Nervous Virgin Needs Help

[DCLoverBoy]

Hi everyone. This is my very first post. Exciting isn't it? lol

Im just a nervous, 18 year old new yorker looking for some answers.
So Im a virgin and Im really nervous about my first time. I mean I know it's not gonna be anything like a porn video but hey.
Im pretty sure I wanna bottom. Im just a little nervous. Will it hurt? What about hygiene? What if the guy I do it with is really big?

I basically wanna try and play with myself first so I can at least get used to the feeling and kind of stretch myself alittle. So if anybody can give me some answers, advice, personal first time stories. I would really apreciate it.

Also if anybody lives in NYC, can you tell me about places I could go to meet people around my age or just to hang out and find friends.

Thanx

 

[racer2438]

First Be SAFE ONLY use comdoms.
No comdom no sex live by that rule.

To play around your self in vest in a small Dildo or if you cant get ,use a cucumber(clean). It will get your hole alittle use to having something coming in.

Being clean down there , no large meals hours before and go to bath room before you have sex, and use a ennema to clean your self. you can make one or buy one not that expensive.

be relaxed and not in a rush to get fucked. let other guy know you are new to this and if he is to ruff then just stop and dont let him force it on you. Take your time.

above all follow rule 1 at top.

 

[grady26]

The secret of any butt play is lube, LOTS of lube, DC

And for those necessary condoms for any bottoming, make sure the lube is water based -- less likely the condoms will fall apart.

And as race wisely suggested, play around with that sphincter muscle to have it used to an "invasion." With some toy, object you may discover the magic of that male prostate gland.

Good luck!

 

[LeoMikey]

Take your time, use LOTS of latex-safe lube (buy one with a pump dispenser, much less fuss) and clean your hole with an enema. A great book to buy is the "New Joy Of Gay Sex", everything you need to know.
Find a guy who isn't intent on banging you right away, someone with patience. You need to be really horny and relaxed to enjoy anal, and being nervous won't help. Tons of kissing, sucking, then let him work your hole with his fingers first (or a toy) to loosen you up. Don't let him lay on top of you, or get you on your back with your legs up. Both of these positions let him slam into you all the way. The best way is to have him lie or sit down, and you lower yourself onto his dick slowly. It will hurt, don't let anyone tell you it won't, but the pain passes quickly. And when you feel the pleasure, it is beyond words.
Since you live in NYC, there are tons of places to buy dildoes, vibrators, condoms, lube, porn....so go have fun. Buy a few dildoes, small medium and large. Remember to start with the thinnest ones, it's easy to take length, butt width is harder. A great one i've found is the Oral-B Pulsar toothbrush! It's the cheapest toy you can buy, and you won't be embarrassed to buy a toothbrush. It's got enough length and thickness to feel great, the end is tapered to slide in easily...and the vibrations feel intense! No way you can use it and not beat off a massive load. Oh yeah, if you've never had tried anal stimulation, get ready for the hard-on of your life! Once you get used to toys up your ass, get past the pain, and find that you NEED to fuck yourself daily, you're ready for the real thing.
It really important you train yourself before finding a guy. There is nothing worse than finding a guy who really wants to get fucked, and then he makes you pull out because he can't handle it! Someday it's you that will be fucking a virgin, so keep that in mind.

 

[G-Lexington]

Most of the other posts have it down. Here's your checklist:

Understanding partner.
Make sure partner is aware it's your first time.
Condoms.
Lots of lube.
Lots of foreplay.
Take your time.

The one thing you don't have much control over is the partner. He may seem great until you get him in the bedroom, and then he may end up being a grade-A clod. If that happens, you have every right to push him away and say, "This isn't working. Let's try something else." With any luck, you won't have to, though.

Good luck!

Lex

 

[kellyd669]

I agree with all the rest, except, not laying on your back w/ legs up, or letting him lay on you- both positions are great! Let him work the area w/ finger or tongue (his preference). I find if I am stroking my dick at any speed helps a great deal! Let him press his dick to your hole and very lightly push. If he is a considerate lover, he will let you choose how much of him to take in, and do it slowly as possible. Once he is all the way in, he can start changing the tempo-sometimes it's best nice and slow, and sometimes it's fantastic hard and fast- you'll find your speed together- I was 30 before I did it for the first time, and he was pretty large, but he ws considerate and slow, and now I'm hooked- still have only done it w/ 2 other men (boyfriends, no strangers)

 

[DCLoverBoy]

Thanx all of you. I feel more relaxed and at ease.

Hopefully I will let you guys know how it went when it happens.