Psychology class

[silentalk]

This is crazy! I know...

The main reason I'm posting this is in the hope that this guy I go to class with - whom I have a crush on - might be a JUB member and read this. How insane is that?? But any advice from you guys would be appreciated.

So I go to this school in NYC. I have a morning psychology class two days a week. Here's the crazy part: I've had a crush on this guy ever since the first class two weeks ago. And the only stupid reason is (I guess) his long hair, which he keeps curled in a band. I mean he's handsome and all, but I don't really know the reason besides that. He rarely even speaks (The teacher really does all the talking).

I've looked him up and found out he has a profile on facebook, but I couldn't find him on myspace, although there's someone with a similar name, but it's not him. The only way I can actually see his facebook profile (for those of you who don't use facebook) is to send him a friend request, and I don't want to do that since it would seem very weird.

I normally would have waited to know if he's straight or gay/bi, only there are two issues. The first (I know you guys will blame me for this) is that the longer I wait, the more I get attached (sorry I can't help it). I don't need to talk about this, you guys know it's hard to be single. The second is that I think I over heard him telling a friend something about his "girlfriend".

Isn't there a way out of these crazy circles I keep getting into???

 

[grady26]

What's wrong with sending him a friend request on facebook saying, "Hey, I think you and I are in the same psych class at NYC."

That may be a way to break that ice and get to meet him, right?

 

[martin6]

Sending him a friend request is no less weird than him reading this post on JUB (if he were indeed a member). If you're hoping he reads your post here spilling your guts, then why are you so averse to using facebook??

I've gotten friend requests from people I don't really know in my classes and it really wasn't that weird.

Or, you could go talk to him physically. "Did you understand the homework?" or "What did you think of the reading this week?" You get the idea.

 

[rareboy]

Uh, or since you share a class and actual space with him, you might just....I dunno...........Talk to him or something?

 

[hottie1982]

Start by just making a simple coversation, thats easy enough!

 

[comfortable]

One) Do you have any friends in his network that you could ask to login in as and take a peak at his profile? Then you wouldn't have to add him as a friend - but I'd just add him...be forward. haha. I mean come on, I don't think twice about some random person adding me as a friend (unless they look scary...) - I just accept it, and if they're someone that I don't know and have NO friends in common, they can see my limited profile....I mean, what's the worst that could happen?!

Two) You need to find a boyfriend...with someone you KNOW is gay! You live in NEW YORK CITY!!!!!!! How hard could it POSSIBLY be to find places that only gay guys hang out in! There are probably support groups and all kind of stuff there! I live in podunk-town religious southern US - - - - I have a better excuse for not having many boyfriends in the past! haha. You should not have that hard of a time finding someone who youa re compatible with. Then, once you're getting laid and have someone on speed dial for you all the time...you won't stare up and down guys as they walk by, because you have one of your own ;-)

good luck...

- C

 

[Just_Believe18]

There are plenty of men in NYC to be worrying about one guy in your psychology class. Just send him a friend request or whatever and move on. Obsessing over it isn't healthy.

 

[mac_twck]

OK, can we pretend it is 1983. No facebook, no cell phones, barely any answering machines.

Just go up and talk to him. At most you have made a friend, at least your crush will be over. Why all the hesitation? We all managed to do it with no technology and I can tell you it is wonderful.

Mac

 

[silentalk]

Thanks guys! These responses have been really helpful... You know, encouraging. So, yeah, I'll try to talk to him and at least make a friend.

And...

One) Do you have any friends in his network that you could ask to login in as and take a peak at his profile? Then you wouldn't have to add him as a friend - but I'd just add him...be forward. haha. I mean come on, I don't think twice about some random person adding me as a friend (unless they look scary...) - I just accept it, and if they're someone that I don't know and have NO friends in common, they can see my limited profile....I mean, what's the worst that could happen?!

Two) You need to find a boyfriend...with someone you KNOW is gay! You live in NEW YORK CITY!!!!!!! How hard could it POSSIBLY be to find places that only gay guys hang out in! There are probably support groups and all kind of stuff there! I live in podunk-town religious southern US - - - - I have a better excuse for not having many boyfriends in the past! haha. You should not have that hard of a time finding someone who youa re compatible with. Then, once you're getting laid and have someone on speed dial for you all the time...you won't stare up and down guys as they walk by, because you have one of your own ;-)

good luck...

- C

Wow! I have to say that this makes me feel something! Only there is one small problem: WHERE CAN I MEET GUYS HERE?? I mean, I hate to go to bars and/or night clubs. So any other places I can meet people between 23 - 27?? Because I've heard that the LGBT center here (which I've visited once) have groups for teens, but - as far as I know - no one around my age. I'm not sure. I'm not looking for a hook up. Something real!!!!! Yeah, so... Thanks for reading all my ranting! Advice would be appreciated.

 

[mydrew1]

You live in NEW YORK CITY!!!!!!! How hard could it POSSIBLY be

And I live in Melbourne in Australia; hard to find a gay guy and get a date.

I suggest to the Op they try to end up sitting nexxt to him and offer help with schoolwork, etc. That's the best and least suspicious way to start.