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Well go figure i while i was talking to you guys about this problem that i'm having my best friend found out that one of his friends from the 3rd grade turned out to be gay. He called me and asked me for advice on what to do(go figure) i asked him did he have a problem with gay people at all and he said not at all its just that he grew upnwith this kid and didn't even fathom that he was gay. I then asked him if his friend was interested in him and he said that his friend said that he wasn't in to him at all. So this whole situation about me not knowing about how he was with gays went out the door with something good i think. Now i know that he is cool with gay people. That will make things hopefully eaiser for me to do what i have to do. But this also makes me think that i should wait a little bit before i tell him so i don't overload him. Do you guys think that this is a good thing to do or should i go ahead and tell him right now????
 
You got your green light. And in fact suddenly I think things are going to be even easier than they were before. Go for it. :)

Lex
 
So i should not wait and just go into it and tell him straight out???
 
And another thing what should i do about my family and everything should i wait until i'm ready to tell them?? Or should i just come out and tell them too??
 
You've got an in. Say, "I can't tell you how happy I was when you told me about your old friend." Then tell him why.

Your parents? No hurry on that. Grow comfortable with somebody knowing first.

Lex
 
Well how long do you think that it will take to set in to him that someone who is as close to him as i am tells him that he is gay and everything??? I'm sorry about being so doubtful but i just am so afraid of the worst happening ya know.
 
My guess is he'll be accepting from the get-go, but he might need a couple days to sort of readjust his thinking on you. That's normal, no biggie. But given what you've said, I really doubt it'll be anything worse than that.

Lex
 
Bryan2o07 said:
Well go figure i while i was talking to you guys about this problem that i'm having my best friend found out that one of his friends from the 3rd grade turned out to be gay. He called me and asked me for advice on what to do(go figure) i asked him did he have a problem with gay people at all and he said not at all its just that he grew upnwith this kid and didn't even fathom that he was gay. I then asked him if his friend was interested in him and he said that his friend said that he wasn't in to him at all. So this whole situation about me not knowing about how he was with gays went out the door with something good i think. Now i know that he is cool with gay people. That will make things hopefully eaiser for me to do what i have to do. But this also makes me think that i should wait a little bit before i tell him so i don't overload him. Do you guys think that this is a good thing to do or should i go ahead and tell him right now????
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Dude, don't you find it a funny coincidence that the story he told you was the same as the fake story you wanted to use to get a feel for how he would react to you coming out to him. Me thinks that he may be feeling you out so he can come out to you(wouldn't that be crazy!);)
 
Pretty much what I was thinking. You may have more of a friend than you know :kiss:.

tmb1 said:
Dude, don't you find it a funny coincidence that the story he told you was the same as the fake story you wanted to use to get a feel for how he would react to you coming out to him. Me thinks that he may be feeling you out so he can come out to you(wouldn't that be crazy!);)
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Well how long do you think that it will take to set in to him that someone who is as close to him as i am tells him that he is gay and everything??? I'm sorry about being so doubtful but i just am so afraid of the worst happening ya know.
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Dear Lord Bryan....I hope that you are not as fretful about everything that happens in your life because you will be paralyzed by doubt and fear.

You're about to start living as an adult man away from home. At some point you just have to start living your life and learn that there are consequences, both expected and totally unexpected.

You been given a truckload of good advice on the issue. Just get on with it. Good luck. It will turn out fine....and if it doesn't, it will all turn out fine anyway.
 
hey guys thanks for all your advice i think i'm gonna give it a go tonight he called me and asked me if i wanted to go to a billard hall so i think that i can give it a try there. Wouldn't that be funny if he already knows and is cool with it if he already knew i'm gonna be i dunno what ill be but anyways i'll let you guys know what all happens when
 
i get back sorry talking to people while trying to type is not a good thing to do......lol
 
Hey guys i went out with him tonight but everything did not seem right and i asked him what was wrong and he just started pouring out to me about how hard his life has been going for him and then he got the bill for his car(he messed it up a couple weeks ago) that was really high and he got really upset. So i didn't tell him tonight because he needed me more than i needed him at the present moment in time but i will tell him soon....just gotta get me and him alone again so i can.
 
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