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I know this has been discussed several times, but I wan't to reopen this conversation. I will tell you my personal experience. I was in an open relationship, but for me, it did not work. Jealousy on both ends, people trying to separate you, and then there is something that makes me cringe when I know my love is being passed around to other people or having "intimate" friendships with other guys. Not my thing.
 
to get people's opinions. this issue reoccurred again in my life....
 
I feel like open relationship are another way of saying friends with benefits ....if guys like each other an want to be around each other bit still want to pursue other people then just be friends with benefits. Open relationships are nothing but friends with benefits with higher expectations
 
tbtmo02 said:
I feel like open relationship are another way of saying friends with benefits ....if guys like each other an want to be around each other bit still want to pursue other people then just be friends with benefits. Open relationships are nothing but friends with benefits with higher expectations
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jhonyguy04 said:
to get people's opinions. this issue reoccurred again in my life....
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Reoccurred again in your life and you are against it? So you are entering into relationship without a voice? We need to know more about your personality???
 
Every time I've ever known anyone who has had an open relationship, it always ends in disaster, jealousy, and hurt feelings. I've known five or so couples, gay and straight who tried this to no avail. One of my best friends just ended a 4 year relationship with his boyfriend, due in large part to not being able to handle an open relationship. It seemed as if it was too late at that point to fix anything. I mean, I'm sure that it can work, but if you don't want it, don't force it.
 
I'm reminded of an Arrested Development episode where Tobias and Lindsay try an open relationship. "Does that ever work?" "No, but for us, it just might." :D
 
I would never start an open relationship personally, Id rather keep everything "personal"
 
To me, "open relationships" are people trying to have it all--sexual variety as well as a secure "home base" from where you can take day trips. I've never seen an open relationship work, long term--although I'm sure they do with someone, somewhere. It's tough to do because of all the reasons (jealousy, possessiveness, insecurities, not living up to expectations) mentioned above.

To me, there's a time in life to play around. There's also a time to commit your life to another person, and expect the same in return. I don't see how you can do both at the same time, but maybe that's just me.
 
Relationships as we all know are complex & there isn't one size fits all for everyone. Different things work for different people. Two of my friends are in a very LTR and they've had an open one. My Bf and I may not have the usual open type, but we do play together. No, I'm not jealous, insecure and don't cringe seeing him :sex: with another man, nor he seeing me, or we wouldn't be doing it. Is it "open"? I don't care how people label it.

I think you need to provide info to the question of how is it recoccuring in your life so we may understand. But if it's not your thing, not sure how it would reoccur anyway. It takes two people and communication. If it ain't your thing, it ain't.
 
open relationship = you will do until something better comes along.
 
False. Open relationships can work, I know that for a fact. Say "it's not for me", but don't condemn it for everyone else just because it might be more niche than monogamy. I'm not into BDSM, but I don't say it doesn't work. I just don't practice it.
 
It probably works for some people and don't for some. I prob might do it If I really found a guy that I really really love and I can't satisfy him in some way. But then again I probably will get jealous and all ends badly. Honestly speaking I don't think I am ready for a relationship yet.
 
I guess it can work. I was actually willing to discuss this with my ex, but one of my best friends had an open relationship and it ended up ruining his relationship. I think it's a nice idea and looks very good on paper, but humans are jealous by nature, even those who claim not be, and this just complicates it.
 
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