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My Straight Best Friend

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I have the greatest best friend. He's athletic and and hilarious. Growing up I've always wanted a close friend but I never really had one until I turned twenty. I've always had a crush on him from the first time we met, I even posted on here about the first time we masturbated together and he let me give him head, long long story won't go into details but just know he is straight but called himself doing me a favor because of all I've done for him. I guess he loves me as much as I love him. He used to spend the night at my house and we shared my bed, after a long time I couldn't help but explore his body while he slept, one day on my birthday he surprised me and told me I could keep going. It was amazing, it was the first time I've ever gave someone head. The moment didn't last, he didn't want to continue doing anything because he didn't want to be with a guy, and after awhile of heartbreak I accepted it and became comfortable being only friends. He made me his kid's god-father and we have never been closer.

Lately he's had some health issues, and I've been there the whole time, one day he asked me if I wanted to fool around. Wow, I couldn't believe it, he woke up in the middle of the night and grabbed my arm and took me aside, he got on his knees and gave me head, I was in total shock, because I had given up all hope of doing anything with him. I came on a towel but when I reached and grabbed his penis he was totally soft, he wasn't sexually into it at all. I told myself it was just his weird way of saying thank you, and I put it out of my mind. Then the other day the same thing happened he wanted to give me head again, this time I persisted and gave him head as well, I came told him I was about to cum but he didn't move his mouth away he swallowed my load. I told him to spit it out because I knew he wasn't into it but he swallowed it.

The third time it happened he wanted to give me head and I couldn't cum, it was the thing I've wanted all these years and I couldn't even stay hard. I sucked me off for nearly an hour, and I couldn't finish. I know he isn't gay, he really loves me and knows that's what I like. He sleeps with tons of girls and whenever we fool around it takes him time to get hard while I'm hard before I even come out of my pants. What's wrong with me, why can't I enjoy it? He is really sexy and I'm in love with him. I just know he isn't into it, he just thinks he owes me because I've been with him while he was going through some health issues, which he is over now. Why can't I enjoy it more? could I not be gay enough?
 
What the hell is this? And how can you be so damn sure he is straight? I mean he's fucking you ain't he? that man aint straight I can tell you that now.
 
I guess I can't know for 100 percent, but I do know that when I even think about penis, I'm hard as a rock, he could be fooling with me for 20 minutes and he's totally soft. no erection at all. when we look at straight porn he's brick hard. I won't go into details but these past few months have been really hard for him health-wise, his friends and family kinda put him on the back burner. He's the type of guy who has people around him all the time, but when he needed friends I was the only one there, he almost died, and I never wanted anything from him. Have you ever wanted something really bad for so long, and when you finally get it its under questionable circumstances, and you don't know how to enjoy it?
 
He seems to be almost 100% straight but is prepared to let you have 'head' because he knows that is what you would like. He also probably likes the closeness to you as another part of your friendship. In your case however being gay you are not getting the sexuality reponse you seek and after the initial excitement of him responding to your wishes you feel sexually un-satisfied. Hence the loss of your erection and not being able to finish the act.
Since sexuallly you are not compatible I suggest ji you want to maintain your friendship you assume that it will be on a non-sexual basis with the occasional spot of mutual pleasure. Best of luck !
 
BiMike said:
He seems to be almost 100% straight but is prepared to let you have 'head' because he knows that is what you would like. He also probably likes the closeness to you as another part of your friendship. In your case however being gay you are not getting the sexuality reponse you seek and after the initial excitement of him responding to your wishes you feel sexually un-satisfied. Hence the loss of your erection and not being able to finish the act.
Since sexuallly you are not compatible I suggest ji you want to maintain your friendship you assume that it will be on a non-sexual basis with the occasional spot of mutual pleasure. Best of luck !
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Couldn't agree more!!
 
Let's clear one thing first - straight men don't have sex with other men. Period. They don't let other men suck their cocks because they feel "obligated" to the other man for some reason. Now, if you want to say your friend is bisexual, that's probably a better way to express his sexuality. Doesn't mean he loves men or goes around looking for men to have sex with, it just defines that line between 100 percent heterosexual men who have no sexual attraction to men, and men who are open to sexual "experiences" with men, be it mutual or stand alone. Always better to get that clarity in there, less you end up with idiots jumping your case, showing their ignorance, acting stupid and screaming at you, etc. (no names mentioned) ;)

I see your friend as someone who is really close to you, and cares about you, not just because you were there for him in a time of need, but just because he loves you as a friend for all reasons. I believe the sexual encounters the two of you have had are a tumble of all kinds of feelings you share between one another. I think he feels close enough to you to allow sex of whatever kind to occur between the two of you, but he's not "in-love" with you in the "want to have a love/physical relationship" manner.

You on the other hand definitely are in love with him and could/would be in a love relationship, mentally and physically, with him with no problems.

Unfortunately I don't see it as ever happening the way you'd prefer - so ya know, include him in your life, love him as much as you want to and can, continue your friendship as deep as it is, but you need to move on and also find a guy who completes you on the level to return what you're giving. You need a guy who can be your soulmate, and your friend, and your sex partner.

But to continue to beat yourself up in the way I'm seeing from what you wrote, isn't fair to you. It's not that you're not gay enough, but that your inner soul, your conscience knows that this relationship, the way you would like it to be, can never exist, and therefore your mind is shutting you down.

Carry on with your friend, love him as much as you want, even have occasional encounters IF you can both carry through with them and have them be satisfying for the both of you, and not feel forced. But move forward for your own good and find the guy who really is right for you.

Trust me, I know from experience that "loving" someone you can't really have in the way you truly want, is SO difficult. You think you may never find anyone other than that "one", and well, that's not true. There IS another guy out there for you, one who can reciprocate in every way you need. Find him. Include this friend in your life still, along with that other guy when you find him, and live. Live happy and strong and fulfilled. It CAN happen. You just have to make it happen. And remember, you don't find love, it finds you my friend.
 
My best friend is straight. We have known each other since we were kids. He is a great guy and I love him more than anyone ever. He told me that he probably loves me more than he loves his wife.

Do I find him sexually attractive? Yes, because he is a hottie. Have we ever had sex? Absolutely not. He is straight. He is married.

My wanting him was never an issue. He isn't on the menu. I've always known that. It wasn't worth messing up the friendship which is of inestimable value trying to get a BJ or more. I can get sex from any number of individuals.

My friend is attracted to women, his wife in particular. He is not attracted to me in the least. Does he love me? Yes, he says, very dearly. He freely tells me that.

Straight men do not engage in sexual activity with men unless there is some dire circumstance or underlying issue. Heterosexual guys will have sex with those of the same gender as a coping mechanism related to child abuse or molestation. Heterosexual guys will have sex with those of the same gender in restrictive situations, such as prison.

I am assuming your friend does not fall in either of these categories. Your friend may have latency issues.
 
This is more about actions rather than labels. Over thinking and anxiety can be reasons preventing erections or causes for losing them. I'm guessing the reason why you haven't clarified things with him is that you're afraid the sexual stuff will end. Ironically that could be causing your loss of erection. Have the talk. You have a best friend which is more important than an occasional blowjob. Once the two of you are clear you'll have the opportunity to find someone who's capable of giving what you need.
 
So basically you have a friend with benefits. As long as it's working for both of you, enjoy the friendship and the benefits, knowing that's likely all it will ever be.
 
Thanks I think you are right. I'm not going to push it at all, I'll just go back to being friends. I love him and don't want to lose him as a friend.

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thanks you
 
Thank you, that was perfect. You're right. I received a lot of good wisdom from this forum.
 
Actually, I mostly play with straight guys in the past. Most of them now got married and have kids. I know for sure some straight guys wanna play with Dicks sometime for sure. I believe Im the only guy they played with. Dunno why?
 
Your friend is having sex with you, he is not 100% str8.
I am mariied and have a son, I don't cheat on my wife, but I am about 80% gay, just enough str8 in me to perform.
I think many guys are somewhere on this bi sexual scale, your friend seems to be one of them.
 
I don't really have sex with them. I just wanted to see their Cocks and jerk them off till they cum. Thats what I like to do. I did to a lot hot straight guys. I remember I have a big crush with my class mate. He was very nice, rich and was the hottest as well. He invited me to his house to show me his new Stereo. I touched his hot Bod But Im scared to touch his Cock. ( Btw, Im very shy and Im very poor at this time compare with him very rich and all the Girls freaking love him). He told me to go to the Bathroom to change his clothes ( Wear shorts) but I didn't follow him because I was very shy and nervous. You guys understand I was very shy and I don't understand why He likes me. He is hot and very wealthy. Later on My Teacher wanted me to sit next to him. I touched him there in the class but I didnt open the zipper. He kinda like it. Now I so regret everyday cuz I had too many chances to be with him. I met a few hot guys as well. They like me and wanna hang out and play but I don't have a confident. I think Im too poor to be with them or hang out with them. Im not bad looking at all. Now I work I make really good money and I have anything I wanted in my life but I still miss these hot guys. I wish I can go back. I dunno how stupid Im. Now He married and have 2 kids. Still LOVE him.
 
It was a mistake, I actually knew it before, during and immediately after it happened. You guys might be right, he may be partly gay, it doesn't matter though he will never be in a male on male relationship. It hurts really bad and I should know better I love my best friend and would do anything to be with him in a relationship, I don't know how to separate sex from from feelings I knew that from the start so I can't blame him Its on me. I don't know if we can continue even being friends it kinda sucks.
 
Just wondering if you have an update. I think it's possible to remain friends but it's going to take a lot of work on your part. Finding an available guy to date would be a huge help. I hope you're ok.
 
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