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Need help Confronting Father of Drug use

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I really dont know where else to seek help so I'll come here

Well I beleive my father is using drugs. My fmaily and I rarely see him at home anymore. He comes home late in the evening looking drunk, but it seems to me it could be drugs.

Just a few hours ago my Mother was attacked by a "friend" of my father when she went to try and bring my father home. And right now I'm on the verge of killing that man.

So tomorrow I'm going to confront my father on it once and for all. But I am worried about a few things.

First off, I dont know what to say other than i know of his drug use.

Also I dont know what I will end up doing if he just doesnt listen.

I'm also wondering if there is anything I can do to get him help if he needs it.
 
Man, I feel for you. Unfortunately, it's not something I have experience in. I hope someone else on here has some solid advice for you. In the meantime, the only organaization I even know of is Narcotics Anonymous. I am sure that in most areas you can find them. I'm sure there are other avenues as well, but like I said this isn't something I know about. In the meantime, come here for support when you need to vent.I hope things get better for you and your family.
 
I haven't had any experience with something like this. But I would first have a long talk with my mother and see what she wants to do. If you could both be united in what you want to do that would help.
 
Talk to your Mother first and agree to confront him together.
He will most likely deny it and tell you that you both don't know what your talking about.
Personally, I'd want proof of the fact that he isn't, especially if you suspect that he is.
If he says he's not doing drugs, I'd say, then you have no problem going to a Dr and getting a drug test to prove it to us.
But remember one thing - you can't help someone that dosen't want help.
 
What do you hope the outcome to be of this confrontation? If you don't have a clear goal in mind before you proceed and adapt your approach to this goal, you're probably just going to get a lot of anger and yelling.
 
I'm sorry to say that his initial reaction will most likely be to lash out, attempt to leave, or lie and lie until you give up.

If he says he's not doing drugs, I'd say, then you have no problem going to a Dr and getting a drug test to prove it to us.
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I might not phrase it like that. Try to stay as calm as you can, because nothing positive will happen if he feels like you are attacking him at all. Tell him you have suspected him of using, and if it goes in a positive direction then you could mention a drug test. If he turns that down, instead of arguing, tell him that you are there for him and you want to help him.

When my friends confronted me about my drug use, I started screaming at them and ranting about how crazy they were. I almost hit my best friend after a while because I blamed him for making me feel so guilty.

There is an infinite combination of events that could happen when you confront him, just remember to remain calm. If you are approaching him out of anger and not love, then you need to reconsider. I hope things go as well as they can. Good luck.
 
Well thanks everyone for the responses.

As far as why I want to do it, its because I want to help him. If its not drugs then its probably alcohol again and I want to get him help. In the past year I've lost my father, he now rarely talks to me about anything anymore. I also want to know if he's going to stay with us or if hes going to leave so my mother can figure out what to do.

My mother doesnt work and if my dad leaves my mother is the one who has to suffer raising 2 more kids. I'm ready to go find work and everything but I'm also starting college and I dont know if I can take care of my Mother and sister and go to school at the same time.
 
Well i had a conversation with my mother and now I dont think I'm going to bother confronting my dad about anything.

He's already made a choice and its not us so my mom has already told me we're not going to stay in our house very long. Since we rent, we're going to end up moving in a month or so. Also my Mother plans to get welfare and all that. My mom is tight on cash right now and we have a lot of things we still havent paid off such as my and my sisters computers. we only need about 200 left on my sisters one but I need close to 2000 on mine since its a Macbook Pro. I'm not willing to give it up so I'm going to get a job to pay it off myself and hopefully my financial aid money for College can help with that.

So I guess now I feel like the fate of my mom and sister rests on me. It scares me a bit I guess cause I've always depended on my dad. But I guess what doesnt kil you makes you stronger.
 
Sorry to hear about all of that. I've never had parents with a drug problem... but many of friends. And the thing I've learned is that it has to be their decision to quit. Otherwise, it doesn't stand a chance of happening. Hang in there. It sounds like you and the rest of your family are tight and I'm sure you'll all make it through this.
 
My mother abuses pharmaceutical drugs. I've talked to my dad for help and he confronts her directly while I steal and destroy the drugs from her secret stash.
 
If he were my day I would
kick the shit out of him. He needs to be rescued. He will not like it but you are someone who can get away with it. Once he is in the hospital if he is high, he will be detoxed. Have him arrested so he can face rehabilitatioin. Unfortunately, depending on the drugs it may need to happen more than once.

No matter what anyone says, walking away now solves nothing.
He will always be your father, for better or for worse. Your parents can divorce, but you still only have him as your father.
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ElMmSM said:
Well I beleive my father is using drugs. My fmaily and I rarely see him at home anymore. He comes home late in the evening looking drunk, but it seems to me it could be drugs.
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Since he is drunk, might alcool be the problem?
 
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