New guy here looking for some good convo with other bi's

[TrailRider86]

Hey guys. I just joined this (pretty sweet) site cause I am looking for other younger bi dudes to chat about bi issues. Im not out and don't have any bi friends (that I know about ha). I've been thinking about this a lot recently so I wanna chat about it. Let me know if this kinda thing goes on here. Things like: do most bi guys come out? and how do others respond to that? I feel like it doesnt go over as well as coming out as gay, ha. Also, do other bi guys here actually "date" guys or just hookup with them? Sorry if these questions are awkward im just trying to figure myself out more. Thanks all.

 

[star-warrior]

Firstly, welcome to justusboys

You have a lot of deep questions that would probably be better answered in the no-flame forum Coming Out, Relationships and Bi-Sex talk.

If you don't mind, I shall move it over to COR&BST, as Straight and Bi-Dude tends to concern itself more with porn than relationship issues.

 

[TrailRider86]

No problem. Thanks for the tip/help!

 

[star-warrior]

You're welcomed Look around all the forums and get a feel for them. Have a good time

 

[conrad]

If you are genuinely attracted to another person as a person making no big deal about whether that person is a male or a female there is certainly no need to come out to anyone. True bi men.IMHO, can be and are loyal to their one partner whatever the gender.

It is when one wants to play the field having sex with men and women purely for the thrill of the sex and without any sense of faithfulness in relationship that the trouble emerges.

Let's face it, there are loving and lovable men and there are loving and lovable women. IMHO, it is the foolish person who tries to have both kinds of sex and "relationship?" going at the same time who gives bisexuality a bad name.

 

[topherlover555]

sometimes i think i might be bi haha
im not sexually attracted to women, but emotionally i am...guess that DOES make me gay
anyway
my advice to you is to tell people you trust about these things
the more open you are about yourself, the more opportunities of meeting people will come your way
from my experience, i havent met a single bi guy who wanted a relationship; its always bout the sex...which for me is a turn OFF
it would be nice to hear that there are bisexual guys out there who arent just interested in screwing any hole they find!
but i know if theyre anywhere, theyre on this forum
good luck!

 

[TrailRider86]

Holy crap, you have no bi friends? ME NEITHER! I have a gay friend, though. Not much the same....

I haven't come out to anyone, my mom thinks I'm gayer than "Bruno," and I've only dated a couple times, always girls. I'm kinda nervous when it comes to full frontal asking a guy out. :<
Sorry, I guess that doesn't help you much, does it? (Why would your questions be awkward?)

thanks for the responses guys,
I've been with guys b4 but never "dated" them. Its just been hooking up I guess you would say. I think, however, that I could actually date a guy like I can with girls but I'm not sure. I'm starting to think that I actually couldnt date a guy though without coming out; which I'm not willing to do. Not a huge deal, but interesting I guess. I've only met guys through online places so I have no idea about how u would spot a bi guy walking down the street - haha

 

[Tizinsane]

Welcome to JUB!!!

I'm a 20 year old bi guy. My IM address is in my sig if u want to chat!

 

[AmunRa]

I'm a bi guy that's open to dating both guys and girls.

I've only come out to a few of my friends, though I'm working on that.

My family is uber-conservative christian so they don't even know I have sex, much less that I do it with men as well as women. I think I would only come out to them if I got into a really serious relationship with a guy.

 

[rainman256]

My feelings tend to side with Bi-Guys -- I'm a little traditional in the sense that I'd like to go steady with someone a while before sex.

My gaydar is broken, too. It's sort of like a compass that never points the right way...and it's got moisture inside, and the needle is bent, it's scratched up, and dirty, and, well, it just doesn't work very good. And it always points towards me. wth?

And TrailRider, if you ever want to chat I'd be up for that, too .