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No more sexual confusion

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Hi everyone,

I wrote a post about two years ago describing my sexual and romantic confusion, I just wanted to post that confusion is officially gone!!!

For years I was deeply confused about who I was attracted too, I loved gay porn and it was convinced from an early age I was definitely gay, I was attracted to women too, but men more. The problem was the romantic and sexual side never lined up, I was hopelessly in love with women and was heartbroken everytime I failed to develop a relationship with them. In the few times I had the opportunities to have sex, I couldn't perform, just didn't happen. It's like I had to make a choice between who I was sexually attracted too and romantically attracted too.

Fast forward to 2018 and I made the decision "You owe it to yourself to see what its like to be with a man", so I took the plunge and OMG it was fantastic! It was like a completely different experience, I was hard and into it from the get go. Since then I've had sex on a few occasions and I'm never going back, it was like a light switch went off in my head.

I still don't know if the romantic side will lineup, but at least I'm now giving it the chance too. I'm slowly immersing myself more and more and I'm excited to hopefully to be on this board and more as time goes on :).

It's been so hard, but I finally know, sexually I love men!
 
Congratulations on your discovery!

I think there are alot of men in your shoes. I have met many of them over the years and I think they are telling the truth when they say they are more sexually attracted to men and more romantically attracted to women. I never got the sense that they were in denial about anything. Many of them were my sex partners because even though I strictly like men emotionally and romantically I don't like to pretend lust is love so no strings sex with someone else who knows who they are is a very good thing..|

As I have known quite a few men who have the same profile sexually and romantically I want to add that alot of them were completely open with their romantic partners who were women - so maybe you can find that woman who likes and appreciates you for who you are and have the best of both worlds.
 
dane92 said:
...Fast forward to 2018 and I made the decision "You owe it to yourself to see what its like to be with a man", so I took the plunge and OMG it was fantastic! It was like a completely different experience, I was hard and into it from the get go. Since then I've had sex on a few occasions and I'm never going back, it was like a light switch went off in my head.
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You're not the first to liken their first sexual experiences to the flip of a light switch. It can be that dramatic. It can also be the moment where it all begins to make sense.

dane92 said:
...I still don't know if the romantic side will lineup, but at least I'm now giving it the chance too. I'm slowly immersing myself more and more and I'm excited to hopefully to be on this board and more as time goes on :).
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There's a light switch on the romantic side, too. Just keep in mind that first loves are often bumpy and sometimes even painful but that's also part of the process of figuring it all out.
 
Hey good for you whatever makes you feel comfortable of what your into sexually
 
cabinfever said:
Congratulations on your discovery!

I think there are alot of men in your shoes. I have met many of them over the years and I think they are telling the truth when they say they are more sexually attracted to men and more romantically attracted to women. I never got the sense that they were in denial about anything. Many of them were my sex partners because even though I strictly like men emotionally and romantically I don't like to pretend lust is love so no strings sex with someone else who knows who they are is a very good thing..|

As I have known quite a few men who have the same profile sexually and romantically I want to add that alot of them were completely open with their romantic partners who were women - so maybe you can find that woman who likes and appreciates you for who you are and have the best of both worlds.
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Thankyou :)

This makes me feel a lot more like a belong, I have been doing a lot of reading on people that are hetro-romantic/homo-sexual and it seems like there is a lot of people in the same position. It is hard to find but like you say there may be women out there that are open to a relationship like that and even if I can't find one there is no reason why later on down the track maybe my romantic and sexual side will lineup.
 
KaraBulut said:
You're not the first to liken their first sexual experiences to the flip of a light switch. It can be that dramatic. It can also be the moment where it all begins to make sense.


There's a light switch on the romantic side, too. Just keep in mind that first loves are often bumpy and sometimes even painful but that's also part of the process of figuring it all out.
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It's crazy how it just felt right and I wish that light switch had gone off quicker, but I'm there now which is great. I hope the romantic side will lineup as well and like you said it could be down the road and that switch might go off.

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GayMan321 said:
Hey good for you whatever makes you feel comfortable of what your into sexually
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Thanks mate :), definitely comfortable sexually now.
 
dane92 said:
Thankyou :)

This makes me feel a lot more like a belong, I have been doing a lot of reading on people that are hetro-romantic/homo-sexual and it seems like there is a lot of people in the same position. It is hard to find but like you say there may be women out there that are open to a relationship like that and even if I can't find one there is no reason why later on down the track maybe my romantic and sexual side will lineup.
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I am sure you have heard of the men who love to watch their woman with another woman - there are MANY of them - millions - it is a very common fetish.

Well - there are the female counterparts who also love to watch men with men BUT society is not as accepting of a woman openly admitting it - yet. I promise you there are more than a few out there as well and not as hard to find as one might think. It just isn't as openly talked about.

You might even find you do develop romantic feelings for men - or maybe even both. :)
 
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