I have a little anecdote, but if you don't want to read it, just skip to the last line.
So I’m 23 years old. I’ve never really dated anyone, mostly because I don’t really meet a lot of gay guys that I like in my day-to-day life. Also, I’ve never really fooled around with anyone because I’m not into random hookups either. A few weeks ago, however, I met someone at the club and we’ve been hitting it off. Last night, I was at his house and we were lying in his bed naked, and we were both horny and, of course, things heated up. The only problem was that I didn’t get hard. Granted, I know that guys have trouble getting it up sometimes when they’re nervous, so I shouldn’t be too worried. I’m tempted to just blame nerves for my lack of action last night, but when I thought about the last few years, it made me worry that it could be something more.
Although I’ve kinda been in denial about it, I never get erections. Like ever. Unless I’m sleeping or watching porn (and sometimes not even then). No random boners in the day, which I figured was because I’m not a teenager anymore. I don’t get hard when I see a hot guy or when I’ve made out with a guy. In fact, the last time I remember getting a boner when I wasn’t sleeping or masturbating to porn was when a drunk and depressed girl-friend of mine came on to me when we were in bed after the bar. I obviously didn’t want to have sex, and told her to stop, but she insisted and was rubbing herself against me. Although I could agonize over if that means I’m straight, I still don’t get hard to girls either. Another time I can remember being hard was when an incredibly attractive not-gay-guy crush of mine was spooning me when we went to bed, but I was having some pretty awesome fantasies/dreams then haha.
I used to get erections easy in Junior High, and probably High School, but I don’t think it’s been that way since I was 18. These are the only reasons that I can imagine:
1) I never masturbate without porn. Maybe once a year do I get off without it (and I’m pretty sure it’s usually when I’m drunk). Porn just makes it so easy and quick to get off. I don’t watch it everyday, in fact, it’s usually 1-3 times a week (almost always after midnight, right before bed), but I ALWAYS watch porn to get off. Sometimes I go weeks without watching porn or masturbating. Sometimes I get off everyday (but rarely more than once a day, as in, like maybe 5 times ever). Sometimes, I watch porn because I’m horny and want to get off quick and easy, but I’m too tired and the porn doesn’t excite me, so I just go to sleep instead. When I do masturbate, it can sometimes take an hour or more if I don’t concentrate on it, as in, get distracted by something else, but sometimes if I’m really horny or don’t have a lot of time, I can get off in 10-15 minutes.
It’s been this way probably since I turned 18 and got my own credit card and also became less paranoid about getting caught watching porn or masturbating.
2) I used to do drugs for a couple years (19-21), and I’m pretty much a binge-drinking partyholic. I’ve done countless pills of E, and there were periods when I did blow everyday. I used to fool around with a gay friend of mine when we did E or blow, and I couldn’t get hard then either, but I blamed it on the drugs at the time. I haven't done blow at all in 2.5 years and I have only done E about 5 times in the past 3 years (I like raves, and sometimes it just happens) but not for several months. Also, my job for over 3 years has been a bartender. Last year I probably got drunk 3-5 times a week because we drank on shift. Lately, however, I probably get drunk around once a week.
3) When I was 18, I had a pain in my testicles and found the source to be a little ball-shaped thing on one of my testicles. Obviously, I was freaked out, but my family and the internet calmed me down about it by saying it probably wasn’t cancer because it was painful (and cancerous tumors aren’t, I guess?). It went away soon enough so I didn’t worry (and never went to a doctor since it’s almost impossible to get in, takes forever, and rarely yields anything useful. Also, I’m a little shy about a doctor touching my junk). The pain comes back every once in awhile (once a year maybe) and sometimes I look for the little lump, but I don’t consistently find it, and sometimes I swear it switches places and testicles. Oh, and the testicle that I initially found it on is noticeably smaller than the other, if that’s not normal.
I plan on sucking it up and going to the doctor, unless this problem clears up soon, but I’m wondering if anyone has an experience with this problem. I’m not sure if it’s just a porn addiction, the drugs I used to do, or something more serious like cancer or hormone imbalance. I’m mostly looking for advice on the effects of watching porn (this being a porn hub afterall). I searched for “porn addiction erectile dysfunction” but didn’t return anything worthwhile.
Does anyone have any experience with ED or low libido being fixed by cutting out porn?
So I’m 23 years old. I’ve never really dated anyone, mostly because I don’t really meet a lot of gay guys that I like in my day-to-day life. Also, I’ve never really fooled around with anyone because I’m not into random hookups either. A few weeks ago, however, I met someone at the club and we’ve been hitting it off. Last night, I was at his house and we were lying in his bed naked, and we were both horny and, of course, things heated up. The only problem was that I didn’t get hard. Granted, I know that guys have trouble getting it up sometimes when they’re nervous, so I shouldn’t be too worried. I’m tempted to just blame nerves for my lack of action last night, but when I thought about the last few years, it made me worry that it could be something more.
Although I’ve kinda been in denial about it, I never get erections. Like ever. Unless I’m sleeping or watching porn (and sometimes not even then). No random boners in the day, which I figured was because I’m not a teenager anymore. I don’t get hard when I see a hot guy or when I’ve made out with a guy. In fact, the last time I remember getting a boner when I wasn’t sleeping or masturbating to porn was when a drunk and depressed girl-friend of mine came on to me when we were in bed after the bar. I obviously didn’t want to have sex, and told her to stop, but she insisted and was rubbing herself against me. Although I could agonize over if that means I’m straight, I still don’t get hard to girls either. Another time I can remember being hard was when an incredibly attractive not-gay-guy crush of mine was spooning me when we went to bed, but I was having some pretty awesome fantasies/dreams then haha.
I used to get erections easy in Junior High, and probably High School, but I don’t think it’s been that way since I was 18. These are the only reasons that I can imagine:
1) I never masturbate without porn. Maybe once a year do I get off without it (and I’m pretty sure it’s usually when I’m drunk). Porn just makes it so easy and quick to get off. I don’t watch it everyday, in fact, it’s usually 1-3 times a week (almost always after midnight, right before bed), but I ALWAYS watch porn to get off. Sometimes I go weeks without watching porn or masturbating. Sometimes I get off everyday (but rarely more than once a day, as in, like maybe 5 times ever). Sometimes, I watch porn because I’m horny and want to get off quick and easy, but I’m too tired and the porn doesn’t excite me, so I just go to sleep instead. When I do masturbate, it can sometimes take an hour or more if I don’t concentrate on it, as in, get distracted by something else, but sometimes if I’m really horny or don’t have a lot of time, I can get off in 10-15 minutes.
It’s been this way probably since I turned 18 and got my own credit card and also became less paranoid about getting caught watching porn or masturbating.
2) I used to do drugs for a couple years (19-21), and I’m pretty much a binge-drinking partyholic. I’ve done countless pills of E, and there were periods when I did blow everyday. I used to fool around with a gay friend of mine when we did E or blow, and I couldn’t get hard then either, but I blamed it on the drugs at the time. I haven't done blow at all in 2.5 years and I have only done E about 5 times in the past 3 years (I like raves, and sometimes it just happens) but not for several months. Also, my job for over 3 years has been a bartender. Last year I probably got drunk 3-5 times a week because we drank on shift. Lately, however, I probably get drunk around once a week.
3) When I was 18, I had a pain in my testicles and found the source to be a little ball-shaped thing on one of my testicles. Obviously, I was freaked out, but my family and the internet calmed me down about it by saying it probably wasn’t cancer because it was painful (and cancerous tumors aren’t, I guess?). It went away soon enough so I didn’t worry (and never went to a doctor since it’s almost impossible to get in, takes forever, and rarely yields anything useful. Also, I’m a little shy about a doctor touching my junk). The pain comes back every once in awhile (once a year maybe) and sometimes I look for the little lump, but I don’t consistently find it, and sometimes I swear it switches places and testicles. Oh, and the testicle that I initially found it on is noticeably smaller than the other, if that’s not normal.
I plan on sucking it up and going to the doctor, unless this problem clears up soon, but I’m wondering if anyone has an experience with this problem. I’m not sure if it’s just a porn addiction, the drugs I used to do, or something more serious like cancer or hormone imbalance. I’m mostly looking for advice on the effects of watching porn (this being a porn hub afterall). I searched for “porn addiction erectile dysfunction” but didn’t return anything worthwhile.
Does anyone have any experience with ED or low libido being fixed by cutting out porn?
