Need some help...

[jakeknapp]

looking for some advice if anyones willing, heres my story
Just turned 18, not out yet from uk and last week visited dad, living in hong kong. Met a french guy online in 30s, visited him a couple times, had sex talked then he invited me to meet his friends at straight bar then visit gay bar for 1st time. Night was amazing and met one of his friends, 22yo east european and really hit it off. We talked, danced, flirted a lot and i really like him but he said tht he has a bf, and also i had to leave the next day to return home. The problem is i just cant stop thinking about him, my heart is just pounding,it feels amazing whenever i think of him and i cant wait until i return in july in 3 months to maybe see him again. im pretty new to all this stuff and very confused, what do my feelings mean, was i just excited/overwhelmed by the whole experience, should i just try and forget about him or should i try meet him again, iv never felt this way about anyone before, could he be the one? thx for reading and any advice would be appreciated....

 

[hylas]

... im pretty new to all this stuff and very confused, what do my feelings mean, was i just excited/overwhelmed by the whole experience...

yeah, that pretty much summs it up. i dont wanna crash the hormone-party in your pants, but dont take your crazy feelings too seriously. dont confuse crushes like that with "true, everlasting love" or whatever. and dont start your love life by trying to have a long-distance relationship. those are crazy difficult and nothing a inexperienced young teenager should attempt. for starters, find a boyfriend who is close to you (geographically, culturally, age-wise), or just play around a little. have fun, explore, stay safe.

 

[Georgiadude]

First. Congratulations on taking some major steps. I'm very happy for you.

That was your first experience and you had a wonderful time. It's the first of many times you will meet someone, flirt and have fun. Believe me. You will meet other guys and have a great time with them too. He has a bf. and lives a long distance from you. The odds of him being "the one" are extremely small. Now that you've taken the first steps find someone closer to you that isn't in a relationship. you will be a lot more happy in the long run.

You were in Hong Kong, had sex, went to a bar, met some cute guys, danced etc. You got caught up in the moment. It sounds like a wonderful time. I'd want to hold onto that too. But as far as a relationship goes. Don't pin your hopes on it happening. Find someone near you. Then you can have that experience all the time instead of in 3 months.

 

[jakeknapp]

thanks for the advice guys, but i was thinking, how do i get rid of these feelings, its like i miss him so bad, we only met for a night!and i still feel just as strongly, what if they don't go away?

 

[G-Lexington]

They will. Stay active, stay social.

Lex

 

[rareboy]

Just remind yourself

but he said tht he has a bf

 

[Georgiadude]

we were pointing out some things to help you realize that it isn't going to work. the best way to help deal with the feelings your having is to rationally think about this. He's a long distance away, he has a boyfriend etc. once you've accepted the fact that you need to move on do it. find someone in your area to be with. I guarantee that with time and finding someone local you will be just as happy if not more. I know it's hard and you had a great time. Who wouldn't want that to continue? there's no magic pill or easy answer. you have some great memories. now find someone near you and make some new ones.

good luck.

Steven.