Please help need advice

[cantbelieve]

Last week me and one of my friends went out and he supected i was bisexual and we had been drinking and came home we watched straight porn and then he said lets experiment we had sex for 4 hours did everything possible. It was the first time i had ever had gay sex. He made the move and said it was a one time thing and has a gf but since that night im in love with him we have not talked about it since and it seems like nothing has changed but what do i do?

I keep trying to get him over / one on one time but when we have seen each other it has been in groups. I wish he new how i felt but i think if i told him it would ruin our friendship.

???? What to do?

 

[Kennylingus]

Ok first thing you should do is learn about verbs. Second take some time and think about if you're really in love or just feeding into some hormones or whatever. Third thing, take the hint that he's not interested and move on. I suggest killing two birds with one stone and fuck and english teacher.

 

[unloadonme]

Ok first thing you should do is learn about verbs. Second take some time and think about if you're really in love or just feeding into some hormones or whatever. Third thing, take the hint that he's not interested and move on. I suggest killing two birds with one stone and fuck and english teacher.

Hello Cantbelieve.

That wasn't a very friendly welcome. Fancy criticising your English and then mangling his last sentence like that. Talk about being hoisted by his own petard!

Anyway, welcome to JUB.

I think you might be confusing love and sex. Your friend may have a girlfriend, but he's hardly 100% straight given what happened between you. He may be in denial. He may just not be interested in a relationship with you.

If I were you, I'd ask him to meet me for a coffee on neutral territory just to clear the air. Don't expect too much though. If he's not interested in anything more, you'll have to settle for his friendship. There are plenty of other nice gay guys out there; just leave your English teachers alone.

 

[cantbelieve]

I'm pretty sure it's love as we have been friends for 7 years and I have only ever felt this way when I was with my ex-gf I think the sex just made me realise how my feelings are towards him. I don't think I will tell him how i feel though because I really would not want to loose his friendship. But there will always be something missing I just hope he feels the same way about me.

 

[Kennylingus]

Fancy criticising your English and then mangling his last sentence like that. Talk about being hoisted by his own petard!

Touché.

 

[cantbelieve]

No I don't think I'm gay because I do not have feelings for any guy besides him. I no that sounds weird but sexual it does not really bother me I am happy either with a guy or a girl but it is the mental connection not physical that I have with him we just click. Thanks badgreek you are really helping me.

 

[rareboy]

Well then. Problem solved.

But seriously. Your English skills could use some improvement in order to help you communicate more effectively as an adult.

 

[KaraBulut]

There are a lot of lessons that people learn when they first start experimenting with their sexuality. There's probably few that you'll learn here.

One of rough lessons is to be very careful mixing sex and friendships. It's very hard to separate "I love my friend" from "I'm in love with my friend". And it's often hard to recover friendships after you've seen each other naked and with the "O" face.

What to do?

Move on. There's little else to do.

 

[Blueboy369]

You are young. Enjoy the sex for what it is. You can ruin the connection you have by talking too much. Don't over think the situation. Keep your options open. Enjoy the "no strings attached" sex with your buddy, while seeking out new relationships.