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So I met this guy about 2 months ago his name is Josh. I am 18 he is 27... which is kind of a issue for me but we both kind of looked past that. I have never been in a real relationship with a guy... but The past 2 months have been amazing... I have gotten to know him and I really have began to like him. We talk about everything together and other than the age sitaution everything was going great. The past week we have kind of distanced ourselves and haven't talked as much as we normally do and I haven't seen him as much as normal. So I was upset so I called him to talk about it and he tells me that he thinks im not ready for a real relationship and he doesnt want to set himself up to get hurt. He told me he really wants us to wokr out but he just has concerns. He has taught me so much about myself in the past 2 months that I really have gotten close to him and I realy have feelings for him but I just don't know what to do!!! Any advice?
 
A bit of a slow down at this point probably isn't a bad idea. It'll give each of you a chance to evaluate your feelings and where you want the relationship to go. For his part, being a little older and more experienced than you, he may be backing off some because of your age, wondering if you're really capable at this point of giving him what he's looking for.

You may not want to hear it, but its true, that you've still got some growing up to do. Thats not a bad thing, just a fact, and I'm sure he must realize that just from remembering his own recent past. You won't be the same person in 2 or 3 years that you are now and you should accept that and not put so much pressure on yourself right now. Live a little and enjoy the ride for right now. Thats not to say that he can't tag along with you, and if he really loves you he'll wait until you're really ready to take the relationship further. If you really love him, tell him, and ask him to be patient with you while you grow into the man you'll soon be. If he really loves you he won't mind slowing things down some for a while.
 
knobgoblin said:
A bit of a slow down at this point probably isn't a bad idea. It'll give each of you a chance to evaluate your feelings and where you want the relationship to go. For his part, being a little older and more experienced than you, he may be backing off some because of your age, wondering if you're really capable at this point of giving him what he's looking for.

You may not want to hear it, but its true, that you've still got some growing up to do. Thats not a bad thing, just a fact, and I'm sure he must realize that just from remembering his own recent past. You won't be the same person in 2 or 3 years that you are now and you should accept that and not put so much pressure on yourself right now. Live a little and enjoy the ride for right now. Thats not to say that he can't tag along with you, and if he really loves you he'll wait until you're really ready to take the relationship further. If you really love him, tell him, and ask him to be patient with you while you grow into the man you'll soon be. If he really loves you he won't mind slowing things down some for a while.
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very well said, knobgoblin...I could not have said it better myself...there is not much else that I can add.
 
Generally speaking a 27 year old is ready to settle down.

An 18 year old might say he wants to settle down, but too often after a few years, he realizes he never got to sow his wild oats, and decides to do so.

I'm sure there are many exceptions to this, but it's the scenario I've observed the most often.
 
such a huge maturity difference between 18 and 27. if you're compatible for each other, either you're very mature or he's very immature. but most likely the only common factor would be sex.
 
If he has reservations, then it is likely that he has likely seen enough evidence to make him wary of a relationship.

In the meantime, why don't you just agree to have fun.
 
Why should age be a factor i'm 23 and have dated 32 year olds that where not all that mature, I'd take a breather just so you can take into consideration where he wants the relationship to go and where you want it to and talk to each other about that and really take it SLOW dont rush anything
 
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