Parents

[GhostMost]

I came out to my parents a long time ago, they accepted it, still loved me.

When it comes to my Atheism though they seem to really hate that about meand be ashamed of it. Is it sad for people to accept homosexuality rather than religious beliefs?

I think they're the reason why I'm not extremely open with people and get uncomfortable with others. (random note )

 

[lostnfound]

Maybe they know that you had no choice on your sexuality, but you do have a choice on your religion?

 

[Rand]

Maybe they know that you had no choice on your sexuality, but you do have a choice on your religion?

I like what L&F has said. And a follow-up comment would be have you articulated why you are an atheist? What has taken you to that position?

best of luck,
Rand

 

[redips]

Are they more against the fact that you're an atheist, or that you don't believe in a specific religion?

 

[Seasoned]

I don't think it's necessary to discuss religion (or lack thereof) with anyone other than a spouse. Someone who believes would obviously be concerned about loved ones in the afterlife. I'm a cultural Catholic, meaning, if I go to church that is the only one which holds meaning for me. I'm a big doubter when it comes to the tenets but I will go to church occasionally.

Would it damage you to go to church with them occasionally and knock off the talk about religion? I think there are a lot of people who wouldn't be able to function without an aferlife believe. Couldn't you think of it the same way as Santa Claus for children?

I in no way mean any disrespect and if you find my comments offensive, I deeply apologize. I am merely offering an alternative. If that doesn't work for you the alternative might be agreeing not to discuss it with them.

 

[Deandbn]

I dont think i would worry too much about religion at your age of 18 Bud!!

In a few years when you are 40 or 50 years old you may be a bit wiser in the ways of the world, you may want to philosophise more about religion.

In the interim just be happy that God (whoever or whatever that may or may not be) loves you and you are going to heaven (wherever or whatever that may or may not be) anyway whether you like it or not.

So go get on with your life, and have fun, and do not worry yourself unnecessarily about things that should not concern you for now!!

addendum: One thing i can definitely say is that in this lifetime you are never going to know who or where or what god is or heaven for that matter so that takes faith, and the only thing you do know is that you arer eventually going to die. So dont rub your parents up the wrong way. Let them think what they do and you think what you do, and everyone will be happy.

 

[hotatlboi]

In the interim just be happy that God (whoever or whatever that may or may not be) loves you and you are going to heaven (wherever or whatever that may or may not be) anyway whether you like it or not.

LOL, well if he is an atheist he can't be happy about any of that because he doesn't believe that exists.

 

[GhostMost]

I dont think i would worry too much about religion at your age of 18 Bud!!

In a few years when you are 40 or 50 years old you may be a bit wiser in the ways of the world, you may want to philosophise more about religion.

In the interim just be happy that God (whoever or whatever that may or may not be) loves you and you are going to heaven (wherever or whatever that may or may not be) anyway whether you like it or not.

So go get on with your life, and have fun, and do not worry yourself unnecessarily about things that should not concern you for now!!

addendum: One thing i can definitely say is that in this lifetime you are never going to know who or where or what god is or heaven for that matter so that takes faith, and the only thing you do know is that you arer eventually going to die. So dont rub your parents up the wrong way. Let them think what they do and you think what you do, and everyone will be happy.

Don't know if I should be offended? haha

I go to church quite a lot, I am always in a pissed off mood there. They tell me they want me to believe in something, but even if it was buddhism's ideals or satanism they'd still be the same.
I never ever talk about religion with them unless they force their stuff on me, or tell me "well you were baptized" or "what would your dead grandparents think about this?"

I've philosophized enough in my life to come to this conclusion, I don't think anything will change my views unless I get hit by a car...

 

[Deandbn]

Dont be offended Bud cos i havent said anything personal to you, I merely stated facts.

If it pisses you off to go to church then dont go, simple as that.
or....
you might want to change your reason for going. I mean, you could go and give all the good looking guys there the once over on the odd occasion. Hey you might even meet one to take home with you to play with. That would be a luck!

If your parents say:
Well, you were baptised - you could ask them whose fault that was?... definitely not yours!

If they give you the dead grandparents bit - tell then you asked them and they said it was alright.

But you gotta keep a str8 face, no attitude, no shouting, and after you have had your say (and only say it once dont ever repeat yourself) then walk off - it takes 2 to fight/argue - and well... if youre not there then there cant be an argument can there???

Best wishes Bud - Let me know how it goes OK.