mexicano
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i am planning on having sex with a hiv+ dude should i be scared or nervous
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planning on having sex with a hiv+ dude
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hottie1982
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Whether you should be scared or
nervous I don't know, but you do need
to be xtra careful and take every
precaution.
nervous I don't know, but you do need
to be xtra careful and take every
precaution.
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Keep in mind that most HIV poz men have more than one STD.
Herpes, genital warts and Hepatitis C are a very real issue. Some people don't even know they have these things.
Won't say a prayer for you now...I'll save it for the morning after.
Herpes, genital warts and Hepatitis C are a very real issue. Some people don't even know they have these things.
Won't say a prayer for you now...I'll save it for the morning after.
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I must add that I wouldn't knowingly have sex with an HIV poz, but I came of sexual age during the 1980's, so I probably have had sex with someone who had it.
I'm thankfull I'm still here and negative.
I'm thankfull I'm still here and negative.
BenF
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If you are "scared" or "nervous", do you think that you are ready to be having sex with him?
If such emotions do not play a part during your decision making, just make sure that you wear a condom for your sake and the sake of any future sexual conquests.
If such emotions do not play a part during your decision making, just make sure that you wear a condom for your sake and the sake of any future sexual conquests.
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3stripes
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I think you should be more scared or nervous of having sex with someone who doesnt know their status or who makes loud claims of being negative and wants you to have unsafe sex. They're the ones who are the greatest risk.
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This time around you know your partner is HIV+.
If you've been sexually active with multiple partners, there's a good chance that you've already had sex with someone who is HIV+ and you didn't know it.
Should you be scared? You should always be scared enough to practice safer sex.
If you've been sexually active with multiple partners, there's a good chance that you've already had sex with someone who is HIV+ and you didn't know it.
Should you be scared? You should always be scared enough to practice safer sex.
I don't think this comment is very well thought out or very helpful.
Don't confuse men who are HIV+ and know it and are under medical supervision with those that are ignorant about their status.
You're right to be concerned, but that should just lead you to be careful and play safe.
Commander Vimes
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I find this comment quite offensive I am HIV+ and I know that I have no other STD's as put of my check up is to have a full STD screen every 6 months when was the last time you were tested for any of these.
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Commander:
I agree with you that that was a big generalization. It's been my experience that lots of HIV+ people are extremely health conscious.
In the US, we have a group of gay men that are into barebacking, "tweeking" and "bug-chasing" It's very understudied phenomenon and it's such a politically hot issue that very few people even talk about it.
It is true that this high-risk population of men are also testing positive for syphilis, hepatitis and other STDs at a rate higher than the general population.
But that is more about their life choices and not about their HIV status.
I agree that it is unfair to make generalizations about all HIV+ people.
I agree with you that that was a big generalization. It's been my experience that lots of HIV+ people are extremely health conscious.
In the US, we have a group of gay men that are into barebacking, "tweeking" and "bug-chasing" It's very understudied phenomenon and it's such a politically hot issue that very few people even talk about it.
It is true that this high-risk population of men are also testing positive for syphilis, hepatitis and other STDs at a rate higher than the general population.
But that is more about their life choices and not about their HIV status.
I agree that it is unfair to make generalizations about all HIV+ people.
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I would interject that the above comment about "other std's" is a bit of a large net.
It was intended to be a broad net. When I wrote that I was thinking of Condyloma Acuminatum commonly known as anogenital warts which is caused by the human papilloma virus (HPV). It seems to be epidemic in both gay and straight populations. It's getting a lot of press because of the controversy in the US over the HPV immunization (Gardasil). We're seeing a lot of college age guys with genital and anal condylomata.
But your comments about herpes are well taken. I think the two things about herpes simplex is that give it a particular stigma is that it affects the genitals, it can be recurrent and it can be painful. You are correct though that most of us carry herpes infections - either as dormant cold sores (H simplex I), dormant chickenpox (H zoster) or genital herpes (H simplex 2)- yet only genital herpes carries the stigma.
It was intended to be a broad net. When I wrote that I was thinking of Condyloma Acuminatum commonly known as anogenital warts which is caused by the human papilloma virus (HPV). It seems to be epidemic in both gay and straight populations. It's getting a lot of press because of the controversy in the US over the HPV immunization (Gardasil). We're seeing a lot of college age guys with genital and anal condylomata.
But your comments about herpes are well taken. I think the two things about herpes simplex is that give it a particular stigma is that it affects the genitals, it can be recurrent and it can be painful. You are correct though that most of us carry herpes infections - either as dormant cold sores (H simplex I), dormant chickenpox (H zoster) or genital herpes (H simplex 2)- yet only genital herpes carries the stigma.
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reading through all the replies made me smile....
anyways, back to the original question. should you be scared or nervous to have sex with someone who is hiv+?
being nervous is probably natural, but i wouldn't say be scared. most people who are positive have a way better idea of their health than the average. they see a doctor more times in a year than some people see in their life.
and also, it's been touched upon, but be glad that he's being up front about it, and your not going to have sex with someone who you ASSUME is negative.
anyways, back to the original question. should you be scared or nervous to have sex with someone who is hiv+?
being nervous is probably natural, but i wouldn't say be scared. most people who are positive have a way better idea of their health than the average. they see a doctor more times in a year than some people see in their life.
and also, it's been touched upon, but be glad that he's being up front about it, and your not going to have sex with someone who you ASSUME is negative.
Are you nervous to have sex with someone or nervous to have sex with someone who is HIV+?
When I met my first boyfriend just after I had come out in 2005, he was already diagnosed as HIV+. For me, this was a concern because I had just come out. We chose to see a counselor at a gay men's sex clinic. Actually, she became a good friend both during and after the relationship!
Anyway, as has been said, you'll have to make sure that you take precautions. It has been said -- you know what the conditions are; just make sure you respect them.
When I met my first boyfriend just after I had come out in 2005, he was already diagnosed as HIV+. For me, this was a concern because I had just come out. We chose to see a counselor at a gay men's sex clinic. Actually, she became a good friend both during and after the relationship!
Anyway, as has been said, you'll have to make sure that you take precautions. It has been said -- you know what the conditions are; just make sure you respect them.
HugeCock888
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i say no, dont risk your life because of sex. theres more ppl out there that you could have sex with, without worrying about hiv.
Footballjock9002
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Listen, I myself do not have HIV but here is the thing. He has atleast told you he is positive. That in itself is a good step. Just because someone has HIV does not make them undateable nor do I think people should mark off the ones out there who are positive. As said before, just be careful. If you're talking to him, I would atleast hold out until you may think things might last for awhile(i.e. you really like him) Sex shouldn't be treated like an afternoon hobby especially in todays day and age. Just wear your rain coat and try your hardest not to get wet. If you do, its not the end of the world. I have positive friends who opened my (then) narrowed mind up and saw them as living people, not dying victims. So all in all good lucky buddy and if anything, I hope you guys really hit it off 
It sounds like he is being up-front and honest with you, which is very important.
As for what to do about it, I haven't (knowingly) been in the situation, so I can't say for sure how I would feel. However, my logic would be to be absolutely uncompromising about condom use, assuming anal was on the cards, and I would also want to know about his treatment regime. If he is responsible with his meds, has undetectable viral load, and you practice safe sex, your chances of getting anything from his are practically zero.
A recent report from the US has caused quite a bit of controversy by saying that HIV+ men that stick to their meds routine meticulously, and have an undetectable viral load, cannot pass on HIV from unprotected sex. So, add in protection, and you will see your risk is as close to zero as anyone can say.
Keep talking to him and make sure of his status (viral load, meds, other STDs). If he is responsible, he will understand you wanting to know these things. If not, and he will not be open, go somewhere else!!
As for what to do about it, I haven't (knowingly) been in the situation, so I can't say for sure how I would feel. However, my logic would be to be absolutely uncompromising about condom use, assuming anal was on the cards, and I would also want to know about his treatment regime. If he is responsible with his meds, has undetectable viral load, and you practice safe sex, your chances of getting anything from his are practically zero.
A recent report from the US has caused quite a bit of controversy by saying that HIV+ men that stick to their meds routine meticulously, and have an undetectable viral load, cannot pass on HIV from unprotected sex. So, add in protection, and you will see your risk is as close to zero as anyone can say.
Keep talking to him and make sure of his status (viral load, meds, other STDs). If he is responsible, he will understand you wanting to know these things. If not, and he will not be open, go somewhere else!!
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A correction-
The study was done in Switzerland. The study concluded that patients taking antiretrovirals who have an extremely low or undetectable blood viral load have a low risk of passing the virus to an uninfected partner.
The study was looking primarily at heterosexual couples engaging in vaginal sex. We know from previous studies that the risk of HIV transmission from anal sex is higher than with vaginal sex. The press reports on the Swiss study neglected to mention that the study was not looking at couples who engaged in anal sex.
The study did not say that the virus could not be passed on- only that the risk was low. The study specifically said that the negative partner must decide what risk is acceptable to them and should take protective measures.
In the US, the recommendations have not changed. Use condoms.