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Hey Buddy

Beware - he is 17 and considered a minor in this country

Stick to friendship until he turns 18
 
I am gonna save Soilwork the trouble and utter his immortal words on his behalf: Don't shit where you eat! And the age thing is just a no-brainer ... and I don't know if Canadian rules are any different than the USA in this respect.
 
:gogirl: Stick to Canadian laws. If you lived in the US i would say wait until he is 18. Besides, he's already 17, so it's not like you have to wait 30 years! He'll be legal soon enough, in the meantime, get to know him better. Try coming out yourself, he can be your guide! Getting to know him better will only improve things when and if you two decide (legally!) you want to be more than friends! If i were you, i'd use my time off from college to relax, recharge and regroup....and come out! This June is the Toronto Pridefest, which you two should absolutely go to!! I'll be there with bells on (not literally). Just be glad you can legally marry in Canada, something that i doubt will ever happen in every US state. Good luck!
 
Food for thought, actually the Age of consent in Canada is 14 and 18 if the case is one of the following:

prostitution, pornography or a relationship of trust/authority/dependency

I would probably wouldn't recommend dating a coworker, but there would be nothing illegal about doing it (provided you aren't his boss, for example)

http://www.justice.gc.ca/en/dept/clp/faq.html
 
do what you feel mate.fuck the laws.
who will find out anyway.
go!go!go!
 
Ryder11 said:
I have started at a new job, I'm taking a semester off from university. There is a guy who works there, who is so damn hot, and hilarious. He is openly gay...I am not, at all. He flirts with me alll day, and I've started to flirt back when no one is noticing.haha. I'd love to know someone who is gay, who knows that I am, and possibly something else happen, who knows...the only thing is, I just found out that he is only 17...I am 20. Is that bad? haha 17 just seems so damn young.

Meh, give me your input on what I should do! Its a new year, I need to start living my real life and enjoy it! 2006 was just...terrible. But, to finally get happy, I need to come out, just..gotta...figure out the best way! aaha

These are just random thoughts I thought I should write down!

Night!
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Man, all the advice you've been given ^ is crap.... Why does everyone here think that you can't date a guy that is 17 when you are 20..... does everyone here assume that you two will fuck right off the bat? And that he will accuse you of rape.....
A 20 year old can date a 17 year old guy without any problem. Just go out man, have a good time, get to know each other.... have fun. He may be an openly gay guy, sounds like you are not.
Everyone is so paranoid here.... Have fun, get to know each other. Kiss, have sex if you want to.
:D
 
Come out first.

If 2006 was terrible for you, the best way to start making 2007 a better year is to be honest and forthright about who you are and what you want.

Come out of the closet first, then date men.
 
Ask him out, and don't worry about the sex thing. I'm pretty sure Elra's right.

And I really wouldn't worry about the co-worker thing. That 'rule' tends to be more for proper solid careers, whereas this sounds like something a uni student uses to pick up some cash during the holidays.
 
Yeah, dude. 2006 was pretty shitty for me too so I decided that I was going to come out this year. It would put my mind at ease and plus, since my birthday is on new years day, my 21st year would be one of changes and openness.

However, I haven't told anyone in the past week. I've come really close to telling one person until she started asking me if I was gay--and then I denied it!

So, I'm thinking she knows because she's dropping hints about how she loves gay guys, it would be fine, etc. but I'm still very nervous.

I would say tell him and the girls that you work with. Apparently they already suspect so what would it hurt?

I'm going to try and follow my own advice as well!

Good luck.
 
colemanshs said:
Yeah, dude. 2006 was pretty shitty for me too so I decided that I was going to come out this year. It would put my mind at ease and plus, since my birthday is on new years day, my 21st year would be one of changes and openness.

However, I haven't told anyone in the past week. I've come really close to telling one person until she started asking me if I was gay--and then I denied it!

So, I'm thinking she knows because she's dropping hints about how she loves gay guys, it would be fine, etc. but I'm still very nervous.

I would say tell him and the girls that you work with. Apparently they already suspect so what would it hurt?

I'm going to try and follow my own advice as well!

Good luck.
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I agree, tell them if they suspect.

If you're struggling to come out, best way is to blank your mind as you're about to say it. Basically, just stop thinking and say it. Don't just blurt it out, though. That's hard. Just as good, but harder. Best bet is to get into a deep discussion, and then you can just keep talking and eventually have it come out with what you're saying. I'm not sure if I make any sense. Ways to use psychology on yourself always look a bit weird written down.
 
Ryder, sounds like people are already talking about you, so why not just come out and be happy? With regard to the 17 year old, as I recall Canada's age of consent is 14, except for anal sex which is 18. I also believe the anal sex law has been declared unconstitutional in federal courts, but is still on the books. I'm no expert on this, so my advice is worth about what you paid for it. If I'm correct, then there is no reason not to pursue the 17 year old. If I'm wrong, then you can always pursue a friendship/dating and save the sex for a few months. Do you know when he turns 18? Good luck!
 
vetteboi said:
Ryder, sounds like people are already talking about you, so why not just come out and be happy? With regard to the 17 year old, as I recall Canada's age of consent is 14, except for anal sex which is 18. I also believe the anal sex law has been declared unconstitutional in federal courts, but is still on the books. I'm no expert on this, so my advice is worth about what you paid for it. If I'm correct, then there is no reason not to pursue the 17 year old. If I'm wrong, then you can always pursue a friendship/dating and save the sex for a few months. Do you know when he turns 18? Good luck!
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I'm not an expert but I strongly believe it is illegal to have gay sex with a minor in this country

Two minors are okay but an adult with a minor is jailbait
 
well my bf was 22 when i was 17 and a year later am 18 hes 23 so it makes no difference
 
Feel free to start a friendship with him. Feel free to start ane motional relationship with him. But until he's 18, do NOT feel free to start a physical relationship with him.
 
um, it would have been much better just to ask him out to begin with.

that was stupid...but also not totally your fault...nobody made him drink and smoke. You supplied it, so you are partially to blame, but that doesn't mean it wasn't his fault too.

Hope you can salvage things, but it looks like a tough situation.
 
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