Older Women (or chicks in gen)

[RyanKilter]

I'm pretty curious as to how most guys take take it when an older woman seems to take a rather keen interest in you.

I generally come off as a huge blip on the gaydar but when I'm at work or around town I seem to attract the random smiles and other attentions of older women in particular.

I'm so not trying to boast or anything here, it's actually a bit disturbing/confusing.

For instance, I work in a restaurant. An environment where one receives #'s scrawled on receipts and lingering glances, not to mention the "I'm undressing you in my mind" watchfulness. If/when one of these ladies becomes a regular, the cat tends to get out of the bag that I don't bang that way and all is well.

But still...

I kinda draw the equivalent to this as the young girl who is unmercifully stared at by an older guy.

So, how do you deal with this... anyone?

 

[RyanKilter]

Well I'm 20. Most of the women I'm dealing with are women , a good deal twice my age +.
It's not that I'm grossed out or anything, it's just pretty stange, the feeling is I guess. I want to be polite and everything, but I'm totally unprepared for any interest coming from an older woman. I'd feel aweful if I led someone on, but at the same time, becoming a larger blip on the gaydar just to let someone know that I'm not at all available seems a bit much.
I love your sig btw!

 

[justsimon]

This happens to me a lot, too. I just ignore it and laugh about it later. It's flattering most of the time, but rude, ocassionally.

 

[RyanKilter]

o.0 I didn't realize my siggy was'nt up to date. Fixed.

I think it's natural a cool, if I were st8 I'd prolly be a happy dude. It's just a funny thing that comes with being a young gay guy I guess.

 

[Swellegant]

Oh, back in Ye Olden Dayes, when I was twenty and working in food service... though I didn't get phone numbers scrawled on checks, I did get a lot of grown-up-type women flirting with me. I figured that most of the time, they were flirting with me because I was safe: I mean, I didn't exactly hide my light under a bushel, so it was obvious that flirting with me wouldn't actually go anywhere.

And nowadays, with all this talk of MILFs and the Demi Moore Example before them, I suspect a lot of older women are learning to check out younger guys.

But the ladies tend to be rather less blunt and gross about their attentions, in my experience. There was nothing, really, to handle. Not like when a certain sort of man shows interest in you and starts dropping lewd hints and trying to cop a feel and all that jazz. Female flirtations are almost always safe and fun; I would always take it as sincerely flattering and just go about my business in my usual manner.

 

[JakeBequette]

My mom works at a nursing home and when I go up there the old ladies come running, I'm the first piece of meat they've seen that's under 20 for god knows how long, they all want innocent hugs and kisses, I feel violated once I leave

I don't know what to tell you other than to speak with a lisp and say "oooooomggggg!" a lot... lol sorry... that was bad...​

 

[justsimon]

But the ladies tend to be rather less blunt and gross about their attentions, in my experience. There was nothing, really, to handle. Not like when a certain sort of man shows interest in you and starts dropping lewd hints and trying to cop a feel and all that jazz. Female flirtations are almost always safe and fun; I would always take it as sincerely flattering and just go about my business in my usual manner.

Now, we have the Cougar phenomenon... where older women actively seek out younger men as part of a midlife-self-discovery-plea-for-attention. Most older women seem satisfied with a bit of harmless flirting, but many feel the need to openly gawk and discuss my ass loudly with their friends (while I can hear them). R~M - the lightness in your loafers p ) may have helped you out there.

I feel much less threatened when an older guy hits on me because, usually, I can sense an actual interest in me and it doesn't feel like he's using me to feel better about himself.

My mom works at a nursing home and when I go up there the old ladies come running, I'm the first piece of meat they've seen that's under 20 for god knows how long, they all want innocent hugs and kisses, I feel violated once I leave

I don't know what to tell you other than to speak with a lisp and say "oooooomggggg!" a lot... lol sorry... that was bad...​

Yeah, but SurfBoy might beat you up...

Do the little old ladies hold your hand when they talk to you... that happens to me. I think it's sweet.

 

[JakeBequette]

Do the little old ladies hold your hand when they talk to you... that happens to me. I think it's sweet.

They hold on to everything.. lol

Nancy likes to hold my hand with one and hold only my bicept with the other​

 

[mac_twck]

Just take it as a compliment and move on.

There is no harm in looking is there?

 

[frankfrank]

This hasn't really happened to me (at least to where I've NOTICED it, but often body language can slide right past me). I doubt that I'd react much differently from my reaction when a guy (whether "homely" or gorgeous) seems to want to interact with me. I'll listen and talk, and see what's up.

After all, it's always possible I'll learn something. Almost everybody has something interesting, a story, etc. to contribute.

Meeting customers in my mail-order business, when I travel, often involves meeting wives as well. I wouldn't trade that "half" away for anything either. Wives of record collectors often have a strongly negative attitude toward it, because it takes attention, expense and space from them. However, a couple times I've had a couple collectors tell me that it seemed their wives were mellowing to it, after our interactions.