ok something serious...

[theFallenGod]

So I have met a guy.... he is intelligent, humourous, spiritual, witty, attractive, basically he's the whole package....

We haven't made it declarative as to where we want this to go yet however all the signs are pointing in the right direction....

We both think about each other constantly, we both text one another constantly, we both want to spend as much time as possible together....

I REALLY like this guy... the connection is unmistakable... the problem is I may have become jaded and I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop... I keep wondering whats wrong with him because there has to be something wrong if it seems this good...

I really want to put aside doubts... go forward with this guy and make it something to last.

Have any of you ever encountered this problem... the little voice thats not warning you to stay away but has been hurt by so many in the past that it's keeping you from completely letting yourself flow into the relationship and just ride it out?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated... Thanks

 

[G-Lexington]

I was terrified to enter my current relationship. It was especially worrisome because he was moving 2000 miles to live in the same town I was. I felt if it all fell apart, he'd hate me forever for uprooting him from his life. I finally told him so. He said he understood, but this was HIS decision, and should things not work out, he was willing to accept the consequences.

I decided I was willing to, as well.

Keep your eyes and ears open, but take the plunge.

Lex

 

[Just_Believe18]

If you always doubt, then you'll never know for sure, right?

Take the plunge. Luckily, you have more experience to guide yourself down. There's nothing wrong with trying again.

And again, and again.

 

[thephoenix]

You usually find what you're looking for: good or bad.

 

[StlKj]

He's human, so there's something wrong with him. The question is, are you willing to overlook whatever that is and try to make it work when it finally surfaces?


I'm a firm believer that if we find ourselves falling into a pattern of always dating the same kind of person over and over again, or recreating the same problems in relationships, it's most often the person who breaks the pattern that ends up being the one who sticks.

So--any past patterns? And does this one break them?

 

[rareboy]

It sounds like you're a little neurotic about this. Do you have the same approach to other experiences? I think Killjoke has the answer. If you find yourself recreating the same problems in a relationship, maybe you should seek some counselling assistance to see how the pattern can be broken and you can allow yourself simple happiness with someone else.

 

[theFallenGod]

Thank you all for your tremendous advice.

I actually have an update....

Following my posting of this thread he came over and we spent the night together....

I decided to just let the feelings flow because this guy is like no other person I have ever met... the connection between us is so strong that I find myself unable to escape thoughts of him... and he is apparently feeling the same thing having left together so he could feed his cats and I could go to the gym... he called not 2 hours after our departure just to tell me he wants to continue hanging out tonight.

Having thrown caution to the wind and taking this plunge I can honestly say it has been fantastic...

Last night we spent the evening on the couch...fully clothed, hands no where but each others heads...making out... no grinding at all... and I came soo close to cumming I was blown away...

Never before have I felt like this with anyone...

Again...thanks for all the advice ... things seem to be looking great at the moment...

 

[StlKj]

Thinking good thoughts for you, Bud. Hope all continues to go well.

 

[G-Lexington]

Enjoy the ride.

Lex