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Part gay and part straight=Bi

ELAINE

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Isn't that what being bi is? because I'm bi. Why do people say you have to be one or the other? I've never been told this, but I'm hearing a lot of people in here saying that they go through this, and from gay people mostly. Why would they care? you would think that they would be happy even if you were part gay, and be supportive. Can someone please explain why you don't accept bi's being bi? :confused: Thanks.
 
I always say bisexuals do not discriminate when it comes to sex. Some People who are either gay or straight question anything but the two extremes. When I use to date a guy I'd bring a boyfriend out with some of my gay friends and they would be very nice. When I'd bring a woman they would become bitchy and speculate on wheather or not I was really bisexual or just pretending to be straight. The same would happen in heterosexual situations as well. I'd be treated nicer if I brought a girl out vs. a guy. I hate that people would constantly think about my sex life and who I am am having sex with. Think about it, if I made it clear I was not having sex with any of these people there would be no problem.

I also think a lot of people abuse the word bisexual. Many claim they are where in fact they are not. It gives real bisexuals a bad name. Straight guys who are either not ready to come out or are just ashamed will label themselves bisexual but NEVER have any interest or relations with females. These people drive me crazy. I don't understand these people who are in their 30's and 40's who say they are bi curious or they don't know what they are. 9 times out of 10 you know by your early to mid teens.

So, I would say we are 50% gay 50 % straight, but keep in mind I hate labels.
 
It's human nature to 'label' things, it just makes everything easy and if you're bi suddenly you're confusing because you don't 'fit'

There is a level of distrust towards bisexual's we get accused of not knowing what we want, and branded with the same iron as those gay people who use bisexuality as a 'stepping stone' to gay.

Actually thats where allot of it comes from, the gay guys who use it as a 'stepping stone' it creates a feeling that all bisexual people must be lying and trying to fit into the straight 'camp'. We get called cowards for not 'embracing' our homosexual nature. I even remember people on this forum saying things like "bisexuality is disgusting, if they cant except they're gay they have no right to be part of the community" of course this was going back when I first joined about 4 years ago, its calmer now.

Another issue I find allot is... for example a gay man who have been dumped by a bisexual man that goes off with a woman. This normally leads the gay man blaming his bisexuality, saying that a bi man cant be satisfied, even going as far as to say that were more likely to cheat. Gays or Straights tend to get confused by this ability to go with a guy, then a girl, then back to a guy and just think of it as being 'confused'

Sorry I didn't really argue my point across too well, I'm really tired and my eyes are blurry.

Of course nowadays its better, I think bisexuality is becoming excepted... I haven't actually heard anything negative towards it for some time now.

Edit: after reading above I would just ad I'm about 70% into men 30% into women, but that changes. I'm always attracted to men though, but I cant deny my attraction towards women.
 
its about you needing to choose one mate...

or at least it is with me.. my boyfriend is bi and i'm fine with it as long as he knows the relationship is monogamos and chances are he won't get pussy again unless we do something kinky.............

he says he is ok with it and i beleive him
 
ELAINE said:
Isn't that what being bi is? because I'm bi. Why do people say you have to be one or the other? I've never been told this, but I'm hearing a lot of people in here saying that they go through this, and from gay people mostly. Why would they care? you would think that they would be happy even if you were part gay, and be supportive. Can someone please explain why you don't accept bi's being bi? :confused: Thanks.
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Maybe it's the same response that straight people have when they find out someone of the opposite sex is gay. They somehow feel as if their chances (if any) of going out with you has been decreased more so... but I only say "maybe" because I am not sure why some people have had that sort of response. It is in human nature to want to feel superior to others in one way or another. I don't agree with the behavior that you were faced with. A lack of understanding about what it means to bi and what that person values most in a relationship (for both sexes) can cause the response that you recieved. The sad part is that some people just don't want to even try to understand. I also know it's a pain to keep explaining yourself to people who say "choose" but with people who can't take some things at face value and move along, you need to shed some light and educate them.
 
ELAINE said:
Isn't that what being bi is? because I'm bi. Why do people say you have to be one or the other? I've never been told this, but I'm hearing a lot of people in here saying that they go through this, and from gay people mostly. Why would they care? you would think that they would be happy even if you were part gay, and be supportive. Can someone please explain why you don't accept bi's being bi? :confused: Thanks.
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I agree. I tend to find that a lot of the gay guys I talk to mostly online seem to want to bring me out and make me more gay or something. Like as if this is some phase or I am in denial or something. That's not it and it's very confusing. It's hard cause you need people to talk to and relate to, but then some people can just make you feel worse about it.....](*,)
 
I am not bi but I believe there is such a thing as bisexuality and I think it would be great to be bi because to be so open and have more opportunities to chooses from.I would never want to bring someone out and make them more gay or force a certain sexual orientation on them because I know what that could be like.
 
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