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Hey guys. Sorry I've never written much before! My situation is a little weird, because I'm in-between being completely "out" and not. I'm very sure most of my friends know, even though I've never said "I'm gay," and I'm kinda sure my parents know, yet we've never spoken about it. Anyways, that's all a long story, and not really what I want to talk about in this post!

So, I'm thinking you guys are more experienced than I and are able to give me some good advice in life. I'm sorry if my story sounds typical!

I have a friend named Jesse who I've known for four years, but have gotten to know a lot better in the most recent year. I wouldn't say that we're best friends or anything, but we're definitely more than just aquantinces.

He knows I'm gay, and he might know that I'm quite attracted to him, but his persona is straight; however, he sometimes sends me weird vibes that my other straight guy friends don't.

Usually, my straight guy friends are kind of awkward around me, probably because they're thinking that I'm constantly checking them out (we don't have to go into that stereotype in this thread either). On the other hand, Jesse doesn't send me that feeling.

Not only that, he also catches me off guard with some of the things he says and does when it's just us. He's the only guy that's asked me for calculus help, but it's not only that, since that's sort of minor.

I don't remember every instance, but the last time I was tutoring him we were sitting pretty close together in the school library where many kids were studying for finals. Our legs [accidentally] touched underneath the table, and I moved away so that he wouldn't freak out since a gay guy was touching him. A few minutes later, our legs were next to each other again. In turn, I moved away slightly for the same reason. This happened a few times.

Now, I'm not really sure if Jesse was actually trying to have physical contact with me, or if he just didn't notice. Also, a few days before graduation he asked if we could hang out together sometime over the summer (another thing none of my other straight friends asked).

Compounding these instances are things that happened throughout the year. When I talk to him he's always quite physical with me, often pushing or punching me a little. Of course, when doing so it's in a playful manner. The smile and laugh that always follows is so irresistible.

Anyways, the heart of my predicament is whether or not he's interested. He's had girlfriends before, but he acts a bit gay sometimes. I spoke to my best friend about it, and she said that she had the feeling he was bisexual for a while.

I guess what I need help with is a way to ask him without ruining the friendship we already have. I really like him, but I don't want him ending up not liking me at all because he thinks I just want to get into his pants.

Regardless, if he's really straight I'd be cool with what we have now.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks So Very Much!
 
It's always tough to gauge a friend's actions like this. He might be sending you signals that he's interested, or he might simply be sending you signals that he accepts you completely, and doesn't feel "weird" around you. Sadly, those signals are often identical.

If you're like most friends, there'll probably be times when you're sitting around, talking, not doing much. You might want to take that opportunity to obliquely ask around the topic. One possibility. Mention a mutual acquaintence, or an actor (safer) that you think is attractive. Ask what he thinks. Then ask what actors HE thinks are attractive. This is semi-safe ground - you're keeping it impersonal - and you might be able to tell from his answers if he's actually given such things any thought. If he immediately starts rattling off names, you may have something. :) You can proceed from there to do a sort of "compare/contrast" thing ("I think X is hotter than Y.") and see where that takes you.

Hope that helps. And way to go at not leaping into his lap at first suspicion. ..|

Lex
 
Sounds to me like there may be a lot of wishful thinking going on....perhaps on both sides. Also sounds like he's trying to get to know you better. He DID ask if you could hang out over the summer. That's a fairly big clue. I'd say he is interested in something. Exactly what that is remains to be seen. Frankly, the only way you will likely find out or have any opportunity to touch on the subject is to spend some time together just hanging out. Not the school books and that stuff. Just hang out! What he wants (and what you want) will either become obvious very quickly or you will have simply made a good friend. Once you have spent some time together, it might be more comfortable for you to casually ask what he's into. He may ask you as well. Not in a way that sounds like you are hitting on him but just an honest question. Hope some of this helps.
 
Thank you! I really appreciate your responses.

What you guys are saying sounds really logical. Since I really don't know what I'm doing in these fields, I don't want to mess up horribly, and you guys are helping so much! I'm just out of highschool and don't want to mess up yet!

Please don't hesitate to remark, anyone! You can even IM me. Thanks so much!
 
Nothing that you've described is incompatible with him being perfectly straight.

My advice is to assume he is straight and be his friend, but always leave it to him to determine the amount of physical contact he is comfortable with and reciprocate at the same level.

He knows you're gay. If your fantasy scenario turns out to be true, then his hormones will do the work for you.
 
No, I'm not 23.

When I first signed up, I was afraid of not being able to join since I was not yet 18. I wanted to know what people wrote about and things like that.....basically what this world was like. Since I'm 18 now, I already filled out a Support Ticket so I could have it corrected. I'm a perfectionist!!!!!

Lol, just in case you're wondering, I was born June 27th, 1989.

How embarrassing, lol.
 
Why don't you just come out and ask him?

Something along the lines of, "You do know that I'm Gay don't you?"

Then see what he says, and gauge how he answers your question.

As his friend you want to be open with him about who you are, and you just want to be clear on where he is on the topic. Whether he's truly accepting or not, and then maybe you'll get an idea of just HOW accepting he is.

I'd suggest a semi-private location for this conversation. In public, so that it's not to weird, put quite; like a booth at a pizza joint or something.

Please keep us posted as to how things work out. (*8*)
 
Since he knows you are gay, ... um just ask him if he's into you. Plain as that and then take it from there.
 
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