Please help!

[Sweetheart615]

I have been in the closet for ten years. I'm a really handsome guy and I have had to change jobs, drop out of school, act like I have a drinking or drug problem, all the classic stuff to not have girlfriend. I am fucking dying to make a man cum, I have been for years. I'm 100 percent sure I'm a bitch, despite not looking like it. I want a guy to paddle my ass until I'm crying then cum in my mouth. I have no idea how to be gay or meet guys. I have no flirting skills that convey "hey cum on my face". I would be so much fun. I just want to laugh and be silly and make a guy feel great. What do I do? How do I do it? I'm by Chicago, but I'm terrified of being outed before I'm ready. Please someone give me some advice. Thanks guys.

 

[LeicsDom]

First off try and arrange a meet in a different city. There will be zero chance of being recognised
Log into Grindr and, if you look half as good as you think you do, they will come running to you

 

[tarallucci]

Just be yourself. Check those dating websites and find someone compatible. It's easier than you think.

 

[rareboy]

Stop running from yourself.

It seems that you have a bigger problem with you being a homo than most other people would.

You need to get comfortable in your own skin and then finding a bf or even hooking up will be hella easier.

 

[NotHardUp1]

There is a guy on this forum in LA you should meet, but you just missed him.

 

[Alistair]

Go out to boys town tonight. You won't need to do anything to meet a bunch of guys.

 

[luckynumbah7]

I have been in the closet for ten years. I'm a really handsome guy and I have had to change jobs, drop out of school, act like I have a drinking or drug problem, all the classic stuff to not have girlfriend.

....You are not in a rural fifties suburb, I've never heard anybody suggest that dropping out of school or pretending to have a drug problem was a classic way to avoid dating any gender. That's just not how shit goes; adults who think they are competent enough to date or fuck must learn the word "No" and how to use it. Fleeing cuz someone might consider that you could be gay ain't a healthy strategy & it doesn't indicate that you'd be able to actually speak to someone as an adult to an adult in a sexual situation. Try a counselor first so you can get some acceptance of yourself or your dating is not going to go as you'd hoped.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Just come out of the closet and suck a dick, it’s really that easy.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

....You are not in a rural fifties suburb, I've never heard anybody suggest that dropping out of school or pretending to have a drug problem was a classic way to avoid dating any gender. That's just not how shit goes; adults who think they are competent enough to date or fuck must learn the word "No" and how to use it. Fleeing cuz someone might consider that you could be gay ain't a healthy strategy & it doesn't indicate that you'd be able to actually speak to someone as an adult to an adult in a sexual situation. Try a counselor first so you can get some acceptance of yourself or your dating is not going to go as you'd hoped.

this. it's a declicate situation, not one you want to just dive into headfirst without a strong sense of self, America is full of self-loathing gay men who dove in and were overtaken by guilt and ended up hurting themselves, or worse.

 

[nyctopgam]

I want a guy to paddle my ass until I'm crying then cum in my mouth.

You think being gay is wrong. Meet someone who will faux tie you up and force oral on you. You'll feel better about it.

 

[Thad1527]

Honesty is easier. You don't have to be anyone other than yourself.
Hold on to everything in your life that makes you happy now. Consider keeping what makes your family and friends happy. Lose the rest.

 

[Briacon429]

I have been in the closet for ten years. I'm a really handsome guy and I have had to change jobs, drop out of school, act like I have a drinking or drug problem, all the classic stuff to not have girlfriend. I am fucking dying to make a man cum, I have been for years. I'm 100 percent sure I'm a bitch, despite not looking like it. I want a guy to paddle my ass until I'm crying then cum in my mouth. I have no idea how to be gay or meet guys. I have no flirting skills that convey "hey cum on my face". I would be so much fun. I just want to laugh and be silly and make a guy feel great. What do I do? How do I do it? I'm by Chicago, but I'm terrified of being outed before I'm ready. Please someone give me some advice. Thanks guys.

I agree with Alistair: Chicago is a great place to explore yourself! Boystown is a fun place to hang out without judgment. And it’s big enough that you’re unlikely to run into people you know, so long as you avoid your friends’ hangouts.

I totally agree you need to be ready to come out. But you can & should get comfortable with yourself first— and you can explore your sexuality behind closed doors if you need to. I agree with the commenters who said you need to stop running from yourself (to use Rareboy’s words) because there’s nothing wrong with being gay. Trust me, I’ve been there, both literally and figuratively, being an IL native myself, and having fought that internal battle for years. Feel free to PM me if you want.

 

[Seasoned]

Find a good therapist and explore why you’re so scared. Take charge of your life and make conscious decisions rather than thinking it’ll be easier if choice is taken away.

 

[novastar]

ACCEPT YOURSELF!!! You don't have to "come out" to experiment with men. You don't be "gay." God I hate the labels. You are just...YOU. At least you seem to know what you want sexually. You can find a compatible partner online, and that's probably what I'd recommend. Just be honest about what you want and you shouldn't have any problems. I'm a total bottom for my BF and enjoy everything about being his little gurl. It makes me happy to please him. He's very dominant and I'm very submissive. We were straight friends nearly 20 years before we got "together." Now...his 9'' BBC pumps me full of cum while I'm in panties....and then he plugs me so his cum won't leak out. I'm totally and completely HIS. Enjoy yourself and RELAX.