as you think you might get.

Maybe this is as comfortable as you will ever get and that's as far as it goes for you - great. Maybe you shift your goalposts a little each time and you find yourself somewhere one day you never thought you'd be - also great.

Either way, you'll figure it out eventually. It's a positive step that you've manned up enough to sign up here and ask questions. Good luck!

-d-

Thank you for your input. It took me a long time to do something like you and now the offer has been put on the table but im not taking it (which could be because I dont have time I work and go to university).