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Psoriasis and Dating

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I had psoriasis when I was a little kid. It was nasty, but for whatever reason it seemed to disappear when I was in highschool. And I have not had any problems since.

I believe now a days they have better medication to treat this skin disorder compared to what they had back in my childhood.

I wish you the best of luck! :)
 
Thanks for the info! I never knew anything about psoriassis.

I think, for me, what effect it had on a relatinship would depend on a lot of factors. Does it hurt at all or would it keep you from being physically close? I know it can be not nice to look at, but i think in most cases I would be able to get over it.

Knowing that it isn't contagious is a big help.
 
I have Seborrheic dermatitis. Its close to psoriasis, but not quite the same. Mine was mainly concentrated on my eyebrows, side of the nose and in my moustache and beard. I've pretty much gotten the eyebrows and nose under control with medicine, I've shaved the beard to a goatee so its not as bad, but it runs in cycles from no flaking, redness or soreness to real bad flaking and bleeding. I feel very self conscious about it and when it flares up I dont want to go out or to work (I work front line customer service so I cant hide). I just medicate the best I can, check it often and hope the flakes dont show.
It hasnt really affected me dating other than constantly checking to make sure the flakes arent showing (I'm sure some guys thought I was just checking my look in the mirror though). Since its around my mouth, when I go out to eat it can be a problem, but I try to avoid going out to dinner when a flare up occurs. It can last anywhere from a day or so to a week depending on how bad it gets.
At times it can get very sore (dried and cracked feeling) and can make kissing and giving oral not feel so great, but other than that there arent any problems that I've found (and since I've started with the medicine, the severe cases have been fewer and far between).
I hope your doctor has been able to prescribe something that helps with the symptoms and pain. I know there isnt a cure for either, but by knowing what it is and trying to medicate hopefully it stays under check.
 
i've had a number of skin issues during my life - i'm fair-skinned and have rosacea (not real bad) and had a bout w/ psoriasis on my scalp about 6 - 7 years ago ... it lasted a bout a year and then cleared up - no problems since

i'm pretty certain mine was brought on by stress ... good luck!
 
I have psoriasis too (runs in my family) and I understand your concerns about dating. I have a partner who is not really superficial at all and so that kind of thing doesn't bother him.

A couple things I have learned about psoriasis you may or may not know.

1) Alcohol makes it worse. I never realized how much of a role alcohol could play until I started eliminating things from my diet to see what might make a difference. I ended up going a year without any alcohol at all and my skin got so much better ... what spots I still had were much less pronounced and overall it was much less bothersome. I started having some alcohol again this summer and I've noticed that my psoriasis is getting worse again, so I'm thinking that it's just something I'm going to give up.

2) Getting a little sun when you can makes a big difference. Be very careful not to burn as that can make it worse, but getting a little sun will help.

3) There is a new ointment that was set to come out this summer (I forget the name) that is supposed to be very very effective and safe. You might want to see your dermatologist to find out about it. I am going to ask about it at my next appointment.

4) Try taking fish oil capsules. I've found that taking 2-3 a day helps.
 
Definitely keep seeing your dermatologist so that your disease gets under good control. If you are really not seeing the improvement you are hoping for, ask your dermatologist whether one of the new "biologic" drugs (just say that, they'll know what you mean) like Enbrel would be appropriate for you.
 
2) Getting a little sun when you can makes a big difference. Be very careful not to burn as that can make it worse, but getting a little sun will help.

Correct. Why? Probably vitamin D-mediated.

You should have a vitamin D-25 level taken with your next bloodwork.

Background: vitamin D is not a vitamin in the strict sense: i.e. a nutrient that we cannot make ourselves and therefore must get from our food. Rather, it is a steroid hormone, a modified choleSTEROL molecule, like sex hormones, cortisol, etc. Under ideal conditions we make all we need ourselves.

The 'rate limiting' step in the synthesis of Vitamin D occurs in the skin, where enzymes (large protiens) use the energy from ultraviolet solar radiation (UVB) to power the synthesis. Exposing your hands, forearms, and face to 15 minutes of mid-day sunlight will provide you with more than ample vitamin D. However, few of us in the industrialized world ever have the opportunity to do this.

For nearly a century, Vitamin D has been associated with bone metabolism. However, we are now begining to appreciate that it plays may other roles. Among other things it inhibits cell division (mitosis). Many cancers are associated with vitamin D deficient states (prostate, esp. in African Americans, breast). Cancers, like psoriasis, are diseases primarily characterized by uncontrolled cell division.

The connection between vitamin D and bone metabolism was made among children living in tenements who had rickets (weak, poorly formed bones). This was when they first started supplementing milk with Vitamin D.

Do not depend on milk, or your daily multiple vitamin, to meet you vitamin D requirements: it's a drop in the bucket.

Back to psoriasis: for years, the only effective treatment for psoriasis was exposure of the diseased skin to light from ultraviolet lamps. The rapid skin cell division was inhibited likely due to increased local vitamin D synthesis.

Medical subspecialist are very often like the proverbial 'six blind men and the elephant', and dermatologists are among the most guilty. They go ballistic over the mere mention of exposure to UV radiation. While exposure of the face and hands to mid-day sun will probably increase your risk for skin cancer, in terms of overall societal disease burden the things it will protect against -- your psoriasis, hip fractures secondary to osteoporosis, prostate, breast, and other cancers -- far outweigh the risk.

Another autoimmune disease that appears to be associated with vitamin D deficiency is Multiple Sclerosis. MS is nearly unheard of in the tropics, where one is exposed to solar UV radiation year round, and endemic in northern countries.

3) There is a new ointment that was set to come out this summer (I forget the name) that is supposed to be very very effective and safe. You might want to see your dermatologist to find out about it. I am going to ask about it at my next appointment.

I think this is a vitamin D preparation;)
 
My boyfriend has psoriasis, and it really doesn't bother me. Anyone for whom it's an issue is probably too shallow for a real relationship anyway.

He finds that stress can make it worse. And sunlight definitely helps. It almost completely clears up in the summer, but is back in the winter.
 
I have it on the very back of my head. Fortunately my hair covers it up so it's not all that visible, but it can be incredibly annoying as it itches if I don't put my perscribed steroid solution on it. Plus it will flake off and look like I have dandruff if I don't keep it under control.

I'm happy it is in a concentrated area though. I used to have it on my forehead, but thankfully it went away. I've also noticed that it will spread to my ears if I don't use the medication.
 
my bf's had psoriasis all his life and sometimes it was really bad. then we went to the US and he bought something called dermarest i think. he used it for a few months and his skin has cleared up since then and he hasn't had any major problems since.
 
I have psoriasis and about 2 months ago started dating this wonderful guy. I was nervous about meeting up with him because he did not know about it before we met. We proceeded to get intimate and I felt compelled to tell him that I had psoriasis. He kinda knew what it was, but all he asked was whether it was contagious. I explained that no, it was not. That was the end of that.

We have had very passionate sex since, and my psoriasis is clearly not a concern for him, other than to ask whether I am doing OK with it. I guess I am lucky to have found such a great guy. I am also glad to have overcome the hurdle of telling him and my fear of rejection.

The moral of the story: If a guy rejects you because of your skin condition, he was not worth it in the first place. Keep searching and you'll find the one who will like you for who you are and not for what is on your skin.

Paco :)
 
I am affected with Seborrheic dermatitis, Psoriasis (mildly) along with tinea versicolor not mentioned here.

And it is incredibly depressing when those untimely invariable flareups occur (mine occur on the face no less!) out of nowhere. I tend to become very sad and distant to everyone when those periods occur as well. And stress, indeed contributes HEAVILY to those flareups.

Nonetheless, I have never told anyone I dated---since it was always something that I monitored dillegently.

I have tried many products/prescriptions until I have found what seems to be the most effective for me.

And those things are: Sulfur Soap, Tea Tree Oil, Golden Seal Tea and most importantly of all...PLENTY OF SUNSHINE/RAYS!!!

When I've done those things, I've actually beencomplemented on my skin for it's appearance. Of course during the winter time, getting sunshine is extremely challenging.

In addition, working out (cardio in particular) and participating in stress relieving activities are also vital. Working out helps because the toxins your body creates are now leaving the body; and stress relieving activity needs no further explanation ;)

I also monitor my diet to help with all of this. I take a comprehensive approach to addressing this--as it is one of the most humbling moments to experience when it inevitably takes place.

hope that helps to those that have been affected.
 
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