Possible threesome with a friend?

[Advice23]

I have a friend that I've known for over a year now. He's exclusively heterosexual and has a gf. It took me a while to come out as bisexual to him (trust issues), but after I did, he opened up to me about being into bdsm and that he's a switch (dom/submissive in the bedroom). We've really bonded over talking about sex and the secret kinks we like to do that we usually keep to ourselves. I told him about really wanting to have a mmf threesome experience and he's told me about a mff threesome he was already planning with his gf.

Well now he's told me about actually wanting a mfm threesome and that he's been thinking about how hot it would be to watch a guy fuck his gf. He's alluded to me in the past that his gf and I should "explore each other" but he's never come right out and said he wants me to fuck her while he watches. Now that he's mentioned he's open to a threesome with a guy I'm wondering if I should approach the subject of us all doing it together. He hasn't mentioned anything about wanting to have a mfm threesome specifically with me, and if I'm being honest I'm not really sexually attracted to him or his gf (though they're both attractive). Plus I don't think we're sexually compatible (I'm not into bdsm or most of his kinks) but I do want to have this experience with a friend and I'm wondering if we should talk about it and make it happen if we're all interested. I gotta say I'd be a little jealous if he did it with another guy and just told me about it later, so I feel like we should have an open conversation and just see where all of our heads are at (no pun intended)

Any advice would be helpful!

 

[seven2go]

If you can't talk to a friend........

 

[BiBtm64]

I have a friend that I've known for over a year now. He's exclusively heterosexual and has a gf. It took me a while to come out as bisexual to him (trust issues), but after I did, he opened up to me about being into bdsm and that he's a switch (dom/submissive in the bedroom). We've really bonded over talking about sex and the secret kinks we like to do that we usually keep to ourselves. I told him about really wanting to have a mmf threesome experience and he's told me about a mff threesome he was already planning with his gf.

Well now he's told me about actually wanting a mfm threesome and that he's been thinking about how hot it would be to watch a guy fuck his gf. He's alluded to me in the past that his gf and I should "explore each other" but he's never come right out and said he wants me to fuck her while he watches. Now that he's mentioned he's open to a threesome with a guy I'm wondering if I should approach the subject of us all doing it together. He hasn't mentioned anything about wanting to have a mfm threesome specifically with me, and if I'm being honest I'm not really sexually attracted to him or his gf (though they're both attractive). Plus I don't think we're sexually compatible (I'm not into bdsm or most of his kinks) but I do want to have this experience with a friend and I'm wondering if we should talk about it and make it happen if we're all interested. I gotta say I'd be a little jealous if he did it with another guy and just told me about it later, so I feel like we should have an open conversation and just see where all of our heads are at (no pun intended)

Any advice would be helpful!

Threesomes with friends can be complicated because there's a lot to consider about who does what, what everyone's limits are, and how you'll all feel about afterward. The last thing you want to happen is to damage the friendship. that should be your first consideration. Sex is transient, friends are for the long haul. He's supportive of your sexuality, and he's opened up to you about his secrets. He seems to be a close friend and that's important.

Next is, what do you all want to do, and why? Is it right for all of you? He wand a MFM threesome, and wants a guy to fuck his GF. You're not attracted to her. Are you considering doing it just to please him and help him out, or due to fear of missing out - you said yourself that you'd be jealous if he did it with someone else. You say you want the experience despite not being sexually attracted to either of them. That's fair enough too, to want the experience and to want to be involved. Also, from your friend's point of view, who is he going to get to do it, if not you? Maybe he'd trust you more than anyone. Certainly he seems to trust you with his secrets. You might be just the right person if you were to offer.

These are just some thoughts for you to consider, and if you still think a threesome will be good for you, then talk to him. As seven2go said, if you can't talk with a friend, who can you talk to? Suggest to him, if he wants a MFM, you're willing if he wants, and if he doesn't want, no hard feelings. That's important because there might be many reasons to turn you down - like those I've described for you.

Then you'd need to have a three-way conversation about it in a neutral environment. Hopefully he will have raised it with her beforehand. Go out for a meal or a coffee, because if it's all agreed you don't want a situation where you're tempted to rush straight to the bedroom. There needs to be a cooling off period. Once you fuck his GF you can't unfuck her.

Talk about if you're all comfortable with the idea, especially her, because you and he would have mulled it over and it may be new to her if he hasn't mentioned it. You should also cover what would be happening, what everyone's limits are, and safe sex choices. She especially needs to be comfortable and willing, and not feel pushed into it just to please him. Think about it from her point of view. She's being asked to be naked in a room with two cocks, and one of them not her BF is going to be fucking her. To you and me it sounds like a dream come true, but to many women, it might sound like a freaky idea. Then agree to it being next week, or the week after, to give everyone time to mull it over and back out if they decide it's not for them.

Good luck and I hope it goes well for all of you. And remember - if he, or she, says no, or says maybe then backs out, it's because it's not right for all of you. Make sure you maintain the friendship, and if he does go ahead and do it with someone else, be happy for him as his friend. If the three of you make it happen, it might change things afterwards. You'd all need to consider whether it's a once-off and now he's satisfied, or it's a regular thing.

Finally, always remember your friendship is more important than sex.

 

[MSG_Otter.w/Ardour]

I have a friend that I've known for over a year now. He's exclusively heterosexual and has a gf. It took me a while to come out as bisexual to him (trust issues), but after I did, he opened up to me about being into bdsm and that he's a switch (dom/submissive in the bedroom). We've really bonded over talking about sex and the secret kinks we like to do that we usually keep to ourselves. I told him about really wanting to have a mmf threesome experience and he's told me about a mff threesome he was already planning with his gf.

Well now he's told me about actually wanting a mfm threesome and that he's been thinking about how hot it would be to watch a guy fuck his gf. He's alluded to me in the past that his gf and I should "explore each other" but he's never come right out and said he wants me to fuck her while he watches. Now that he's mentioned he's open to a threesome with a guy I'm wondering if I should approach the subject of us all doing it together. He hasn't mentioned anything about wanting to have a mfm threesome specifically with me, and if I'm being honest I'm not really sexually attracted to him or his gf (though they're both attractive). Plus I don't think we're sexually compatible (I'm not into bdsm or most of his kinks) but I do want to have this experience with a friend and I'm wondering if we should talk about it and make it happen if we're all interested. I gotta say I'd be a little jealous if he did it with another guy and just told me about it later, so I feel like we should have an open conversation and just see where all of our heads are at (no pun intended)

Any advice would be helpful!

It a twisty little scenario. If this were me... i'd be weighing the attractiveness of the mfm action. You say that you're not really attracted to either of them, and you wonder about the compatibility of the sex-play regardless, due to the kink structure that will likely be a part of the encounter.
I say look for a more compatible set of partners, with whom you may be more certain about enjoying the experience. Or have a open conversation about what might occur during the play-date (I believe that anyone into BDSM should be understanding of roles, expectations, boundaries, and for your peace of mind; the 'Safe Word')
What are your expectations from a mfm encounter?
I once had an encounter with 2 girlfriends, in my youthful years, that was more awkward then pleasurable. Thank Goodness neither of them held my performance against me; because I know I was clumsy, trying to ensure equal attention was given to them both.

 

[Advice23]

So I had the talk with my friend and we both agreed we're not interested in crossing that threshold together, though he did mention my name came up in convo with his gf already. It actually opened up another window of him being comfortable enough to share his gf's pics (with her consent) with me and we got another level of "awkwardness" out of the way.

He did make a joke about it later on to break some tension I guess was in the air but I feel we're cool and even closer now that it's out there.

 

[MSG_Otter.w/Ardour]

And now you know where you both stand; you guys are closer, more at ease with yourselves and each other (seems). KUDO's to you.

 

[Advice23]

Well my exclusively straight friend apparently isn't that straight. He's starting to experiment with other guys getting sucked or fucking his gf then he "cleans up" and fucks her.

It doesn't matter of course and he knows I'm supportive, but I feel like the only thing stopping him from sharing an experience with me and his gf is his gf (apparently I'm not her type).. he agrees he doesn't just want threesomes with random guys and wants to make a connection first.

I want to stay supportive and keep encouraging him to explore his fantasies/desires, but it does feel weird that we're both looking for the same thing just with different people. Has anyone else had an experience/situation like this?

 

[magicdick]

I have a friend that I've known for over a year now. He's exclusively heterosexual and has a gf. It took me a while to come out as bisexual to him (trust issues), but after I did, he opened up to me about being into bdsm and that he's a switch (dom/submissive in the bedroom). We've really bonded over talking about sex and the secret kinks we like to do that we usually keep to ourselves. I told him about really wanting to have a mmf threesome experience and he's told me about a mff threesome he was already planning with his gf.

Well now he's told me about actually wanting a mfm threesome and that he's been thinking about how hot it would be to watch a guy fuck his gf. He's alluded to me in the past that his gf and I should "explore each other" but he's never come right out and said he wants me to fuck her while he watches. Now that he's mentioned he's open to a threesome with a guy I'm wondering if I should approach the subject of us all doing it together. He hasn't mentioned anything about wanting to have a mfm threesome specifically with me, and if I'm being honest I'm not really sexually attracted to him or his gf (though they're both attractive). Plus I don't think we're sexually compatible (I'm not into bdsm or most of his kinks) but I do want to have this experience with a friend and I'm wondering if we should talk about it and make it happen if we're all interested. I gotta say I'd be a little jealous if he did it with another guy and just told me about it later, so I feel like we should have an open conversation and just see where all of our heads are at (no pun intended)

Any advice would be helpful!

No great insight or wisdom here. Just have the talk. MFM is fookin' incredible. Only did it once with a married couple and 5 seconds after putting my mouth to his cock, he said to his wife, "Oh, this guy is good!" Wife and I took turns sucking and shared his cum. And he went crazy jerking off as I did everything under the sun to his wife.

(They picked me up in a gay-bi-straight bar. Slow Tuesday night. Me sitting at bar. Wife sits next to me and hubby next to her. Hubby strikes up conversation. Wife is a looker with fantastic tits. Hubby goes to men's room. and wife turns to me and rubs tits against my arm and puts my hand on them. Her hand goes to my crotch. Hubby returns and she whispers something to him. He says, "So, you like my wife's tits? You wanna follow us home?" The rest, as they say, is history. That's life, though. Slow night. I'm thinking nothing is going to happen. And then one of my fantasies comes true.)

 

[Advice23]

He invited me over text to hangout at a casual kink meetup with him and his gf. I declined due to not being into kink enough to feel like I would confidently contribute. He did mention that him and his gf were not trying to hookup with me and just wanted to hang out. I told him that we already discussed this and that I wasn't thinking about that when he invited me to hang.

I was hoping that talking about it openly and honestly with my friend would clear up any possible thoughts or awkwardness about wanting or having a threesome together but I still think there's something lingering... now I'm not sure if we need to have another conversation or not.

 

[magicdick]

He invited me over text to hangout at a casual kink meetup with him and his gf. I declined due to not being into kink enough to feel like I would confidently contribute. He did mention that him and his gf were not trying to hookup with me and just wanted to hang out. I told him that we already discussed this and that I wasn't thinking about that when he invited me to hang.

I was hoping that talking about it openly and honestly with my friend would clear up any possible thoughts or awkwardness about wanting or having a threesome together but I still think there's something lingering... now I'm not sure if we need to have another conversation or not.

Stay attentive. Never give up hope.