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Question about "straight" friend

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Some of you may remember my post a few months back.. Nothing has changed all that much... Same old falling for best "straight" friend... but I hung out with him earlier today, and he was doing some strange things... we were sitting in the hot tub, and he kept standing up right in front of me, with his bathing suit kinda hanging halfway down his ass. His crack wasn't showing, but when he turned around the v shaped thing that is right before the Penis was showing... I dont know why he was doing this, his bathing suit was not too big for him.. any opinions? I am thinking of just jokingly asking him if he wants to make out or something... then if he is like wtf no I could say I was messing around, as I am not sure what I am yet... I might just be bisexual or curious. I have attraction to women as well so I don't want to label myself just yet... more like experiment :D thanks everyone
 
I kind of typed that very fast... I feel like he flirts with me often, and I wanted to know the best way to go about experimenting would be. The other day, he got in the pool with nothing on but very tight boxers that showed everything. Today, I joked around and said "that bathing suit isn't staying on. might as well skinny dip" and he said "Probably will later." Is it all in my head? I am pretty sure he is at least bisexual... when we drink or smoke there will be times that we both just look at eachother and smile and laugh... he tried to get me to tickle him because he claims he is not ticklish.. lol I feel really stupid typing all of this out but he does things that makes me wonder all the time! any advice would be greatly appreciated.
 
Again, I'll defer to Lube's Law.

If you think your friend might be gay, he's gay.
If you think your friend might be interested, he's interested.
If you think your friend might be hitting on you, he's hitting on you.

Lex
 
Thats awesome if it is true but how do I go about it to make sure without weirding him out if he is really straight?
 
Again, I'll defer to Lube's Law.

If you think your friend might be gay, he's gay.
If you think your friend might be interested, he's interested.
If you think your friend might be hitting on you, he's hitting on you.

Lex

lol...Love it Lex
 
Return tit for tat.

>>>we were sitting in the hot tub, and he kept standing up right in front of me, with his bathing suit kinda hanging halfway down his ass. His crack wasn't showing, but when he turned around the v shaped thing that is right before the Penis was showing...

Lean in as if inspecting it a bit, then lean back and nod. "Yes. I definitely approve. Only one thing wrong with it." When asks what it is, say "There's this bathing suit getting in the way."

>>>The other day, he got in the pool with nothing on but very tight boxers that showed everything. Today, I joked around and said "that bathing suit isn't staying on. might as well skinny dip" and he said "Probably will later."

At that point, say "Mind if I get started now?" and take yours off.

Lex
 
sounds like its time for that phrase we discussed a while back: "are you hitting on me?"

maybe he is. maybe hes just enjoying the attention, fucking cock-tease. only one way to find out.
 
ok... I just wanted to verify with you guys that this sounded kind of like a cock-tease situation... im gonna try to get him to get naked tonight XD thanks guys
 
Next time he stands up in front of you, joke around and pretend to "pants" him (pull his pants down). See what his reaction is.
 
Well I have actually done something like that... Idk why but we were both hanging out and he was saying he wasn't ticklish anywhere. I tried to tickle under his legs and he buckled... Gay/bi?
 
lol wait... adam lambert is gay??? KIDDING thanks guys. I will try to push the envelope.
 
This isn't pushing the envelope. It's giving him an opening. One which he'll take. :)

Lex
 
He wants something to happen, but that doesn't mean he'll take you up on an offer. I remember the days of being a scared rabbit and there were guys in my dorm who tried awfully hard to get me to do something. I didn't feel right about it and turned down every opportunity. Instead I fought the urge, got married, had two kids, got divorced, met my partner and still fantasize what I might have done with those guys from my dorm. Push the envelope.
 
update : He skinny dipped in my pool last night as a dare, from just me. nobody else was over........ then I went to his house and he wanted me to sleep in a huge bed downstairs, and he slept in it too when his bed was in his room upstairs. we didnt do anything in the bed tho, but I just wish it was easier to give him an opening.
 
Guys I don't think the guy is really interested him in the same way that he is. So I have to politely disagree that he wants something to happen.

I just smell something fishy here. My gay male intuition tells me this man is 100% straight, won't do anything at all with you, and just enjoys sadistically teasing you like this. And because you're most likely a gay man with self-esteem and insecurity issues, you love it because it helps *you* become comfortable with your own gayness.

Yeah it sucks but there are tons of hot straight guys who get a kick out of teasing gay guys like that. =/ I guess how much you're willing to be a part in this go-nowhere mess is up to you.

If I'm wrong well then...I'm wrong.
 
I am glad to see differing opinions, but he wouldn't be doing this to mess with my head. him and I have been best friends for 8 years or so. I am by no means interested in having a relationship with him. I just wanted to experiment a little bit as many men do in college
 
So you and this guy are willing to put the awkwardness of sexual messing around in the way of the rest of your 8 year friendship?

Because, with the way you're both going about it, that is how it is going to end up.

The one closet case that I had been friends with all through high school decided one night when he was staying over while visiting me in uni that he wanted to play around. I ended up giving him a bj. I think he enjoyed it too much, though. He tried to play it light the next day, but it was the end of our actual friendship. He got married, had kids and never contacted me again.

I often think that if we hadn't been 'experimenting', he might still be a close friend.

Just a thought.
 
>>>I just wish it was easier to give him an opening.

He got naked in front of you.
He crawled into bed with you.

What have you done? From what I've gleaned from your posts, you've dare him to do stuff. Fine, but you can do better.

When he skinny-dipped, did you take off YOUR suit and join him in the pool?

Did you admire how he looked? Did you compliment him? Did you say something like "See, you've got a really nice ass. I wish mine looked like that. That's exactly the kind of ass that turns me on"?

When he got in bed with you, did you thank him? Did you say something like "Thanks - the nights are much better when you're here"? Did you thank him for getting naked for you? Did you say something like "I'll admit - I've wanted to see you naked for some time, and I really liked what I saw. I won't lie - you got me quite excited"?

Keep nudging in that direction. If he wants something to happen - and I still think he does - then something will.

Lex
 
So he knows you're gay right?

I don't know, a lot of that sounds like extremely typical gay projection.

The hallmark is that the supposedly gay guy does all these gay things that push the line, despite being a massive closet case afraid of himself. All the while the gay guy sits around in torturous angst and "just doesn't know!!!"

Not only that, but months and months go by while the closet case tosses innuendo after innuendo, which get ignored completely, he never once gets discouraged and moves on, and we get report after angsty report.

I'm going to alter Lube's Law. If you THINK that some guy is coming on to you, and you want him but won't engage - YOU think he's probably straight.

Because I gotta say, if it was me, and I was that sure he was wiggling his ass at me for my benefit, I'd have had him over the side of the hot tub in about ten minutes flat.
 
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