Newbie : Oral Sex

[FloridaBoi]

Hey guys I have a quick question.

I tried oral sex for the first time last night. I only put it in my mouth a couple of times and each time was for a very short period, He was mostly still semi hard while I was experimenting.

My question is, I have a cavity in one of my teeth and I was wondering if I could have caught anything even though there was NO precum at all?

Im just freaking out because this is my first sexual experiance and I am just a paranoid person, although Ive known him for a while and dont believe that he has anything anyways I was just wondering just incase I try it again...

thanks guys

 

[bankside]

The real answer is, yes, but not very likely.

Imagine how much more you would enjoy yourself if you didn't just believe he had anything, but actually ask him about it and knew the answer.

Have you done anything with anyone else before?
Have you been screened for STDs? When? Done anything with anyone since then?
And when was the last time you did anything with anyone else before you got tested? Three months? Good. 6 months, even better!

The only one who knows the only answer that will really put your mind at ease is this guy, not us.

If he is the kind of person who can lie easily, or f he freaks out at any of these questions, they you are automatically taking on all the risks he doesn't want to deal with. Then you just have to ask is he worth it?

 

[FloridaBoi]

He is the first guy that I have ever done anything with at all.

I asked him before and he said that he didnt have anything and that he ges tested every 6 months.

Ive never been tested for stds before because this is my first sexual encounter

 

[bankside]

Okay so he has some personal responsibility, and you were doing something pretty low risk. What is his idea of getting to know someone? One night stands? Dating for a week or two before sleeping together, or starting a relationship before sleeping together or something else?

Are you his guy # 3 or guy #30?

 

[KaraBulut]

I have a cavity in one of my teeth and I was wondering if I could have caught anything

Depends on what "anything" is.

There are no blood vessels in the teeth, so a cavity doesn't change your risk factors.

If "anything" is HIV, the risk of HIV from any oral activity is very low.

If "anything" is syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhea or human papilloma virus (HPV), then yes, there is some risk in oral sex.

But there's risk and then there's paranoia...

You've limited your risk by limiting the number of your partners (since this was your first time) and making informed choices about who you had sex with (by knowing your partner and having an idea of their sexual history). And you did not indulge in high risk behavior like anal sex without a condom.

Continue exploring. Continue making smart choices. Practice safe sex. And now that you're sexually active, get STD testing on a regular basis.

 

[FloridaBoi]

Thanks guys, Im just a over paranoid person about everything.

We have been talking and we are working on a relationship and he knows that I wont have sex until Im sure I want it to be with him

He has never tried to pressure me into sex at all.

Sometimes we get a Hotel room and last night we did and he asked if it was okay if he "did his thing" and ofcouse I said yes.

It was my idea to try oral not his, I know now it was stupid. I can tell you from this 1 experiance that I will never do it agian.

But thanks guys, Its not so much the fact that im worried about him having anything because I feel in my heart that he doesnt

Its just that this was my first sexual experiance and I was scared and paranoid as hell...

Neways thanks guys!!!!

Love,
Matthew

 

[bankside]

Woah! I hope it wasn't anything I said that helped you get to that conclusion...

STDs are like anything - a cold, tonsillitis, acne... it isn't something you can diagnose in your heart, it is diagnosed in a petrie dish.

Please be careful of using your heart to decide if you are safe or not. Only a doctor's tests for each of you and an honest conversation can help you with that decision.

But why do you say it was stupid? Because you're not ready? Because you want a better idea of where your relationship is headed? I hope it is not only because you were thinking of STDs. And I hope the next time is when you are more comfortable, but don't deny yourself the next time completely! There are good, smart ways to deal with health questions and concerns so you can both have a good time and be free to enjoy each other without worry.

 

[KaraBulut]

It was my idea to try oral not his, I know now it was stupid. I can tell you from this 1 experiance that I will never do it agian.

It's not healthy to be at either extreme- whether it's "I can't say no to anything or anyone" or a "I'll never do it".

Healthy sexuality is part of a healthy life. Just make smart choices and enjoy.