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Invite her for a friend's night out and in a quiet cafe over coffee start asking her the hard questions on your mind. Do it in a polite,non-defensive way. Alway be polite.

If,She wants to drop it. Just do that. Drop it for the time being.
Come Back to it at a later Date,If you need to.

I bet She was just scared and didn't know how to handle stuff,during the time you 2,where together as a couple.
 
Jy_Star said:
When you talked about your sexuality, she turned her back on you.

Now, you're finding out about her being a bisexual... and... you want to support her? Why? She's a horrible self hating hypocrite - she called you disgusting for sleeping with other man, when she sleeps with both men and women. She called you a faggot. And she doesn't support you in the least.

Why stand by her?
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Ummm. It's called being the Bigger Person. It's called being Polite. It's called Being Human. It's called seeking Closure.:rolleyes:
 
Drop kick her to the curb.

Seriously. If you actually give a shit about what she does, then tell her that she is a hypocritical kunt.

But I can't believe you can't do better than her for a friend.
 
^I couldn't agree more...drop her ass like a nasty habit

Women are like buses there is always one every few minutes. lol
 
There are two schools of thought and depending on your situation.

If the person is a real friend, you should support her. True friends will always be there, but that doesnt mean you have to deal with her love life issues. It's perfectly acceptable to say that you cant deal with that issue and want to stay out of it.

If the are not a true friend, it might be easier to cut things short. Sometimes, its hard, but it might be for the best. Doesnt mean you have to stop being friends, but maybe not as good of friends.
 
Vaguely similar situation happened in my life.

I went through a depression about twelve years ago. Everybody was extremely supportive except for my ex-, who found it a drag, and told me to "call when it was all over". I figured, screw you buddy, and wrote him out of my life.

Until two years later, when he contacted me to tell me HE was going through a major depression.

So what to do? Be the "bigger person" and help out? Or tell him to "call when it's all over"?

I decided to be the bigger person. I listened to him several times, told him what worked for him, and helped him through.

At which point he just stopped talking to me. Apparently, I "reminded him" of the depression, and he didn't need that.

Do I regret it? Not really. I have to live with myself, after all.

Lex
 
RAWRDINOSAUR said:
Recently, my exfiance, who is still my very good friend, told me she was a bisexual. i was outraged. not because she was bisexual, but because of the way she acted earlier on when i tried to talk to her about my sexuality. she said that it was disgusting, and that i was a faggot. all i wanted was for her to be able to talk to me about everything, and i thought our friendship would lead to us getting back together. but i dont know how to handle her hippocracy. i know she has this friend that she denys having a crush on, but i know the say she talks to her and i know how long shes been having feelings for this girl and how long she has hid her sexuality from me while revealing it all to our mutual friend. i just dont feel as if i can trust her, or support her since she left me when i needed her the most.... i honestly dont know what to do. so if youve got any advice id love it.
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At this point, I think that the best thing you can do is try to be honest with her, and with yourself.
If you don't feel that you can trust or support her, then don't; I don't think you owe it to her, and trying to be better than her sounds alot like trying to get even without being petty. If you want to stand by her because that's what you feel you should do, then by all means do it, but that doesn't mean you're not allowed to have feelings, or to feel bitter over the way she treated you in the past.

If you want o stand by her, or keep a friendship with her, then you probably need to clear the air. Talk with her about her reaction to her sexuality, and how you're feeling now that she's come out as well. Maybe she can help you understand her behavior as well, or at least apologize for it.
 
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