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I have a bit of an issue. With a straight guy.
I have this "friend" who I think that I am in love with. Anyways, he is straight. I have been with several women, and only had one relationship with a guy that recently just ended.
He did not know that I was bi. So I slowly began to come out to him and tell him about my relationship with my then boyfriend. He would ask me about my sex life. I would explain to him in detail. The first time I had sex with my boyfriend was the first time I had sex with a guy before, so I went into detail of my first time when I explained it to him. After I told him that I was both top and bottom, he asked me how it felt. I explained the sensation to him and he just laughed.
About a week later he told me that ever since I had told him about my first experience he was curious himself. Right after he immediately changed the subject.
We would flirt daily with each other even though we were both in relationships. His being with a girl. One day he asked me if I had feelings for him. I told him that I did. He told me that it made him a bit uncomfortable, but he got past that.
Ever since we became friends, we would talk to each other daily for about an hour on the phone, and we would send each other about a hundred texts daily.
As time went by, we started slowly drifting apart.
He went on vacation early this year, and didn't even tell me when he left. He just called me about two weeks later and told me that he was on vacation, and that he just found out that his girlfriend was pregnant.
Keep in mind I'm still with my boyfriend at this time.
I told him that I will always be there for him if he needs me for anything. He was scared about being a father.
We started talking less and less as time went by, and I came to a decision that I needed to get over him, and that the best thing to do is to sever all communication with him. (He had told me before to never call him again)
So I don't call him.
He calls me about every other week and asks me why I don't call him.
I was like wtf?!
He had told me not to.]
So he was like "You can't call me every once and a while?!"
So, after that I would try to call him about 2 times a week, every time that I would call him, he never answers!.
When he did return my calls (usually several hours later, most of the times not at all)
he would talk to me for about a minute and then says I can't talk anymore, gotta go!
This pisses me off, you don't know how much.
So to myself I say that I will just stop talking to him.
I never call him, but he still calls me about once a week, we talk for a minute, and he hangs up. I don't know what goes through his mind, or what he is doing to me!
:help:
I am very confused by his behavior.
When I told him that I broke up with my boyfriend last week, he just ignored me, and hung up as usual.
he still calls and hangs up.
What should I do?
I was thinking of changing my phone number, and not talking to him, but I find it so hard because i still love him.
Everytime he calls me my heart melts. But I think it would be best for me to just stop talking to him because his behavior just hurts me, and I don't know how he feels about me.
 
he sounds like hes confused with his feelings and hes under stress about his girlfriend too,i suggest just keep on trying to call him every other week until he reaches out to you,be there for him when he needs you.
 
I agree with gematria, either that or hes fucking with you.
 
i don't think the way he treats me is fair to me, so maybe i'll just stay away from him.
 
just stay away from him.

Sounds like you've found the solution, reading between the lines he sounds a little mixed up and the more you contact him or let him contact you the more he'll mess with your head.

It's time to move on.
 
Friends should be, at least, respectful. Befriend yourself. Let him go fish.
 
Sounds like termination time for this friendship. If he is a soon-to-be-father, he needs to sort himself out asap, as he sounds like an idiot and a drama queen from your description. Don't bother calling him, as that's like giving a spoilt, tantrum-prone child what it wants.

I understand you're in love with him, but those feelings will have to end. Afterall, he has a girlfriend and a child on the way. Thoughts of you two falling in desperately in and living in a nice cottage in the countryside are just silly and irrational. Good luck with the "getting over him" thing. x
 
Do not call him. Next time he calls you, tell him he should only call if he actually has something to say. Do not count on him growing up though.
 
I think he has feelings for you too. It seems like he is just too afraid to admit it though. When he doesn't hear from you in a while he misses you. I think he really has a lot he wants to say to you but he is too afraid. He may never come to terms with feeling that way for a guy so you should try your best to get over him.
 
Today I made the biggest mistake of going to visit him after he invited me over. While I was there. I tried to talk with him. All he did was either ignore me or walk away. He made me feel like crap
 
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