Question about my Erections

[rossignols]

Hey guys, so heres my story.

I'm 23, healthy, active, 160 pounds (looking to bulk up). I've been dating my boyfriend now for almost 2 years and things are good for the most part. Our sex life is pretty good, we are both versatile and switch back and forth on a regular basis. We also enjoy lots of blowjobs and enjoy cumming all over each other .

My problem is that when I am topping, I will be hard as a rock at the start, and then slowly lose my erection as I fuck. Its not that I am not turned on, I just can't seem to stay hard.
**** Here's the kicker, it doesn't always happen, only about 1/3 of the time I top him.***
My boyfriend is younger (21) and can get hard just by me touching his cock for 1 second and stays hard forever it seems.

Has anyone ever encountered this problem before??? Is it just that I have a nervous penis??? Or is it slight ED???? I have no clue!!

Any advice would be appreciated!! Thanks guys! xoxxoxo

 

[Stevieglw]

I get that too man.... So will be interested in the replies. I usually find its worse when I have to put a condom on.

 

[OPHELIA_HARDIN]

FWIW, I sometimes find that too much stimulation will cause my erection to droop. My "cure" is to just slow down and keep it inside him without a lot of thrusting, etc. for a few minutes.

 

[Benvolio]

Sometimes a tight condom seems to work against the erection, assuming that you are using one. You might try using the jumbo size or the type that are dry, not lubricated inside.

 

[KaraBulut]

A lot of what you're describing is normal. A lot of guys get hard and soft several times during sex before getting super-hard immediately before they come. There are guys who- like your boyfriend- get hard and stay hard until they come but most guys aren't like that.

The editing of porn videos makes it look like guys stay hard continuously during sex. What they don't show is the guys stopping and going off set to get hard before returning to the set to continue the film.

When guys say they can't get hard or they lose their erection frequently or lose their erection and can't get a hardon again to finish- then we start worrying that there may be a problem. But what you're saying- that you start out hard and then loose your erection about 1/3 of the time (which means you stay hard 2/3 of the time), is not too far out of the norm.

There are things that you can do that will help- finding positions that favor staying hard, avoiding masturbation for a day or so before you are going to have sex with your boyfriend, avoiding alcohol, making sure you're well hydrated and find the right time of day for you to top (some guys stay hard easier in the morning while others do better at night). As a last resort, you can talk to your physician about ED drugs but honestly- if things are working great 2/3 of the time and- most important- if you and your boyfriend are satisfied sexually, there's really not a problem that justifies using medications.

 

[BNW1985]

The editing of porn videos makes it look like guys stay hard continuously during sex. What they don't show is the guys stopping and going off set to get hard before returning to the set to continue the film.

Couldn't agree with this more. The same thing happens to me when I (very, very rarely) top, and it happens to my boyfriend when we have sex, too. Don't take it as a statement of your interest level or that there's anything wrong with you, because I think it's really just something that isn't talked about very often.

 

[Stevieglw]

With me, I find that there's a kind of "lack of feeling" when I'm inside a guys ass and that's when I seem to go a bit soft. I've also found that when I feel under any kind of pressure to be the top, as opposed to being with a vers guy and just getting down to things and seeing what happens, that pressure situation is a kind of trigger for stressing over my erection. Catch 22.

I've found that staying off the wanking for a few days is a big help, but very hard to do!

 

[jayamsterdam]

If you want to go the supplement route, consider purchasing Maca 500 mg on Amazon for about $5 a bottle. You take like 3 a day and they help you improve erections. I'm 25 and started noticing that i wasn't having morning wood, so I have been taking Maca for a while and it works like magic. In addition, a 50 mg tablet of Zinc has also helped (I actually started with Zinc and noticed results almost immediately).

 

[BigChicken]

If the frequency of these erection problems increase, go see your doctor about it.

Meanwhile, I'm going to quote from another thread about what has helped me with erections...

"raw pistachios and raw hazelnuts-- just a small amount eaten on an empty stomach about 30 minutes before having sex really helps. They contain something that your body uses to make your penis firm and erect.

The key seems to be that your stomach must be completely empty before you eat them, and then don't eat anything until after you have sex.

It works for me, and for a few other guys I know. And it's cheap.

I've tried all kinds of herbal supplements, etc., and nothing works as well as raw pistachios and raw hazelnuts."

 

[Jason Matthews]

Hmmm this is interesting...
Its difficult to say really. I mean there are so many factors that could play into it. Any medications, drugs or alcohol you may be taking could be a serious, probably the biggest, consideration. Asside from that things like stress, exercise and diet play major roles. It could be something as simple as spicing up your sex life. You say you want to bulk up ?? Well give that a go and you may find that youve killed two birds with one stone. Working out will significantly increase your testosterone which in turn will elevate both your mood and sexual drive.

 

[Seasoned]

With me, I find that there's a kind of "lack of feeling" when I'm inside a guys ass and that's when I seem to go a bit soft. I've also found that when I feel under any kind of pressure to be the top, as opposed to being with a vers guy and just getting down to things and seeing what happens, that pressure situation is a kind of trigger for stressing over my erection. Catch 22.

I've found that staying off the wanking for a few days is a big help, but very hard to do!

OMG, I could have written this. I guess I'm a passive top so when the pressure was on I'd go soft. Now my issue is the aftermath of prostate surgery.

To the OP: try to have fun with the starts and stops and your second guessing yourself should ease. I think once we question whether or not we'll stay hard a kind of reverse biofeedback takes over.