Protected Sex with HIV positive person

[Super Nintendo Chalmers]

Hey everyone,

I don't mean to offend anyone with HIV by asking this, but I would like to know.

I may be doing a group type thing in a few weeks, and I'm not going to know the status of everyone. Therefore, I am just going to assume that everyone is HIV positive. How high do you guys think the risks are of engaging in sexual acts with someone who is HIV positive. I would be the bottom, and there would be fucking, sucking, rimming, kissing, etc etc involved. Any cock that goes near my ass would be wrapped in a condom, though any oral sex I do would be unprotected. I know all about the "if there's a cut in your mouth and something seeps in then you're screwed..." But what are the actual chances of those kinds of things happening (if I think my mouth is cut-free), and should I by fearful that a condom might rip or break, exposing me to unwanted bodily fluids.

I really would like to participate in this, but I'm a little freaked about contracting something. Is abstinence really the only thing that can keep me disease free?

 

[Atomw7]

A perfect article for you to read though: http://www.planetout.com/news/article-print.html?2002/01/14/1

Edit: Oops, it was unprotected, nevermind. This one looks better: http://www.sfaf.org/aids101/transmission.html#sex_trans

You can also google "Facts about HIV transmission" for more info.

 

[954dude]

Abstinence is the ONLY way to keep you disease free, while regular routine testing every three months will keep you up to date about your status.

With more than one person involved, some bodily fluids are more than likely to get exposed. There's nothing wrong with protected oral sex and there are risks with rimming.

 

[luminum]

I think you understand the risks, though I would emphasize that a group thing has a higher chance of being higher energy, meaning a greater chance of something going out of control (someone going to hard, too fast, or a condom breaking and you not noticing due to the pace of the group activity, etc.) Therefore, I would be most concerned not because of the fact that you don't know everyone's status, but that your safeguards to protect yourself from possible disease will be less likely to be under your strict control.

That being said, if you can be certain that every condom is on a dick and that they aren't breaking/broken, then standard rules apply: HIV can't pass through your condom, make sure there are no cuts in your mouth or anus, etc.

You may not be able to tell if you get a tear in your inner lining, and condoms can break sometimes, so that would stay my participation.

 

[Telstra]

No matter how hot you are, if you have aids you shouldn't have sex with anyone.

 

[3stripes]

No matter how hot you are, if you have aids you shouldn't have sex with anyone.

I'm appalled.

Anyone else you think shouldnt be allowed to have sex??

People who have genital herpes or warts? Ugly people? People of low IQ?

 

[Telstra]

I'm appalled.

Anyone else you think shouldnt be allowed to have sex??

People who have genital herpes or warts? Ugly people? People of low IQ?

if they both agrees to have sex go ahead and do it.

I wouldn't have sex with a deseased person and will not do it if i got aids.

 

[luminum]

Haven't we had this discussion before? Either way, I suppose it's a better statement than your earlier post. You can personally choose not to have safe sex with individuals who have STI's. That's your decision and your own phobia, but that by no way means that people with STI's should not be allowed to have safe sex, especially when it's very easy for people with STIs to have safe and fulfilling sex with their partners.

 

[drhladnjak]

Another thing you should be careful about is making sure that you're being fucked with a fresh condom. Just because it's wrapped up doesn't mean it wasn't just in somebody else's ass. HIV and other STDs can be transmitted this way. In these kind of circumstances, there's something to be said for sticking to oral/handjobs most of the time and only getting fucked by a more limited number of guys (possibly just one guy while you're there to keep things simple).

 

[luminum]

Another thing you should be careful about is making sure that you're being fucked with a fresh condom. Just because it's wrapped up doesn't mean it wasn't just in somebody else's ass. HIV and other STDs can be transmitted this way.

Very good point!

 

[bluedragon4]

Why would you want to stick an infected dick in your ass condom or not?! Pos people should still be able to have sex but stick to other pos people. All these young guys coming up pos kills me. They are obviously getting it from pos guys. Stick to neg guys and if you can't trust they are neg don't fuck. I got a test last week that shows i am neg. My new "bf" wanted to see it b4 we did anything to crazy. I don't fuck anyways but went since I was curious about these new teats that tell you in 10 minutes. The guy who tested me told me a young guy was just in and found out his buddy who fucked him was pos. The test was taken 6 days after exposure and he already came up pos. I have had many ex's and friends catch it and seen some people die. It's not worth it. I feel for those who are pos but stick to yourselves even if some dumb kid wants it in the ass with a rubber. Could you live with yourself if the rubber broke or somehow you infected him? Why chance it? I guess I just don't understand this.