On the Verge of Coming Out...

[torontoguy22]

I'm almost at the point where I no longer care what others think about my sexuality, as it is largely a private matter. There is one problem though: I'm not even sure of my sexuality (I'm either bi or gay, or somewhere in between). In this case, how would I even come out to someone? Would I say I'm gay, bi, or just "not-straight" or I "swing both ways." I'm not a fan of labels to begin with, so the fact that my sexuality isn't solidified yet sort of complicates thing.

Any suggestions?

Thanks

 

[landers]

If you like the company of women and pussy then you're straight. If you like the company of men and cock, then you're gay. If you like both you're bi.

If you really aren't sure then just tell people you're bi.

 

[Love_chair]

Yeah landers makes a good point. just pay close attention to yourself see what you get turned on by. And it can help if you take sometime and sit totally alone and really look inside yourself. And it can help if you take a pen & paper and start writing things down about your likes sexually, and things in general. Just get to know yourself.

 

[G-Lexington]

Why not tell the truth? "I'm not entirely sure yet, but I do find guys attractive."

Lex

 

[spreadeagle]

From what you say:
- you don't care what other's think,
- sexuality is a private matter,
- you're unsure what your sexuality is,
- you don't like labels

I wouldn't have thought there was any need for you to come out. What would be the point, especially when it clearly contradicts your personal beliefs.

After all, labelling yourself straight will not prevent you having sex with another guy anymore than it will guarantee you having sex with a woman. If an intimate relationship is to be at all meaningful then some sort of communicative interaction is necessary beforehand beyond the blinkered pigeon-holing and illogical presumptions that accompany labelling. if you label yourself based on past experience you automatically exclude the possibility of myriad other experiences.

 

[bigalt]

What goes on in your bedroom is no ones business but your own. Your sex life is private and no one has the right to know anything. Stick to your principles and if anyone asks tell them to piss off

 

[rareboy]

I agree with Spreadeagle.

 

[Time]

If you like the company of women and pussy then you're straight. If you like the company of men and cock, then you're gay. If you like both you're bi.

If you really aren't sure then just tell people you're bi.

I use to tell ppl I was bi, to somewhat soften the whole im gay thing, i think now that it probably wasn't necessary to do so, but it helped me come to terms with things alot better