Question about rimming

[cocklust]

Hey guys.

My partner and I have been together for eleven years. While I have never really been into the idea of rimming, recently I have been liking the idea. Pictures and videos of rimming really turn me on, and just thinking about eating out my partner's asshole gets me hard.

My issue is that I'm not sure how to go about doing this. Of course I know that we would have to be very clean for it to happen. I could never just do it during a typical night of sex knowing that my partner and I had gone to the bathroom that day. It's unhealthy and frankly the idea is gross as fuck.

However, the idea of stopping a potential sex session to go and shower seems ridiculous. If we are getting something started...what am I supposed to do? Stop and say "Can you go take a shower and make sure to clean yourself really well so I can stick my tongue in your butthole?"

Nobody is naturally squeaky clean during the day, and stopping to go clean seems weird and clinical and takes the fun out. So I'd like to hear from you guys about your experiences with rimming. How do you do it? How do you prepare for it? How do you keep it sexy?

Basically, how can I eat butt and keep it sanitary and healthy?

 

[redips]

Have sex in the shower. Problem solved =)

 

[medic1]

Or even better, you both have a shower before going to bed.............

 

[KaraBulut]

Basically, how can I eat butt and keep it sanitary and healthy?

The answer to this depends on exactly how deep you want to go in your buttmunching efforts. If you're just looking for some superficial tongue-action, then all he needs to do is a quick wash with a soap and a washcloth (or some effort with a wet wipe if that's all that's available). If you're wanting to go in for the deep dive and you're not turned on by the smells and tastes of the full experience, then a shower and some deep cleaning is what is needed.

Nobody is naturally squeaky clean during the day, and stopping to go clean seems weird and clinical and takes the fun out. So I'd like to hear from you guys about your experiences with rimming. How do you do it? How do you prepare for it? How do you keep it sexy?

The issue with rimming is largely a mental adversion. If it's somebody you're dating and he's healthy, chances are you're exposed to plenty of his bacteria when you kiss his or have your mouth on any part of his body. The bacteria around the butthole are on plenty of other places on the body... there's just more of them in the butt cleft. So, it's not so much about whether it's clean, it's more about the idea of poop and how, for post people, it's a turn-off.

The best way to deal with it is to come clean (pun intended) about your anxiety. This is your boyfriend- you've seen each other naked and you've probably done just about everything that two guys can do. So, he should not be the least offended if, during foreplay you were to say, "Let's go jump in the shower because I want to give you a rimjob". Most guys will hear the word "rimjob" and will be happy to shower to get one.

Have sex in the shower. Problem solved =)

^That's where a lot of newbies start out when they're wanting to try rimming but aren't ready to dive in. So, in the shower or immediately afterward provides enough mental reassurance to do it.

 

[journo25]

Shower before having sex. Knowing that rimming is becoming part of the repertoire generally motivates someone to be "extra thorough," maybe soaping and rinsing twice. Personally I love rimming but have never expected a partner to douche in preparation for it, since I know that even my long, strong tongue won't reach as deep inside him as a good-sized cock would.

When I'm with someone who finds rimming as intense as I do, there is nothing more pleasurable. I blow a huge load without even touching my cock if a guy knows how to rim my hole.

 

[Seasoned]

Taking a shower together. Washing each other including crack and hole. Kneeling and have him bend foreword bracing the wall.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Personally, I'd use non-microwavable saran wrap since dental dams are a bit thick and unweildy, while the saran wrap is thin and you can feel everything through it, (particularly with a bit o'lube on the underside) with the added bonus of you're sure not to smell, taste or catch anything (not talking about sti's here). Even with the healthiest partners where your body is already used to his general chemistry and bacteria set, an 'in-depth' tongueing can still give you cause to need meds later. If you do decide to use no barriers, keep that in mind so you'll know if you need to get checked out. Has nothing to do with sleeping around or cheating or what have you, - things just happen.

I'll also point out that most people contract oral herpes as children, and it is spreadable when you don't use barriers. No 'breakouts' doesn't mean you can't give his poor anus a problem.

- and by most I mean at least 50 percent. Most people don't have outbreaks, though, because of decent immune systems. We don't actually know the percentage since it's based on people who have outbreaks.