Please Read This Before Posting

[tallguy297]

Hey guys,

There have been some rather unwelcome developments in CO&R recently and the mod team have decided enough is enough.

Please take the time to read this sticky

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=278398

before you post in the forum.

Thanks for your help and co-operation with getting this sorted,

The Mod Team.

 

[tallguy297]

Bump.......

 

[Just_Believe18]

I agree, and I know at times I have been guilty of this. I think for some of our more veteran members, we've heard so many stories of the same questions, that we become somewhat jaded by the human condition.

I'm working on that. It's important to realize we are always going to have new virgins, questioning bi/gays, and both young and old discovering their identities in this sometimes hostile world.

We're here to help.

 

[rareboy]

As a corollary, however, perhaps posters should reflect on the purpose of creating threads here in the first place.

The board should not be a personal blog. Some of the tales that have been spun out on this forum beggar the imagination. Sometimes, the posters have been finally exposed as cynical, manipulative imposters who must just laugh out loud when they read the responses of the gullible to their fiction.

There also has been a tendency for some posters to use it as a dump site for items that have nothing to do with coming out, relationships or bi-sex talk. It would be better to have these threads moved immediately to Hot-topics so that more people could comment on the meaning of earrings and wristbands etc.

I would also suggest that coffee-time be over. Clearly, with some of the perpetually relationship challenged posters, there is no intention to accept any advice that doesn't validate their own pre-conceived notion of what they want to do anyway. It would be better if, at the point it is clear that the OP is more interested in the argument than the advice that this is stated and then everyone move on.

 

[tommyj]

^^^ well said rareboy!

 

[KaraBulut]

As a corollary, however, perhaps posters should reflect on the purpose of creating threads here in the first place.

I would also suggest that coffee-time be over. Clearly, with some of the perpetually relationship challenged posters, there is no intention to accept any advice that doesn't validate their own pre-conceived notion of what they want to do anyway. It would be better if, at the point it is clear that the OP is more interested in the argument than the advice that this is stated and then everyone move on.

I agree to a certain extent... but I also remember when I was a younger man- young, dumb and full of cum- I got a lot of advice. Some of it I took, a lot of it I ignored to my later regret.

But I did always listen to the advice. And later when I grew up a little bit, I started following some of the advice that I had been given many years before.

So, it's true that we have people who get mad at the advice they're given.

And it's true that there's a lot of cherry-picking of advice.

And it's true that sometimes it doesn't get through on the first try.

But maybe someday it will.

 

[tallguy297]

As a corollary, however, perhaps posters should reflect on the purpose of creating threads here in the first place.

The board should not be a personal blog. Some of the tales that have been spun out on this forum beggar the imagination. Sometimes, the posters have been finally exposed as cynical, manipulative imposters who must just laugh out loud when they read the responses of the gullible to their fiction.

There also has been a tendency for some posters to use it as a dump site for items that have nothing to do with coming out, relationships or bi-sex talk. It would be better to have these threads moved immediately to Hot-topics so that more people could comment on the meaning of earrings and wristbands etc.

I would also suggest that coffee-time be over. Clearly, with some of the perpetually relationship challenged posters, there is no intention to accept any advice that doesn't validate their own pre-conceived notion of what they want to do anyway. It would be better if, at the point it is clear that the OP is more interested in the argument than the advice that this is stated and then everyone move on.

Lets be clear, these new guidelines are not up for debate.

Neither is any one persons interpretation of what this forum is, what threads are started, how they evolve or the advice thats given going to dictate the way the board works.

If people are liars so be it, if they manipulate so be it. In the fullness of time they will be exposed.

If people over populate the boards with threads they'll soon learn that few will respond. If its a pointless thread it too will die of natural attrition.

Just let things be... peacefully, calmly.

I would simply suggest to you, that if you find some threads or some posters tiresome or irksome or unwilling to accept your advice then to simply walk away. Its a far better situation than having 2 people with "no intention to accept any advice that doesn't validate their own pre-conceived notion" bang heads for perpetuity.

 

[tallguy297]

Are the mods-admins still investigating/banning people who's stories they find too incredulous as has happened in the recent past or have you decided that c'est la vie is now the proper course?

No mate, if you read my post you'll see that it says that they will be exposed with the fullness of time.

If that means 24 hours or 24 months then so be it.

If its proven they have broken laws, have duplicate accounts or continually violated JUB's code of conduct they will be banned - its that simple. If theres proof out there bring it in.

Until then I am suggesting that no one has the right to play judge, jury and executioner.

 

[stripes]

I would simply suggest to you, that if you find some threads or some posters tiresome or irksome or unwilling to accept your advice then to simply walk away.

thank you!

i don't understand why some posters can't just ignore the threads that don't interest them. everyone else does.