Nearly 28 Virgin NEED help and advice.

[18aussieboi]

Hi guys I'm nearly 28 years old and I am a 100% Virgin. I have only been on 4 dates in my whole life and because of my shy personality I find it really hard to talk to people.
I need advice and help with this because I am so sick of being a virgin at my age. I've never had a boyfriend and I have never done anything sexual with anyone and it has gotten to the point where it is interfering with my everyday life because I am so sexually frustrated.
I am on dating sites etc etc and only ever receive attention from guys old enough to be my father and when I try and talk to people I think I may like they never reply (I understand that is just how all these sites work)
Basically I need help to figure out what to do. Some of you may think its a no brainer and I know that but I have reached desperate levels and need help.

 

[Auspeter]

Hey mate, if you are shy as many people are, do you have friends that can take you out to a gay bar in Brisbane?
Do you have gay friends? Are you totally out? Dating sites can be hit or miss, and I'm not too familiar with the Brisbane gay scene (I'm from Sydney originally) Not knowing your entire circumstance is a little diffficult to point you in the right direction.

 

[18aussieboi]

Hi Auspeter, all of my friends are scattered around the country and overseas. I am totally out and proud and yes I do have gay friends. I have one very close gay friend but he doesnt see me in anyway other than a friend (much to my dismay).

 

[Appleman34]

Maybe get close with the friends you already have? I use that to occupy my time when I'm single.

 

[tengas10]

Use the dating app called Grindr. Filter the ones that are looking for "Right Now". They want to have sex with just about anyone.

 

[Georgiadude]

Let's be realistic about it. Most "dating apps" are hookup apps. Are you involved in any gay social groups? Most larger cities have "meet up" groups. Some have game night or the group goes to dinner. Things like that. What are you doing to try and meet people? He's not going to fall into your lap. You have to get out there and let guys know you're on the market. Volunteer for a gay organization. Many gay relationships start by meeting a friend of a friend. Broaden your horizons. Maybe some of these guys that are "old enough to be your father" are actually nice guys. You may not be attracted to them but they may be a good friend and introduce you to someone more to your liking. Im 50 and I have friends in their early 20's. We aren't dating but we have a good time together. Keep an open mind. You never know when or where mr right is gong to pop into your life.

Steven

 

[Windsong]

Hi guys I'm nearly 28 years old and I am a 100% Virgin. I have only been on 4 dates in my whole life and because of my shy personality I find it really hard to talk to people.

This is gonna sound absurd, but I'm in almost the same boat as you are, man .

I live on the Sunshine Coast, an hour north of Brisbane.

I'm 34, and a virgin. I've never been on a date, and I had my first kiss back before last Christmas. I grew up religious, and when I was a teenager, I decided to be celibate. And I stuck with that ever since. Unfortunately, the end result of that has been that I'm deeply terrified of adult sexuality on any level (beyond my 800 gigs of gay porn, that is). And what I've started to learn recently is that I'm really unhappy with my life. I yearn to date, to fall in love, to explore my sexuality with someone I'm comfortable with and someone I trust. My soul aches for it. But I've never been able to go out and meet anybody.

So take heart, man. There might not be many of us, but there are some people who feel you, who get what you're going through. At the end of the day, being a virgin isn't a deal breaker. I'm sure you're a smart, talented, kind guy. Hugs from me .