Question about love....

[ahotjock71]

Two clich'e's for ya:

"Love Sux" & "Time heals all wounds."

For whatever reason the seperation or breakup, we have to move on, and in time it gets easier. You can love again, although you may never get over a particular person.

One last clich'e:

"If you love something, set it free.
If it comes back to you, it's yours.
If it doesn't, it never was."

 

[Christopherb36]

I understand the question...I know it is about me...but I will TRY to be open and honest.

If they are not near you, location wise, you can make it work if you really want to...If this means travel, cam to cam, telephone or letters. It can work. If the relationship is strong, it can work. The independence is great, but being with someone is wonderful too. You will do whatever you can to make it work. I did it, it was hard, very hard...eventually I moved there and it was not even close to what I thought it would be and I was miserable, which eventually caused the relationship to implode. When you are dealing with long distances, you have the picture in your head of how perfect it will be and may eventually be....but be careful of what you make of it. Dreams do not always come true. Is my answer, don't do it? Hell no, I believe in the "love like you have never been hurt before" policy. Sometimes throwing caution to the wind is wonderful and sometimes you need to listen to your heart. You know you better than anyone else...listen to what your heart is telling you.

Now, if they are not here, your love can be put toward other outlets-a hobby, a pet, your family, yourself. What is love? I am under the belief that there is not just one love for us out there. I am in the relationship I am in now because I choose to be. It may change tomorrow, whether it be my choice or theirs...I can do nothing about it. Yes, you can love someone just as much, if not more. We learn something from every perspn that is in our life...You may take what you have learned to the next relationship or you may choose to leave it behind. You will always carry something of that last love...love is forever. You cannot believe that you will never love again or you may end up lonely and confused and sad.

 

[dcmorgan]

"If you love something, set it free.
If it comes back to you, it's yours.
If it doesn't, it never was."

Alternatively:
"If you love someone, set them free.
If they comes back to you, they're yours.
If they don't, hunt them down and shoot them"

 

[eric55]

Everyone who will ever touch your heart will be with you as long as you are alive to remeber them.

Love is not a finite resource. Love is the stuff that keeps us all going, it's the stuff that gave us life and the thing that sustains us through it.

Love lost or love unrequited can feel like a burning canonball in your chest. New love feels like the hot rays of the sun poking through a cloudy sky. Every day of your life you remember love, it will nourrish you and keep you going.

I have (as you may already have read) just left a long relationship. I have 3 relationships behind me now, this last one was "the real deal", but saddly it didn't last forever. At the same time, even as the cannon ball is still sitting in my chest, I know I will never forget the love I have carried for the man I left. It has changed into what I hope will become a friendship, and it has changed me into a better person. The loves you have known will always be with you as long as you choose to remember them. It has taken me a long time to realise that you can not simply turn the page on someone you have loved... those feelings will be with you always.

A mother's love for her third child is no less than that she has for her first. There is boundless love to give.

When you meet someone new, the next person who makes you vibrate when you see them, love has a chance to emerge between you again. And no, it won't be the same exactly because love is the product of what the two of you will bring to it to feed it. But it will fill you with the same joy, the same passion. There is no need to fear, God didn't hand out love tickets, there's no limit on how many times you can find love.

Just remember, when you're ready, to be open to it. Approach it gently like a wild bird. And let it come to you...again and again

 

[teh_nathan]

if everyone has one true love in their life (which i don't believe - i believe that we can have several loves in our lives, not just "the one"), how do you even know which one it is? if you have it and you lose it, you wouldn't know.

 

[cocktales]

Love is NOT a one-time happening!

We can have ALL kinds of love, from the emotional, sexy, love of a beau to the love of a kitten or a beautiful flower!

If we lose at love, and canNOT have that love returned to us; it does NOT mean that we can never find another one to love in the same manner or even better...

Hopefully, you will NOT lock your heart up and throw away the key when love has failed. To experience more love, you must have the attitude that you can accept someone else into your life to make you happy...

Loving is just about the easiest; but hardest to get, isn't it?

 

[Joshua_me]

Well...

In my point of view.....

Once you let some one into your heart... I mean, REALLY let them in,
dropping all the usual BS and pretense that we all surround ourselves with,
they *never* really leave.

It is, I presume, tough enough for the Str8 folks, but as gay men...as sheltered as 'put-offish' as we can be, (ex. 'can you BELIEVE what he was wearing ??') It's even more difficult.

But, even considering all of that, I truly believe that true love can be found by two guys of our, um, persuasion.

Perhaps the major difference is that when the traditional man and woman 'hook up' it's celebrated, and for us... well, let's just say it's not quite the same.

There's a big difference between finding some guy that'll share your bed everynight, and someone that'll embrace your soul in everyway.

I'm drifting a bit here, I suppose... But the bottom line for those that know me here is that it appears that I'm *never* gonna get over Tim, and Keith bloody well knows that... So, it's not fair to ask him to live in his shadow forever....


I'm not giving up hope quite yet.

 

[confusedboy23]

Beautifully written! Reading this thread nearly brought tears to my eyes

I have loved......and I am working towards loving again!

But true enough, I am thankful that he has touched my life and whenever I am reminded of the times we shared, I see a smile on my face or a tear on my cheek.

That is love.....

 

[Nonimus]

You can love again.

 

[confusedboy23]

Thank you elvin and Nonimus.

I just have to keep my heart open but I know memories of my first love shall always remain close and dear to me.

 

[Nonimus]

Aye, you're gonna have to gimmie a few days before i start tearing the place apart, but be patient!

 

[Nonimus]

Thank you elvin and Nonimus.

I just have to keep my heart open but I know memories of my first love shall always remain close and dear to me.

That's the thing, if you truely love someone then i don't think you'll ever stop loving them, that love may diminish, or be blighted by things they do/say etc or just be impossible because of circumstances. But trust me, when it hits you again, its just as strong.

This is way to philosophical for 10:34 am.

 

[confusedboy23]

This is way to philosophical for 10:34 am.

I'm sure it's a sure sign reminding you that you're indeed awake! LOL

Anyway, it is friday night here - 7:40pm so I didn't much problem taking it in