No recip BJs

[hercsurf]

just curious and will try to be as non judgemental as possible here but sorta wondered what u dudes think about guys who will offer you a no recip BJ after you have told them you werent into them or didnt want to hookup, date whatever. I have had this happen to me a bunch of times and found it really odd. Like why would a person offer that after the other guy said they werent into them? Obviously I know there are guys who like servicing other guys and im totally down with that.. but even if its that I still need to be really into the guy to have him go down on me. I guess ist flattering in a way..but I could never just let a guy blow me for the hell of it... no matter how godo it may feel I dont think I could even get hard for that.

What do u guys think of that when a guy offers that after you have said you werent into them? Like youll say no and the guy says " ok thats cool.. I can just blow you if you want.. im really good at it" Im usually like i dont think so ( and for the record i have yet to meet a dude who has told me he is bad at it haha"

 

[Corny]

well i guess that's the desperate last thing he has to offer.
hoping that you say bad sex is better than no sex, and since you don't need to do anything you agree to it.
don't go there. but you figured that one out yourself already

 

[Jerry]

I've rejected guys and had them offer me a bj. And I always say no. It's kinda creepy.

But at the same time, I've given a no recip bj myself. Not after being rejected though. It wasn't a last grasp at something, it was just what I wanted to do, and what he wanted too. So that's different I guess.
I liked doing it because I wanted to make him feel good, and having him moan and squirm and tense up right before he came was cool for me. But then again this wasn't some random guy off the internet either, so I think that changes things too.

 

[Fiorino]

I met a guy on a phone chat line who just wants to give me bj's, no recp. he is bi but likes giving bj's and was looking for a steady hook up, we got together and now do so on a regular basis, he gives one hell of a bj, especaially afer he has spent a lot of time with his girlfriend.

 

[phillypornlover]

There's a dude who hits me up every now and then to suck me off. I don't mind. He knows I'm really not interested in him and he's cool with that. He actually might not even be interested in me. But when he gets horny he just wants to blow me, and nothing else. I love getting head, and he knows that. And he does it well.

I'm not really into giving no recip BJs myself. Definitely not if I know the guy's not interested in me. But if I was really into someone and we were feelin' each other, who knows.

 

[Horschallen]

Guess for some of us, our mission is to give no-recip blow jobs. I do not mind doing it myself at times.

 

[smoothebottom]

Guess for some of us, our mission is to give no-recip blow jobs. I do not mind doing it myself at times.

The point the OP was trying to advance was -- the fact that he can turn a guy down because he's not into him (either physically or mentally or because he can't stand the guy) and yet he is still offered a no recip blow job.

...Ive been there. It happens alot. You'd be surprised at some of the responses I get sometimes. I guess people look at me and see me as this cute, slim, smaller dude (either though Im 5'8 ) and figure they can have their way with me. I remember this one older dude came onto me strong and I told him it wasnt going to happen. He offered to blow me and I denied him. He kept at it for a while telling me how I was getting something for nothing.

But I refuse to lower my standards for a blow job. Seriously. I let it happen a couple of times (literally, like twice) many years ago and I felt cheap and disguisted with myself for allowing someone that I was not attracted to, touch me in such a way.
Now, I reserve it to only those that Im into physically and mentally. Makes it much more fun and satisfying. If Im not attracted to you, or cannot stand your attitude, dont push it or you may get my foot in yo ass!

At the same time, if some dude straight turned me down I would not lower myself to the status of a beggar and ask him if I can give him a blow job while he ignores all my attributes that turns him off. At the same time though, I am hardly the initiator of these things anyways.

 

[topinboots]

I've had some hot ones offer to give me a blow job and some not so hot ones to offer to give me a blow job, both no recip....
I've course the hot ones I've let them give me a blow job with no recip.

 

[Underdog]

just curious and will try to be as non judgemental as possible here but sorta wondered what u dudes think about guys who will offer you a no recip BJ after you have told them you werent into them or didnt want to hookup, date whatever. I have had this happen to me a bunch of times and found it really odd. Like why would a person offer that after the other guy said they werent into them? Obviously I know there are guys who like servicing other guys and im totally down with that.. but even if its that I still need to be really into the guy to have him go down on me. I guess ist flattering in a way..but I could never just let a guy blow me for the hell of it... no matter how godo it may feel I dont think I could even get hard for that.

What do u guys think of that when a guy offers that after you have said you werent into them? Like youll say no and the guy says " ok thats cool.. I can just blow you if you want.. im really good at it" Im usually like i dont think so ( and for the record i have yet to meet a dude who has told me he is bad at it haha"

If I wasn't into them, it's doubtful I would remain hard, regardless of how "good" it was. It is a desperate attempt to connect and it's a little sad. If the person just plain isn't attractive to me, for whatever reason, there's nothing they can do.

 

[hercsurf]

all good.. and yeah my pt was definitely not about no recip BJs in general.. I mean if you are into the dude and all he wants to do is blow you.. hey thats totally cool.. or vice versa where say Im into the dude and he me but he just doesnt want to blow.. I think thats cool also..

My thing was with getting one from a guy just because hes doing it.. even though your not into him..or like the dude above who said hed never go down on a guy he was into if the guy wasnt really attracted to him..

I sort of cant think of anything worse then blowing a guy who doesnt really find you attractive!

 

[willsboy84]

i kinda have the opposite problem. alot of guys are put off that i like to blow them, but usually i don't want them doing anything for me. i dunno, i guess i have intimacy issues or something. i just usually don't get anything out of being blown or even topping someone. and i'm probably the only man alive who DOESN'T enjoy being rimmed.

 

[cityboi]

If I find a guy to be HOT, I want to blow him. I realize that not all guys like to give blow jobs, for whatever reasons. If I suck them off and they leave, I go on to the next guy. Nothing lost.

 

[unclaimedblessing]

Whatever floats your boat!
There have been numerous posts here from guys who are only tops, only bottoms or versatile.
There have been posts from guys who don't like oral sex, while others don't like anal.
As long as two consenting adults find pleasure in what they're doing, it's fine with me.

 

[phillypornlover]

You don't want anything but your dick sucked (I can't condemn you for that) and he wants to be the one to suck your dick.

Sounds like a win/win situation to me.

yup, pretty much.

 

[Jerry]

in my own obtuse opinion, if you're both getting what you want out of the arrangement, why worry about what anyone else thinks?

You don't want anything but your dick sucked (I can't condemn you for that) and he wants to be the one to suck your dick.

Sounds like a win/win situation to me.

Exactly. No harm in giving/getting a blow job if both people are cool with it.

 

[slnattak]

Well I don't think sexuality exists in a vacuum, I would forgive a few times as them simply having a typical gay male passive fantasy, but if it happened too much, then I would think they lacked self-respect for themselves... much like heterosexual females spending time with guys that appear to be sexually dominant but in all actuality just like hurting people.

If it happens sometimes and they have a life other than sex I don't see what's the big deal. It's what they like to do.