Opposites Attract in the wrong way

[Danugh]

One of my closet friends is straight and he knows that i like guys. So we went to this alternative club last night and i saw an ex of mine i dont know what got into my head but i asked my straight friend to pretend to be my new boyfriend and after some convincing he agreed.

When i saw that my ex was looking at me and my friend i moved closer to my friend and started kissing his passionately (acting ofcourse) and out of the corner of my eye i saw that my ex was still looking so i continued.

Eventually my ex left and i thanked my firend for helping me out of that pickle.

The problem is though that things are a bit weird between me and my straight friend now and i am not sure why.

We were just faking a kiss. Jake and Heath are straight men who had to kiss each other and it was no big deal because they are actors.

My straight friend is hot but i think i kinda felt a lil chemitry while we were kissing.

I want to ask my friend if he felt it too but i cant because he is straight.

Im sure after a couple of days ill get over it and move on.

Damn straight guys are my cryptonite lol.

 

[Danugh]

^ Used? i didnt force him he could have said no. I wasnt pursuing my friend. I was trying to send a message to my ex, and now things are out of whack between my friend and i.

 

[Elwood]

It is a tangled web we weave when we practice to deceive.

 

[TriBi]

The problem is though that things are a bit weird between me and my straight friend now and i am not sure why.

Because you were using an "excuse" to kiss your straight friend?

i think i kinda felt a lil chemitry while we were kissing.

It sounds as if you did...but he didn't.

Sorry - but I think I agree with most of what Hard-up said.

 

[wilehart1978]

You took a big chance by kissing him. I have struggled with feelings of attraction for my best friend for a long time. Your friend could be feeling alot of different stuff right now. I think deep within yourself, this is what you wanted to do and it's more about you and your friend than your ex. Talk to your friend and see what he's feeling. You should also apologize in the event you pushed the envelope. There could have been other ways to make the ex jealous...if you lip-locked with your friend, dude, I'm afraid you wanted it more than you are willing to admit.

While I agree with the responses which have been made here, I'd like to go into something which the others didn't delve into. They've given you some thoughts on your actions, but I'd like to consider what might be going on with your 'friend'.

No matter how open, how accepting he may be, he still is straight. You don't describe what kind of kissing was going on, but I can imagine. It is entirely possible that he had some sort of physical response to the activity. And it is entirely possible, given who and what he is, that in hindsight, what happened would be leaving him feeling a little bit freaked out. He got pulled or pushed into something he didn't want to do, and it seems natural -- to me at least -- that he's feeling at least a trifle regretful and quite possibly unnerved when he thinks about it.

I can understand why he might feel that way. And if there's anyone in this sad little situation for whom I feel sorry, it's for him. He was the one who got pushed unwillingly into this mess.

 

[Danugh]

What a relief, my friend and i talked online today and it seems we are cool although we didnt mention what happened the night, we just taked regualr. I really hope everything is really ok between us because i wouldnt want anything to mess with our friendship.

 

[luminum]

Don't you have sex/make out with/persue your straight friends all the time? Why would you be hesitant THIS time to ask him if he liked it too?

 

[Soilwork]

yeah, I mean, didnt' you "date" a "straight" man for ages?

You seduce straight men all the time.. often by assaulting them in their sleep.

you advocate it, in fact.

You say you can't ask him about it because he's straight.. what made your last boyfriend who was straight different?

 

[Danugh]

Don't you have sex/make out with/persue your straight friends all the time? Why would you be hesitant THIS time to ask him if he liked it too?

Because he is my friend and i respect our friendship. With friends there are certain lines you just dont cross, but we are cool now for the most part, i dont plan on kissing him again, come to think of it i can imagine how wierd it must have been for him to kiss a guy. But it wasnt just any guy it was me, his friend it shouldnt be any big deal.

 

[GoodbyeSobriety]

Where I grew up, if I asked a straight guy to kiss me to front my ex, I woulda been lynched by my "friends". I guess it's just location.... where exactly do you live? A big city right?

 

[Danugh]

Where I grew up, if I asked a straight guy to kiss me to front my ex, I woulda been lynched by my "friends". I guess it's just location....

You are forgetting the setting. It was an alternative club, he knows i like guys and he is ok with it and we are cool. He wasnt just a random straight guy he was my friend, no biggie.

 

[GoodbyeSobriety]

Gotcha. Still, you are a LUCKY sob.

 

[justjoshoh]

^ Obviously you don't understand...

He respects this friend. That is why he'll cross the line with the other people, but he'll only kiss this guy after he agrees (which took some badgering, but it is o.k. because he agreed ).

/end sarcasm

 

[luminum]

Because he is my friend and i respect our friendship. With friends there are certain lines you just dont cross, but we are cool now for the most part, i dont plan on kissing him again, come to think of it i can imagine how wierd it must have been for him to kiss a guy. But it wasnt just any guy it was me, his friend it shouldnt be any big deal.

Wait--so all the straight "friends" that you've written about seducing/molesting in their sleep aren't really your friends at all but really just random guys or at least a lower level of "friend" than this "friend" in particular?

 

[RationalLunacy]

One of my closet friends is straight and he knows that i like guys.

Congratulations! You win the JUB Freudian Slip of the Week Award!

 

[jockboy01]

I'm sure this was one of the plans you put in place to trap a str8. And it backfired... SHOCKING. No sympathy here. Stop baiting your str8 friends.