Okay, first of all I am not gay. I am straight but joined this thread because of this really really messed-up situation that I am going through now. The story is, my parents had me young, out of wedlock, both were 16 at the time. My father has brought me up by himself the whole time, I never knew my mother or indeed any of her family, as she left my father to bring me up alone. I am 24 now and until recently it was still just the two of us living together. Since I was young he has had flings, only one or two you could say were really serious. All with women of course. Six weeks ago, I walked in on my best friend and my father kissing in our lounge room. At first I thought that I was hallucinating or dreaming or going through some kind of fantasy. I had just left for a class at uni, but returned because I had forgotten a book that I needed. Obviously I confronted them, and they both said words to the effect of being relieved that I finally knew, because they had been sneaking around me for the past five months! Apparently it all started when my friend came over to return a book that I had borrowed him (we're both in the same uni classes). I wasn't there and to put it bluntly they got together and have been together ever since.
This was/is a complete shock to me because I always knew them both as being completely straight. They both only dated women before this, and I never would have had even the slighest inkling that either of them would be into men, as they're both quite masculine and there is nothing at all girly about them. They both say that they're bisexual and madly in love with each other. Also, my friend moved out of home two weeks ago and has been living with us since. This has made me very uncomfortable, because not only is he living with us, but he's sleeping in my father's bed with him. Also not only that, but they sometimes call each other names like 'darling' and 'sweety', and hold hands while watching TV. They're even sharing clothes because a few mornings ago I saw my friend come downstairs and have breakfast wearing a pair of briefs that I know are ,y father's and not his. I have told my father that I am dead against the relationship as a whole, and especially the whole living together arrangement. He says that he loves me but that this is important to him and that he isn't going to leave my friend, no matter what. I have also spoken to my friend about it and he essentially said the same thing - that he loves me but is too happy with my father to ever leave. I have tried hating them, but it hasn't worked because they both are essentially good people. I love my father more than anyone because he's cared for me and brought me up by himself, and I can't describe the love that he has shown me over the years. But I can't help but feel that my friend has stolen my father away from me, and at the moment I am feeling very upset and a bit angry, considering seeing a psychologist about it.
My grandfather isn't speaking to my father, such is his anger over the whole thing. He has offered me to come over and live with him (my grandmother died teo years ago so he lives on his own). At the moment I would say that there is a 75% chance that I will, because I am finding it too uncomfortable and disturbing living with my father and my friend (aka his new boyfriend). I have spoken about this to my father and he says that he would be devaststed if I did leave, and to give the arrangement more of a chance. I know that he is also hurt that his father won't speak to him, despite his many attempts. I just don't know what to do. Apologies for the length of this post, I just don't know what to do about it. Could anyone here please offer some advice? As this is a site for gay and bisexual men I was hoping that maybe someone who's gone through something similar could offer s few tips?.
Also I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read and respond. Thank you
This was/is a complete shock to me because I always knew them both as being completely straight. They both only dated women before this, and I never would have had even the slighest inkling that either of them would be into men, as they're both quite masculine and there is nothing at all girly about them. They both say that they're bisexual and madly in love with each other. Also, my friend moved out of home two weeks ago and has been living with us since. This has made me very uncomfortable, because not only is he living with us, but he's sleeping in my father's bed with him. Also not only that, but they sometimes call each other names like 'darling' and 'sweety', and hold hands while watching TV. They're even sharing clothes because a few mornings ago I saw my friend come downstairs and have breakfast wearing a pair of briefs that I know are ,y father's and not his. I have told my father that I am dead against the relationship as a whole, and especially the whole living together arrangement. He says that he loves me but that this is important to him and that he isn't going to leave my friend, no matter what. I have also spoken to my friend about it and he essentially said the same thing - that he loves me but is too happy with my father to ever leave. I have tried hating them, but it hasn't worked because they both are essentially good people. I love my father more than anyone because he's cared for me and brought me up by himself, and I can't describe the love that he has shown me over the years. But I can't help but feel that my friend has stolen my father away from me, and at the moment I am feeling very upset and a bit angry, considering seeing a psychologist about it.
My grandfather isn't speaking to my father, such is his anger over the whole thing. He has offered me to come over and live with him (my grandmother died teo years ago so he lives on his own). At the moment I would say that there is a 75% chance that I will, because I am finding it too uncomfortable and disturbing living with my father and my friend (aka his new boyfriend). I have spoken about this to my father and he says that he would be devaststed if I did leave, and to give the arrangement more of a chance. I know that he is also hurt that his father won't speak to him, despite his many attempts. I just don't know what to do. Apologies for the length of this post, I just don't know what to do about it. Could anyone here please offer some advice? As this is a site for gay and bisexual men I was hoping that maybe someone who's gone through something similar could offer s few tips?.
Also I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read and respond. Thank you
