New and First Boyfriend Advice

[Dr Feel Good]

Hello JUB,

I met him on August 24, 2007. I knew he liked me from the way he looked at me and the way he just introduced himself at the university that we go to. We started to hang out and become friends. On September 4, 2007, I found myself helping him plan a future event for the university. On September 11, 2007, after my classes he and I saw each other again and agreed to meet in his room at 7:30pm to make a flyer for the event and to do homework/study. Twenty minutes into making the flyer he starts to hit on me and confessed that he had feelings for me from when he first saw me. Little did he know I had feelings for him, too. Ten minutes later, we started to kiss, rub, and touch all over each other's bodies. Five minutes later we started to have sex. It lasted almost all night. Now we are in a commited relationship and madly in love. I need advice on general expectations since this is my very first boyfriend and relationship.......

Thx
Dr Feel Good

 

[G-Lexington]

Try not to have much in the way of expectations. It's hard to guess what to expect - some first relationships last a week, some last a lifetime. My main advice would be "enjoy the ride".

Lex

 

[muscleboy82000]

I have to agree with G-Lexington. Take it slow, have fun and let things develop naturally. Dont force it. Remember that a relationship is about two people and make sure that both of you are happy. This means doing things together that he enjoys that you might not me, allowing him some space for old friends and activities and focus on the little things that are usually the maker or breaker of a relationship.

Here is a couple of examples. I like some alone time to read so while my bf is doing homework, I usually sit out on the porch and read. We both spend some time with old friends, like last week I had dinner with a few friends.

The last thing is you must communicate and let the other guy know how you feel.

Best of luck

 

[thermodynamics]

Awwww. Enjoy it!

 

[pausanias_usa]

Yes, take it easy. Don't fill yourself up with high expectations, most of all.

Becoming obsessive is always a bad sign: "This is the first month anniversary of our first sharing a bowl of peanuts at the mixer!" Not a habit to develop that will help your relationships.

 

[Dr Feel Good]

Thank you so much. Because I was really about to go to the "obsession route". Here's a good example, I began to think he was cheating on me because I didn't recieve more than one phone call from him. But after thinking about it, I was just being stupid and lonely because I'm not with him. Since my mother had my little sister three weeks ago, I've been coming home every weekend to help out. I just miss him a lot. He told me earlier that misses me a lot. With the advice given, I will take it to mind through this journey. Thank you all a lot and please keep the advice coming.

P.S.
It's sort of late but he and I are having our first date Tuesday....(I'm so excited)

 

[HOspitalboy]

Awe, best of luck, and congrats. Hope for the best, and never become an obsessive person, it's the worst thing a person could do, worry, but not too much!