Outed.....

[Persian89]

So, I got outed in my class and even my section (part of the university) when I told some people in confidence.

Hasn't bothered me yet, except some of the guys cracking up (gay)jokes and I pull a fake laugh once in a while while clutching my fist and hearing my bones crack.

It _SHOULDN'T_ bother me, but it actually does. Nothing I would admit though... Dunno why.

I'm sure about who spread the word, now the question is what I should do?
1) Talk to him
2) Punch in his face, REAL fucking hard...
3) Or do both, first talk to him, and then require some form of compensation to get his trust back...in form a fist fight of some sort...

I mean there something about a straight guy getting beaten by a fucking faggot that scares the living shit out of them, so I am pretty sure he won't squeal to anyone if I beat him up.

I feel so fucking pissed right now...I need to let some steam off somehow...
Can't even sleep.

 

[Telstra]

i choose 1) talk to him

is he hot ? if yes, strip him nude.

 

[MetaKnight]

Well if he spread the word then he's noone to trust, but if you punch him that's not gonna do any help. So just talk to him and just make him aware of the consequences of his action... whether he takes it well or not... well we'll have to see.

 

[Persian89]

i choose 1) talk to him

is he hot ? if yes, strip him nude.

I would get more satisfaction by seeing him bleeding.

im generally not of the view that violence solves anything ... but i can completely understand your desire to bash his face in .... so who am i to judge? just make sure its what you want to do ... cos regretting things sux .... you cant undo them ... and dont go too far either ... show some restraint

I would, just as soon as I see some blood.
But I don't think I am gonna go with the bashing at all, too many risks of fucking up my social life.

Hey there,

I'm sorry to hear that you were outed. That's really unfortunate--and I'm sure that you didn't want things to happen this way.

My question is...obviously you had some trust in the guy you told, but just how well do you know him? Is he a close friend, friend, or merely an acquaintance? I don't believe it was very clear.

I told a couple of guys over some drinks and stuff.
They are all new friends (new city, new univeristy, new class)
So I don't know how well I know them other then I meet them every day...

Given the situation--if you really think it would help matters to talk to him now...then go for it. It won't help change the fact that everyone now knows your business. If you value whatever friendship you have with him, then you need to talk to him to let him know that you don't appreciate him telling everyone something you told him in confidence ( was it in strict confidence?)...

I'm just ranting, I'm sure he didn't know what he was doing, it's the jokes that get me by the people who first didn't know (decided not to tell them by choice)
Now they know, and not from me, cracking jokes and shit.
I can't say I am getting bothered because I don't want to show that (I know I'm a coward), thought by bashing some skulls I would get my point out..but.. that was just some rant.

...and please, please don't turn to violence. That definitely won't help matters.

BS, violence always help.
That just people "are doing it wrong".

I'm not sure what to do really... I just feel bad somehow.
1) the jokes pisses me off... but I can't say anything then laugh with them
2) I don't want some to know, because we work alot with projects and I hate to work with someone who knows I'm gay and is getting bothered with it, it just feels bad somehow... and I know that some get bothered with it.

 

[KaraBulut]

4) Ignore him and
5) Look into therapy for this penchant you have for finding a violent solution to every situation

 

[inlovewithblair]

He did you a favor.

Instead of punching him out, I'd punch out the ones who make gay jokes around you. Grab their dick and stick it up their own ass.

 

[backpacker]

As much fun as beating him up would be, it's definitely the wrong choice to make. You could easily end up in jail or kicked out of school.

You can talk to him and tell him he is a piece of shit. Other than that, I don't know what else you would have to talk to him about.

 

[Tugasa]

He outed you, and there is nothing you can do now. The best ist just to ignore him and try to prove everyone else how much better of a person you are. I know it is easier said than done, but no one wants to be friends with a sneaky little bastard.

 

[backseatboy]

I can understand your frustration. Simply put, it was NOT his secret to tell.

I would talk to him and hear his apology and then take it from there (non violently). I was outed by a friend in high school and was able to muffle the gossip before it spread too far. But the one thing I regretted was not confronting the girl who outed me sooner...

 

[Persian89]

He outed you, and there is nothing you can do now. The best ist just to ignore him and try to prove everyone else how much better of a person you are. I know it is easier said than done, but no one wants to be friends with a sneaky little bastard.

Lol the problem thinks no one takes it as big deal as I do.... for all they are concerned nothing has happened

As much fun as beating him up would be, it's definitely the wrong choice to make. You could easily end up in jail or kicked out of school.
You can talk to him and tell him he is a piece of shit. Other than that, I don't know what else you would have to talk to him about.

Yeah I know :/ sucks.

He did you a favor.
Instead of punching him out, I'd punch out the ones who make gay jokes around you. Grab their dick and stick it up their own ass.

Heh, maybe he did and now I don't have to do anything but I don't know, I don't mind people not knowing.
Why tell them and let it fuck things between us.

4) Ignore him and
5) Look into therapy for this penchant you have for finding a violent solution to every situation

I don't do therapy, I hate talking about these issues in person...
And I havent really done anything just, fantasizing.

I can understand your frustration. Simply put, it was NOT his secret to tell.

I would talk to him and hear his apology and then take it from there (non violently). I was outed by a friend in high school and was able to muffle the gossip before it spread too far. But the one thing I regretted was not confronting the girl who outed me sooner...

He didn't know that I take it... It was like it wasn't such a big deal and they aren't really homophobes just.. well they are like me...assholes. I shouldn't get upset but I can't help it.

 

[jJoEd77]

When I was (sorta) outed in high school I didn't really do anything cause there was nothing to do. punching the bitch wasn't going to help so you just move on. but maybe that's just me.
i pretty much agree with everyone here, try to talk to him first, just make him aware and maybe he'll feel bad about it? other than that, there's nothing you really can do. start boxing?

 

[Headphone90]

I would beat the fucking shit out of him. Seriously. If you told him in trust, and he broke it. Beat the living shit out of that bastard.
Every decent human being should get, that coming out in public is something that shouldnt be taken away.

 

[Telstra]

Oh, please do tell! How did it backfire?

i guess he was caught sucking cocks and licking balls ..