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Not meant to have a relationship?
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G-Lexington
Lex. Icon. Devil.
From my ever-wise roommate from college - "I used to look for a girl who was perfect. Now I'm just looking for a girl whose baggage goes with mine."
"Quirks" don't preclude you from getting into a relationship (unless one of those quirks is "never interacting with other people ever"). Maybe you like an extremely neat house, or eating breakfast for dinner, or tying your sex partners up. And yeah, that might weird out a potential boyfriend. But see - there ARE other guys out there who love extremely neat houses, and pancakes after six, and getting tied up by their boyfriend. (Or, at least, are cool with all that.) It just means you might have to look harder. But I have a feeling it'll make the relationship all the stronger.
Lex
"Quirks" don't preclude you from getting into a relationship (unless one of those quirks is "never interacting with other people ever"). Maybe you like an extremely neat house, or eating breakfast for dinner, or tying your sex partners up. And yeah, that might weird out a potential boyfriend. But see - there ARE other guys out there who love extremely neat houses, and pancakes after six, and getting tied up by their boyfriend. (Or, at least, are cool with all that.) It just means you might have to look harder. But I have a feeling it'll make the relationship all the stronger.
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Honestly- have you ever really looked at a heterosexual relationship? It's a two people who think differently, have different interests and have little in common.
What are they thinking? Why would ever even try to have a relationship?
Yet, they keep trying, poor things.
What are they thinking? Why would ever even try to have a relationship?
Yet, they keep trying, poor things.
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Honestly- have you ever really looked at a heterosexual relationship? It's a two people who think differently, have different interests and have little in common.
What are they thinking? Why would ever even try to have a relationship?
Yet, they keep trying, poor things.
No kidding.... plus one bleeds every month, has a terrible temper and hates loud stereo equipment. I don't see how it would EVER work.
Damn..... the more I think about it, the more I realize how LUCKY I am!!
racer2438
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It's all in what you want/make out of it. Sometimes relationships are not for everyone and some are. We all have our quirks and you learn to blend them in with your bf/gf. You adjust as best as one can and go on. I was young and str8 w/gf and met a wonderfull guy with no sex required. But it did happen and I fell in love at 18. I left the gf and went with him as I had never experianced man sex as what we did and it switched me over. I have been with my honey for 25-1/2yrs now and could not be happier. But thats just a small % of couples that make it work. Like all relationships there are ups/downs but it's how you come through this in the end that matters. I only speak of my own experiance. But we wish every one luck in finding who they are looking for. But I dont put much and never did in finding that perfect person or GQ model and all pretty. I look for whats in the heart mind and soul. I never thought I would be gay but what we did that first night changed me for ever.
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Yep, I had a counselor suggest this idea to me when I was in complete despair over not having a "Relationship."
I wanted to punch him at first, but then it sunk in, and I started to get used to the idea of myself as someone content without a capital-R relationship.
That was one of the most liberating events of my life. I finally felt free to just be ME.
It's true that I did find a relationship during that time of my life, but I'm not sure I would have if I hadn't experienced that moment of being completely content with JUST BEING ME, even if that meant being "alone."
It's been about 10 years since then, and we're still together, but I still sometimes ask myself if I'd rather just be alone -- relationship are a LOT of work, after all. And my partner asks himself the same question. I think the willingness to ask that question -- which is pretty much the willingness to be alone -- is, paradoxically, they key to the fact that we've been together for so long.
I wanted to punch him at first, but then it sunk in, and I started to get used to the idea of myself as someone content without a capital-R relationship.
That was one of the most liberating events of my life. I finally felt free to just be ME.
It's true that I did find a relationship during that time of my life, but I'm not sure I would have if I hadn't experienced that moment of being completely content with JUST BEING ME, even if that meant being "alone."
It's been about 10 years since then, and we're still together, but I still sometimes ask myself if I'd rather just be alone -- relationship are a LOT of work, after all. And my partner asks himself the same question. I think the willingness to ask that question -- which is pretty much the willingness to be alone -- is, paradoxically, they key to the fact that we've been together for so long.
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I am pretty much thinking I'm not meant to be in a relationship either.
However, to be fair... I am stubborn, do what I please, and have my own life anyway. I have been looking, but no one even replies to a PM. Sometimes I feel like I'm poison because I don't want to fuck on the first date. People seem to avoid me because of this. So be it. The older I get, the less I give a shit. At least I don't HAVE to put up with someone else every day.
And who knows, they always say that it happens when you least want it to.
However, to be fair... I am stubborn, do what I please, and have my own life anyway. I have been looking, but no one even replies to a PM. Sometimes I feel like I'm poison because I don't want to fuck on the first date. People seem to avoid me because of this. So be it. The older I get, the less I give a shit. At least I don't HAVE to put up with someone else every day.
And who knows, they always say that it happens when you least want it to.
AngelFromAbove
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I do not know if I am meant to have a relationship or not, but I know that the chances of my being in one are rather slim. Like AudioTech, I will not screw men quickly, I am very independent, self-reliant, and I have a rather busy schedule.
I am aware that relationships take a lot of work, but between my personality as well as my current situation, I do not see myself being in one anytime soon. Hey, but there's someone for everyonem, right?
I am aware that relationships take a lot of work, but between my personality as well as my current situation, I do not see myself being in one anytime soon. Hey, but there's someone for everyonem, right?