One Of My Best Friends

[culn2010]

Ok so recently me and of my best friends have started fooling around and i just need some advice on some things, but let me start from the beginning. I met this guy in school and we just clicked from there, he is just like me and is really cool, i am even good friends with his girlfriend (which is why i need advice). Well a couple of months ago he invited me to his and another friends house for the night. All throughout the night he would make little remarks like "are you gonna cuddle with me tonight" or "you should be my teddy bear" etc, he would also slap my butt the whole night too but i didn't pay any attention to it cause i thought he was joking and we were all drinking so i knew we was kidding....or so i thought. Well after my one friend went to sleep we stayed up and just hung out, he asked me if we were gonna share the same bed that night even though there were extra beds i said sure. Anyways we got ready for bed and just layed there talking and while we were talking i could feel his arm reaching closer to my side of the bed. His hand brushed up against my penis and i thought it was an accident so i just brushed it off....until it happened again and again, we continued talking as if nothing was going on. Well after a while i decided to do the same to him. He started to try and go in my shorts so i did the same to him, eventually i slid my shorts and boxers down and so did he. he moved closer to me until our bodies were pressed up against each other. Our cheeks were pressed to each other and slowly began to back away until we locked eyes. He moved closer inch by inch and locked his lips with mine, It was the most intense moment i've ever had, things got hotter as he rolled on top of me and continued to make out. Next he did something i wasn't expecting, he released my lips and slid down to my dick. He wrapped his lips around my dick and started to blow me. It was amazing. I flipped him over and started to do the same to him, he was moaning and would thrust his hips which would cause his dick to hit the back of my throat. He pushed me off after a little while and got back on top of me, he was blowing and jerking me off for a while until i stopped him. It was late and i knew we had class the next day so i made him stop even though he didnt want to.....he went back to his room and that was that. I went to school the next day scared as ever that i was gonna run into him, i was scared to talk or even look at my good friend. I was so confused and i felt so bad that i let it happen especially since he has a girlfriend. After about a week or so of small talk to each other we finally started acting like normal again....

He invited me to a party he was throwing the next week and once i got there with a friend everyone else was already drunk. I went up to the group and started giving out hugs including him, while i was standing next to him i felt him sqeeze my butt...Later in that night i asked him where the bathroom was and he escorted me upstairs and showed it to me. he kept asking me if i needed help and tried to hold my dick again but i would just laugh it off. When i was following him out to the backyard where some other people were he stopped right before he got to the door and turned around to me and started to make out with me right in the middle of the room, luckily no one else saw. I didnt know what was going on between us.

After this we kind of did the same thing where we didn't really talk for a couple of days then back to normal. Over this weekend me and him worked together and i decided to go back to his house for the night since i had to be somewhere in the morning. We got there and everything seemed normal, until he would ask me sexual questions like do i watch porn. He asked me to come upstairs when he was about to take a shower so i did. I layed down in one of the 2 beds in his room. He came in and through a bottle of astroglide to me, i just started laughing(yea i know i laugh during awkward moments lol) he would tell me how good it is and i said we could use it later. We got under the covers and watched some tv, when the same thing started happening, he started to play with my dick so i did the same thing. He said he wants to see how big i am so we got undressed and he got on top to compare them. Next he grabbed the lube and worked it into our dicks, i've never done anything like that and it felt amazing, so we started jerking each other off, until he went down on me again to make me cum and i did the same to him. He gave me the best bj i've ever had. I asked him if he's ever done this before and he said yes with one other guy during highschool. We said that we would be jerk off buddies and that no one could know since we both have girlfriends.

NOW i need some advice, what should i do, should i stop doing this with him, should we keep doing it, is he gay or bi, am I. what are your thoughts please help.....

 

[Kisuke]

Wow, that totally turned me on by the way.

Okay first of all you need to understand that this isn't all laugh and joke.

He's doing these things to you because hes got feelings for you. And you obviously express your feelings for him as well, otherwise you'd probably tell him to back off and you didn't like that. No matter how you look at it, you both are fond of each other.

I think you need to seriously just talk to him about it, and it seems like you already did that, and compromised to be "jerk buddies".

It really sounds like you both might be BiSexual. I don't think he's Bi-Curious at all, because he's already done it with another guy. Unless he really is Bi-Curious and wants to experiment more, normally guys who are bi-curious can keep up with their jerk buddies, and guys who are just experimenting would make a decision after first try.

While you both may have girlfriends, and I don't know how old you both are, I'd say you could very well be either experimenting, or you both really are bisexual.

Have you ever done this before? Do you think you'd consider yourself Bisexual? What kind of feelings do you have for him?

 

[sdmister4]

this story is pretty similar to something that happened with me in high school. long story short, it ended badly and if i saw him now i'd want to kick his ass for using me the way he did.

a couple important things i'd like to mention.
1. make sure you two can talk. that is vital.
2. be in this for the same thing. if he just wants to fool around then you better only want to fool around because it'll hurt if you ever start wanting more.

as for his and your girlfriends, that's up to your conscience. just think about if she did know. i still know the guys ex (since that time he's figured out that he's gay), and even though he and i fooled around before they were together, i'm pretty sure she has some pretty good grounds to hate me even though their relationship wasnt serious, so i make sure she never finds out.

 

[texan_slant]

I agree, at least talk about what happened at some point and be clear on whether or not you have feelings for each other, or you're just fooling around. cuz unrealistic or miscommunicated expectations or unspoken "truths" could lead to underlying resentment and could hurt the friendship.

Then, there are the girlfriends. If this gets any further, even if it's just experiemtnation - you are exploring your sexuality - and could also hurt your girlfriends or relationships if they don't know about it. You have to make a commitment to either them, or to yourself for further exploration - just be aware you need to make a choice.

 

[texan_slant]

This was hot, by the way.

 

[KaraBulut]

NOW i need some advice, what should i do, should i stop doing this with him, should we keep doing it, is he gay or bi, am I. what are your thoughts please help.....

Don't you already know the answers to these questions?

And isn't the real question, "If I already know the answers to these questions, why - if we have girlfriends- do he and I keep getting drunk, taking our pants off and playing with each other's dicks?".

And maybe, "If I already know the answers to these questions, why do we keep doing this if someone is going to end up getting hurt?".

 

[Kisuke]

Don't you already know the answers to these questions?

And isn't the real question, "If I already know the answers to these questions, why - if we have girlfriends- do he and I keep getting drunk, taking our pants off and playing with each other's dicks?".

And maybe, "If I already know the answers to these questions, why do we keep doing this if someone is going to end up getting hurt?".

Great and valid questions to ask yourself. It's all really up to the decisions you make, and the way you set things with this guy and your girlfriends.

Hopefully you can work things out, chances are you'll end up hurting someone. But I always say love is pain. You're either going to end up hurting yourself, or the girls.

If you really have feelings for this guy, I think you and him need to sit down and talk. And figure what you'll do from here on, if he's just using you for his pleasure, "jerk buddies" and that's how you want it to be, then I say make it clear that you're just that and nothing else. At the same time being "jerk buddies" is an understatement, you both seem to be more than just jerk buddies. So communication is the key here, hopefully everything works out for the best of both parties. : ) Good Luck! Let us know how things turn out haha

 

[Ninja108]

You two need to sit down and talk it out. Obviously, you two are past the bi-curious stage if you've performed oral sex on each other more than once. You two need to talk it out and see where it will go from here.
I also want to say that it is not right to be experimenting or exploring your sexuality while dating someone. Cheating is cheating, and it is wrong for both of you to be doing this to your girlfriends.

 

[culn2010]

Wow, that totally turned me on by the way.

Okay first of all you need to understand that this isn't all laugh and joke.

He's doing these things to you because hes got feelings for you. And you obviously express your feelings for him as well, otherwise you'd probably tell him to back off and you didn't like that. No matter how you look at it, you both are fond of each other.

I think you need to seriously just talk to him about it, and it seems like you already did that, and compromised to be "jerk buddies".

It really sounds like you both might be BiSexual. I don't think he's Bi-Curious at all, because he's already done it with another guy. Unless he really is Bi-Curious and wants to experiment more, normally guys who are bi-curious can keep up with their jerk buddies, and guys who are just experimenting would make a decision after first try.

While you both may have girlfriends, and I don't know how old you both are, I'd say you could very well be either experimenting, or you both really are bisexual.

Have you ever done this before? Do you think you'd consider yourself Bisexual? What kind of feelings do you have for him?

Well we are both 19, this was my first time doing anything like this before. I love this guy as a friend like a brother so i wouldn't want something like this to end our friendship

 

[Kisuke]

Well we are both 19, this was my first time doing anything like this before. I love this guy as a friend like a brother so i wouldn't want something like this to end our friendship

Oh boy, you love him as a brother. I think personally coming from me, if I was in your situation, love this guy as my brother, I would stop the "jerking buddy" play.

Because I don't know about you, but personally, I don't think that it's the best thing to have in a brotherly relationship. I mean you've done it already, you've both experienced it, but I would suggest that you express your feelings to him.

Let him know that you love, and care for him as though he's your brother. And let him know that you don't want to risk your relationship, by pretty much having sex together.

See how he feels, and how he reacts. But I do think you should give yourself some time to think things through, and consider all that's been said above. Take into consideration, do you really and truly care for him as a brother? [even though you said you do] do you want to be jerk buddies [At this point is more than just being jerk buddies], and also your girlfriends, having girlfriends you've obviously know how she would react to something like this. So you're dealing with several relationships/feelings here.

Sort them out, and figure out which one is priority. Then make your move from there, I personally find it unethical to have two relationships [Sexual and non sexual]. Let me know how it goes, or if you want to talk about it.

 

[culn2010]

thanks everyone i have a lot to think about and need to make a decision soon, i am going to his graduation party in a couple days so i will let you know how it goes with us.

 

[Ninja108]

Good luck, and be prepared for the chips to fall where they may.

 

[culn2010]

So its been a long time since I've posted on here and alot has changed, I broke up with my gf and me and my friend have done more together......a couple of weeks ago we had another party. He asked me to come over earlier so we could hang out before everyone got there. We ordered food and took 4 shots (not very smart I know) he grabbed my ass and crotch a couple times but I didn't think anything of it at the time (i can be petty naive sometimes), but that was only the beginning, latter on in the night we were all in the kitchen talking and drinking and we our arms around each others shoulders and he would slide his hand down my back and into my pants and grab my ass and i did the same since he did it to me, later on in the night I was talking to some friends and he interrupted to tell me he had to show me something upstairs so i followed him, he walked up the stairs slowly so my crotch would press up against his ass, we got into his room and he immediately turned around so our faces were right in front of each other so we began to make out. In the middle he got a call from his mom so i stopped and while he was talking to her he was still making out with me and started to blow me, it was the craziest thing yet hot at the same time, I didn't want to stop but I did because I thought people might wonder what we were doing and plus his gf was on her way....after that about a week later he broke up her but recently they got back together, I don't think he knows what he wants, me and him are still really close we talk everyday, this doesn't happen often but I never stop him from doing it, I feel bad because I love his gf but I still don't stop it, what does this say about my friend and I, what are your thoughts

 

[texan_slant]

I think what me and everyone else said here already is -
communicate your expectations.

Yeah, you broke up with your girlfriend, and his relationship with his gf is in limbo, however, without having talked about it, do you really know why the girlfriends are getting to be out of the picture?

I'm not making judgements at all. In fact, this is really hot, but on the other hand,

is it because you want to remain as friends with benefits
is it because you're in love with each other
is it because you guys want to be single

Just know that even though breaking up with the girlfriends makes it more OK to have sex, also know that you shouldn't be doing this for each other, but doing this for yourselves first and foremost.

Because without having communicated expectations, or non-expectations, with each other, if one broke up with the GF "for" the other, and the other didn't realize it, the resentment builds.

Basically, are you friends, or lovers? Either is fine, but just know where you stand in all this.

 

[tipmyscales86]

Wow this story is really hot. lol

If you haven't had the talk already, I think you should both have a talk about both of your sexualities. I would even try to leave out the gay or bi labels when you talk. Just have an honest conversation about what guys and girls do for you. Talk about what you'd each like to explore sexually. See where it goes from there.

 

[KaraBulut]

And maybe, "If I already know the answers to these questions, why do we keep doing this if someone is going to end up getting hurt?".

I'll be sitting over in the corner having coffee and a scone because I know where this is headed.